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Hacking Your Emotional APIv2.9

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@emotionalAPI John Sawers Engineering Manager at Privia Health @emotionalapi @johnksawers http://emotionalapi.com he/his/him

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“Emotions just make so much sense to me” — No One Ever

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@emotionalAPI • Cry • Make a Scene • Whine • Yell Don’t

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@emotionalAPI Do • • • •

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@emotionalAPI We’re on our own

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Endpoints @emotionalAPI

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Middleware @emotionalAPI delete /job/12 put /events/mother/visit put /baby/new post /people/co-worker/insult get /people/boss/compliment /feels/sadness
 /feels/anger
 /feels/fear
 /feels/anger
 /feels/pride Senses Wetware Inputs

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Middleware @emotionalAPI delete /job/12 put /events/mother/visit put /baby/new post /people/co-worker/insult get /people/boss/compliment /feels/love
 /feels/anger
 /feels/fear
 /feels/shame
 /feels/pride Senses Wetware Inputs

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Methods delete '/job/:id'
 100.times do
 Thread.new(post('/feels/fear')
 end
 20.times do
 Thread.new(post('/feels/sadness')
 end
 end @emotionalAPI

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@emotionalAPI A Public API The Bad News

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Decomposability @emotionalAPI

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“But feelings are icky, and I don’t wanna” — You, probably

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“Trying not to feel something doesn’t work, and in some cases even backfires” David Rock Your Brain At Work[11]

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@emotionalAPI Coding Solo

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems • Poorer Executive Function [1]

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems • Poorer Executive Function [1] • Poorer Short Term Memory [2]

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems • Poorer Executive Function [1] • Poorer Short Term Memory [2] • Lower ability to handle stress and cope with crisis [3]

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive & Health Benefits • “…not just in improved behavior but in measurable academic achievement.”[5] • “…measurable health advantage”[9]

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@emotionalAPI Coding Together

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive & Social Benefits • “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.”[7]

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive & Social Benefits • “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.”[7] • Better career advancement[8]

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@emotionalAPI Cognitive & Social Benefits • “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.”[7] • Better career advancement[8] • Less self-centered [4] • Empathy!

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@emotionalAPI "It wasn't enough to merely be a good engineer at Valve. If you were a good engineer with zero communication skills your chances at surviving and thriving when I was there were pretty low. If you acted like an asshole and didn't have many friends it didn't matter how good you were or how awesome your accomplishments were. People like this would be fired sooner or later." - Rich Geldreich https://richg42.blogspot.com/2017/09/things-learned-while-running-your-own.html

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Scenarios

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@emotionalAPI Degraded Cognition

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@emotionalAPI Advocate for Ideas

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@emotionalAPI Code Reviews

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@emotionalAPI Distraction

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@emotionalAPI Problematic Teammates

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@emotionalAPI Impostor Syndrome

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@emotionalAPI Interviewed, Hired, Fired

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@emotionalAPI Manage & Mentor

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http://frontside.io/ Senior Software Developer

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Toolkit

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@emotionalAPI Level 1: Conceptual Tools Level 2: On Your Own Level 3: With Someone Else Level 4: With a Group

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@emotionalAPI Level 1 Conceptual Tools

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@emotionalAPI You Control The Implementation

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@emotionalAPI You can control where and when you express your feelings (But you don’t have to)

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@emotionalAPI get('/feels/anger').perform_later

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@emotionalAPI They Don’t Mean Anything

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@emotionalAPI Fear of Loss of Control

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@emotionalAPI Feelings are Enumerable, not Boolean Anger Disgust Shame

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@emotionalAPI There Is No Should

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@emotionalAPI Emotional Debt

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@emotionalAPI “Even if it feels bad, it’s ok to let it feel bad. Eventually you’ll stop feeling bad because feelings just don’t last very long” Amy Cuddy Presence[13]

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@emotionalAPI Level 2 On Your Own

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@emotionalAPI Move Your Body

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@emotionalAPI Move Your Body Dancing • Singing • Exercise

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@emotionalAPI Rubber Duck Debugging

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@emotionalAPI “…consciously recognizing the emotions reduced their impact.” David Rock Your Brain At Work[10]

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@emotionalAPI Yup, talking

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@emotionalAPI The Feel Wheel[12]

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@emotionalAPI “I feel” vs. “I am”

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@emotionalAPI Emotional Retro

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@emotionalAPI Level 3 With Another Person

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@emotionalAPI Again, Talking

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@emotionalAPI Feel first

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@emotionalAPI Bring In A Consultant

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@emotionalAPI Level 4 With A Group

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@emotionalAPI How did I get here? “…an intensive 20-hr Weekend Retreat in which you will explore your erroneous belief systems, learn to appropriately express emotions in a manner that heals…” Purpose • Passion • Peace http://aliceamos.me/p3retreat/

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GET /feels/

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@emotionalAPI delete /v5/parents/marriage
 
 post /v6/parents/:dad_id/set_emotional_distance/1000
 
 post /v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer
 
 delete /v17/parents/:dad_id

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@emotionalAPI /v5 delete /v5/parents/marriage do
 20.times.do {
 Thread.new(get('/feels/fear'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/blame'))
 }
 delete('/feels/self_worth')
 end

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@emotionalAPI /v8 post /v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer do
 20.times.do {
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/fear'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end

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@emotionalAPI /v17 def /v17/parents/:dad_id do
 1000.times.do {
 Thread.new(post('/v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer'))
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/anger'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end

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@emotionalAPI Narrator: It did not blow over

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@emotionalAPI Stack Trace NoMethodError - undefined method `paternal_approval’ for BossClass: /me/feels/panic.rb:9:in `initialize' /me/feels/love/daddy:14:in `none_for_you’ /me/feels/fear/mistake/guaranteed_to_be_fired:21:in `realize_mistake’ /me/events/releases/prod/bug_count/metrics.rb:39:in `count_bugs’

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@emotionalAPI Stack Trace NoMethodError - undefined method `paternal_approval’ for BossClass: /me/feels/panic.rb:9:in `initialize' /me/feels/love/daddy:14:in `none_for_you’ /me/feels/fear/mistake/guaranteed_to_be_fired:21:in `realize_mistake’ /me/events/releases/prod/bug_count/metrics.rb:39:in `count_bugs’

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“Crying doesn’t indicate you are weak, since birth it has always been a sign to indicate you are alive” — attributed to Charlotte Brontë

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@emotionalAPI /v17 def /v17/parents/:dad_id do
 1000.times.do {
 Thread.new(post('/v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer'))
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/anger'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end

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@emotionalAPI Diff def /v17/parents/:dad_id do
 1000.times.do { 500.times.do {
 Thread.new(post('/v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer'))
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/anger'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end

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@emotionalAPI Diff get /me/events/releases/prod/bugs/count_high do
 Thread.new(get('/feels/unloved'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/panic'))
 puts 'oops'
 fix_it
 move_on
 end

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@emotionalAPI Baggage

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@emotionalAPI The Ultimate Goal

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Soft Skills Super Hard Skills

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@emotionalAPI Best Practices

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@emotionalAPI Pick One Thing

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@emotionalAPI Compassion

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DEEP BREATH

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@emotionalAPI Thank You So Much Slides: https://speakerdeck.com/johnksawers/hacking-your-emotional-api-v2-dot-6-oscon Videos: http://emotionalapi.com Twitter: @emotionalAPI Come get a feel wheel!

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@emotionalAPI References [1],[2] “…a lack of power impairs our cognitive function.’ Amy Cuddy, Presence 119 [3] “In fact, people who have a high sense of personal control…cope significantly better in crisis…because their executive functions are intact” Amy Cuddy, Presence, 136 [4] “Powerlessness makes us self-absorbed” Amy Cuddy, Presence 121 [5] “Helping children improve their self-awareness and confidence, manage their disturbing emotional impulses and increase their empathy pays off not just in improved behavior but in measurable academic achievement.” — Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence xi [6] “The [people who feel] powerful process information more abstractly, integrating information to extract the gist, detecting patterns and relationships” Smith, P.K., Dijkterhuis, A, & Wigbuldus, D.H. Psychology Science, 19, 1258-1259 [7] “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.” Amy Cuddy, Presence 127 [8] “…having high leadership potential were far stronger in EI competencies…” Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence xiii [9] “Those who can mange their emotional lives with more calm and self-awareness … have … distinct and measurable health advantage … confirmed by many studies” Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence xi [10] “…when they were asked to name the emotion, the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex activated and reduced the emotional amygdala reactivity. In other words, consciously recognizing the emotions reduced their impact.” David Rock, Your Brain At Work 127 [11] Gross found that people who tried to suppress a negative emotional experience failed to do so. While they thought they looked fine outwardly, inwardly their limbic system was just as aroused as without suppression. Trying not to feel something doesn’t work, and in some cases even backfires. David Rock, Your Brain At Work 119 [12] The Feeling Wheel http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/036215378201200411