GROWING YOUR HAPPINESS
Three Ways to Grow
Your Happiness In Meetings
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executive coach VP Engr/co-founder
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1. Plan for success
2. Create psychological safety
3. Ask for feedback on facilitation
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1. Plan for success
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If this meeting is successful,
what will the outcome be?
Will the right people be in the room?
Are the decision-maker & processes clear?
Should you talk to anyone beforehand?
If this meeting fails, why?
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How much preparation?
A room full of 10
engineers for 1hr
=
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2. Create psychological safety
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Google Project Aristotle (2012)
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http://www.nytimes.com/2016/02/28/magazine/what-google-learned-from-its-quest-to-build-the-perfect-team.html
Conversational turn-taking
High social sensitivity
Successful teams had only TWO shared traits
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Turned out, psychological safety was the
best predictor of successful teams.
Teams will not embarrass, reject, or
punish someone for speaking up.
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UCLA Social Cognitive Neuroscience Lab (2008)
Matthew Lieberman & Naomi Eisenberger
http://www.scn.ucla.edu/pdf/Pains&Pleasures(2008).pdf
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registers social AND physical pain
Bodyparts 3D/The Database Center for Life Science
Dorsal anterior cingulate cortex
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The workplace is a
SOCIAL SYSTEM
(even for engineers)
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Ohhh… You don’t know ?
That’s a dumb idea.
Why would you want to do it *that* way?
*laughs*
*rolls eyes*
Tone = contempt, impatience
Engineering Microaggressions
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Talk about psychological safety in your team.
Reframe difficult statements in meetings.
Speak for people who might not feel safe in public.
“It’s OK not to know things, as long as you’re willing to learn”
Include teaching/mentoring in your career ladder.
Model not knowing *yourself*.
What You Can Do as a Leader
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3. Ask for feedback on facilitation
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http://startuphappiness.com
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