5-6 When Should I Tackle The Next Anchor_ - TMM Module 5 Mon, 3/21 9:03PM 2:51 SUMMARY KEYWORDS routines, rhythms, tackle, kids, puzzle, trial, building, lunchtime, complete, module, successful, focus, change, frustrated, exact same, sense, solid, computer, frustration, centered SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there successful mama. Welcome back to Module Five. And I want to just run through a few things about building these rhythms and routines that I think is helpful to know as you're starting to create these patterns. Patricia Sung 00:15 One, when we're building our routines, I'm in my head here. And when we're tackling, when we're ready to tackle the next one, you'll know because you feel pretty good about the one that you're doing. It doesn't have to be perfect. It doesn't need to be like it's finished. And it's the complete wonderful version, and it's never going to change, right? You can do a few things around lunch, when you feel good about that, no, wait, this is working for me, this first trial one makes sense, then you can move on to a different one. Patricia Sung 00:42 It's just like when you work on a puzzle, you don't have to complete this whole section before you can move on into another section of the puzzle. You want it to be like, solid enough that you like are gaining confidence and you feel successful before you start tackling something else. Because I asked you to pick the easiest one, I don't want you to start picking the hardest one, I don't be like I got this one sort of, I'm gonna go try the really, really hard one. Because I think that's more important right now. Like, no, don't try to tackle the hard one first, okay, and we want to feel good about this one. And then we're going to work our way up to the more difficult ones. Patricia Sung 01:18 Um, remember that they don't, the routines and rhythms don't have to be in the exact same 

Um, remember that they don't, the routines and rhythms don't have to be in the exact same order, you can tailor it to you, you can mix it up if you want, or you can keep it in the exact same order, whatever makes sense for you. And again, like I mentioned earlier, always focus on you first. You can control you, and no one else I know, I wish we could, you know, control our kids sometimes or our spouses. But that's not how it works. You are only in control of you. So when we're working on these rhythm machines, it's about what you can do and making sure it works for you, and that you are building those skills and your family will follow. Like, we'll worry about that later. Right now. It's about you, and what does the routine make sense for you? Your family will get on board eventually. Patricia Sung 02:02 But we can't try to teach them how to do something that we don't know how to do. And also that's just going to make them frustrated because right now we're in a trial and error process. We don't know what's gonna work, right. So we want to make sure that it's things that are more centered on us because we don't want to tell the kids like and this is what you're going to do at lunchtime. And then in two days, we realize that didn't work and now we have a new routine and now you're telling kids wait, this is what we're doing. Because it's gonna change a lot. So we want to make sure that you've got your pieces set first, before we bring everyone else in to you know, try to limit the the frustration on their end. So focus on you first. And next thing is up come on computer. Let's give it a second to catch up.