Building Antifragile Relationships and Teams v1.5

Building Antifragile Relationships and Teams v1.5

What does it mean to build antifragile relationships and teams? Teams and organizations, at least successful ones, are based on relationships that "work." Often we say we want 'strong' or 'good' relationships, but is 'strong' good enough? We will look at ways you can identify if the foundation of your team relationship is fragile or antifragile. Then we will work with a number of approaches and tools to help you create or expand on the foundation of an antifragile for your team.

Help your team (or organization) move towards a space where your relationships and therefore teams can thrive. We will consider how to build an alliance with a team and how to setup, in advance, to deal with potential conflicts. We will also explore a number of common issues contributing to toxic team situations. Antifragile is not an endpoint. Like agile, it is a journey and mindset. The ideas we will explore are not just about "them", but are about "us" first. We have to start with us. What can WE bring to the table and what can WE do or be. Expect to work individually and with others in this interactive workshop.

#agile coaching, #antifragile relationships, #orsc, #professional coaching, #systems coaching, #team toxins


Jake Calabrese

May 14, 2015


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  2. Hi

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  4. @jcalabrese Building Antifragile Relationships and Teams

  5. Jake Calabrese Enterprise Agile Systems Coach & Agile Trainer Organization

    & Relationship Systems Certified Systems Coach (ORSCC). Contact Information • • Twitter: @jcalabrese • Agile Safari: • • @jcalabrese
  6. @jcalabrese What is Agile About?

  7. @jcalabrese Agile Manifesto We are uncovering better ways of developing

    software by doing it and helping others do it.
  8. @jcalabrese Agile Manifesto We are uncovering better ways of developing

    software doing complex stuff by doing it and helping others do it.
  9. What is the opposite of fragile?

  10. Antifragile

  11. Team Relationship Antifragile Fragile

  12. Time Fragile Antifragile

  13. Team Relationship Antifragile Team Relationship Fragile Team Relationship Team Relationship

    Team Relationship
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  15. Time Team Relationship Fragile Antifragile

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  17. Antifragile Team Relationship Fragile What are you doing TODAY that’s

    moving you to a more fragile position?
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  19. Antifragile Fragile Time Team Relationship

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  21. What potential options exist to move you to a more

    antifragile position… Antifragile Team Relationship Fragile
  22. Why Care?

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  25. A Few Tools • Conflict Protocol • Team Toxin Self-Awareness

    • Team Alliance
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  27. Working Agreement - Be on time - Daily Standup is

    at 930am - Respect everyone - Be prepared for planning - Fog a mirror Behavioral focus. Does the team actually buy in?
  28. Team Alliance 1. Behavioral Agreements 2. Shared Responsibility 3. Creating

    Team Atmosphere
  29. Team Alliance Questions 1. What can you be counted on

    for? 2. How will we know it’s working? 3. When I assume you are stressed, how would you like me to ask you about it? 4. How will I know when you are stuck?
  30. Team Toxins

  31. T e a m T o x i n s

    Stonewalling Blaming Defensiveness Contempt
  32. Stonewalling  Withdrawal  Disengagement  Avoidance Blaming  Harsh

    Start-up  Bullying  Domination Defensiveness  Not open to influence  Refusal to take responsibility  Not support or safe Contempt  Personal Attack  Eye rolling  Disrespectful Choose
  33. PLEASE… Remember… Toxins are Normal. Toxins are never an excuse

    to tolerate discrimination! Diagnose yourself, NOT others.

  35. A n t i d o t e s Stonewalling

     Transparency  Mediation  Professional Coaching  Responsibility process Blaming  Feed Forward  Curiosity  Soft Start up  COIN Defensiveness  Curiosity  2% Truth  Responsibility process Contempt  Personal development & coaching  Emotional intelligence  Respectful comm.
  36. Conflict is a sign of what?

  37. Conflict Protocol 1. How do you want to be when

    someone violates the Team Alliance? 2. What will you do? Your team? 3. When conflict occurs, what behaviors do you want to model? Not model?
  38. Consider a relationship or team Where are YOU on the

  39. Antifragile Fragile Time

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  41. Antifragile Fragile Time

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  43. Exercise What is one activity you can stop doing today?

    What is one activity you can start doing today? Think about this on your own; Share Out
  44. Learning More I’ll have a free virtual session on this

    topic to dig in deeper and answer more questions! If you are interested in that OR just articles, training, and more information on the topic, please visit: for links, slides, articles, AND to sign-up for the virtual session!