Module 4 - Part 2: 3 step process Wed, 4/27 9:28AM 5:00 SUMMARY KEYWORDS write, brain, empty space, appointment, calendar, unfinished tasks, talk, today, longer, method, notes, tomorrow, patterns, check, plan, remind, emergency, habit, pick, vomiting SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there, Mama. Welcome back to Module Four, we're on part two, we just talked about step one, where we write everything down, when we get a new. When we make a new commitment, we have a new event going on, we have an appointment, we write it down, like in that space, everything that we need to know. Patricia Sung 00:16 And then step two is to do it immediately immediate action, we want to accept the where Marines are. And I will sit and be like, oh, yeah, I'll write that down later. No, I won't do it. Either. I'm not gonna remember, or I'll forget, or the same thing, or later on be like, wait was that? Wouldn't it make it for 1030 or 40? I won't remember. And that's okay. Our brain has poor working memory as part of our executive functioning. And we're using this calendar as a physical support to circumvent the fact that we don't have a great working memory, this is our brain, on paper or digitally. So we want to make sure that we put all the input in right away. Patricia Sung 00:57 So as soon as you make that appointment, or as soon as you get the school calendar, you're going to write these appointments in immediately, it does become a habit after time, I promise, eventually, your brain will get used to that. But it does take a while. Or it's not like this magical 21 day thing that people always say, for ADHD brains, especially, it's going to take us much longer. So we're so we're committing to do this for at least 60 days, if not longer. I'd love the three minutes three month commitment, but it will start to seep into your usual patterns. It does take time. Patricia Sung 01:30 Now, things always come up in mrotherhood. What happens if somebody starts vomiting or

hitting someone else? While you're trying to do this, it happens, I want you to think of one way that you are going to use as your emergency backup plan of okay, disaster striking. How am I gonna make sure that this gets into my calendar? And that depends on what method you choose, and just how your brain already functions. Patricia Sung 01:54 I don't want you to invent a new method, I want you to think of a way that's going to make sense with what you're already doing. Can you scribble it on a post it note and stick it on the page of your calendar? So that next time you look at it? You're like, oh, right, I need to write down that dentist appointment? Or can you text yourself or email yourself? Can you tell Siri or Alexa to remind you? Can you write it in your checking block, which we're gonna talk about in a second? Do you want to use like, if you use the Google Suite, you know, the keep notes, you can set a reminder to go off at a certain time or a location like when you arrive home and online, you Hey, write down my dentist's appointment there. Patricia Sung 02:27 The way that you pick, I want you to make sure it's something that is, like easy for you that makes sense in the way that you already do things. But we're only going to pick one method, because otherwise we get into that overwhelm of do I need, I got check posted notes and my phone and this and that is too much for our brains. I'm keeping it simple. Oh, come on here. There we go. Patricia Sung 02:50 Now step three is a daily check in somewhere during the day, the second half. So either in the afternoon or in five minutes. Again, we're bundling this with something that you already do, we're going to set aside about five minutes. Now it may take a little bit more at the start, like as you're building this habit. But I want you to have this, like, check in with yourself. Did I write everything down today? Patricia Sung 03:13 Follow up on your emergency plan, whichever one you pick to make sure everything's on there. And then you take a moment and look at tomorrow, find any conflicts that you have? Did you count for your book ends before and after things. This is also a good time to move any unfinished tasks that are not going to get accomplished today and figure out where are you going to do those? Are they going to tomorrow? Or are they going into the future list to set your top three to do items for tomorrow. And also making sure that we left some empty space. Let's don't honor optimism. Patricia Sung 03:43 And so one of our best features that we always think that we can do more than we can in the time that we have in Sardinia to drink. And so we want to give ourselves that buffer space

time that we have in Sardinia to drink. And so we want to give ourselves that buffer space because we do think that we can do so much. And it's not going to take us as long as it actually will. So we leave ourselves in that empty space. So that way when things do take longer, because they will, that we have that space in our day to wrap up with those and we're not, you know panicking because we didn't get that thing done. And we'll talk a lot more about this in the rhythms class and creating this empty space and you know, the patterns that make our life smoother. But I want you to start thinking about that now because it's in something that you can apply as we go. Patricia Sung 04:35 Now, your activity for today. Super quick, just one in five minutes, is think about when you can do your daily check in bundle with something already do. Try it. If that time doesn't work. We'll experiment with a different one. And choose your emergency plan. Where is the place that you're going to keep those things? And, of course plan for when you don't watch the video next, remind yourself why and high five you're doing great