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@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas From the moment I could talk, I was ordered to listen Photo by Marek Piwnicki on Unsplash

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Patriarchy Patriarchy is a social system in which positions of dominance and privilege are held by men. The term patriarchy is used both in anthropology to describe a family or clan controlled by the father or eldest male or group of males, and in feminist theory to describe a broader social structure in which men as a group dominate women and children. Patriarchy literally means "the rule of the father" coming from greek https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patriarchy

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Patriarchy Patriarchy is a social system in which positions of dominance and privilege are held by men. The term patriarchy is used both in anthropology to describe a family or clan controlled by the father or eldest male or group of males, and in feminist theory to describe a broader social structure in which men as a group dominate women and children. traditional (conservative) male roles dominate individuals who do not conform to these established norms. Patriarchy literally means "the rule of the father" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patriarchy

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas From the moment I could talk, I was ordered to listen “This is not only about the physical act of listening” Photo by Marek Piwnicki on Unsplash

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Psychotherapist - Sigmund Freud !! Very reductionistic !! Very sexist (and a lot more that is wrong….) Freud’s Iceberg

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas The Iceberg Model of Culture. Anthropologist - Edward T. Hall

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Humans are animals suspended in webs of significance they themselves have spun. - Clifford Geertz Symbols are the basis of culture. A symbol is an object, word, or action that stands for something else with no natural relationship that is culturally defined. Everything one does throughout their life is based and organized through cultural symbolism. Symbolism is when something represents abstract ideas or concepts. Some good examples of symbols/symbolism would be objects, figures, sounds, and colors. Culture is based on symbols https://socialsci.libretexts.org/Bookshelves/Anthropology/Cultural_Anthropology/Cultural_Anthropology_(Evans)/02%3A_Culture/2.11%3A_Symbols_and_Culture

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Psychotherapist - Carl Jung * A “tad” Spiritual…. The collective Unconsciousness shared among beings of the same species

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas https://vimeopro.com/newcrafts/newcrafts/video/342450313 “Male domination is so rooted in our collective unconscious that we no longer even see it.” ― Pierre Bourdieu

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Patriarchy reinforces our collective unconscious and preserves symbols of patriarchal power. Photo by Ricardo Gomez Angel on Unsplash

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas But how does that impact software design?

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas John Cutler - https://amplitude.com/blog/journey-to-product-teams-infographic

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Team first!

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@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas What can possibly go wrong?

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@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas We are losing valuable knowledge A …. A A A A A A How is my cat doing? I know it is B A! A, B or C? What about 42? Could be A AND B

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Patriarchy influences who and what can be discussed, thereby affecting the knowledge that is incorporated into our software design. Photo by Ihor Malytskyi on Unsplash

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas https://spr.com/women-in-tech-statistics/ & https://www.womentech.net/women-in-tech-stats & https://www.strongdm.com/blog/women-in-tech-statistics

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@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash Belief in and advocacy of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes expressed especially through organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests.

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by chloe s. on Unsplash "Quotas, without changes to the patriarchal system, can compel individuals who do not conform to typical patriarchal norms to adopt such behaviors, thus failing to deliver the diverse perspectives they bring."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas "Changing the norm is challenging without the involvement of those who define it. For those who exist outside these norms, life can feel like an endless game of Dungeons and Dragons —constantly navigating a labyrinth and conforming to societal expectations just to lead the life they desire."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas https://carey.jhu.edu/articles/allyship-gender-equity-work - Smith, David G. (2023). “Men As the Missing Ingredient in Gender Equity: An Allyship Research Agenda.” In A Research Agenda for Gender and Leadership edited by L. Defrank-Cole and S. Tan. Cheltenham, UK: Edward Elgar Publishing A recent study offers a different approach, proposing that men as allies …. are the missing ingredient in achieving gender equity…… organizations should cultivate workplace cultures that value and encourage allyship behaviors intentionally…. ● Disclaimer: While male allyship is needed, it's important that these efforts support and amplify leadership and experiences of minorities, contributing to equitable outcomes rather than centering ally actions or heroic narratives.

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas eMANcipate for Men

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash Once upon a time…..

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Role Theory

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Marl Clevenger on Unsplash Someone raised as a boy Usually feel they have two options: Be a Men, or be Gay There are not enough options to relate to

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas How roles get stuck

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash Role fluidity "The aim to achieve the awareness and safety needed to move fluidly between roles as circumstances change."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Process oriented psychology (psychotherapy) https://www.aamindell.net/process-work Uses awareness to track psychological and physical processes that illuminate and possibly resolve inner, relationship, team, and world issues. Arnold and Amy Mindell

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash “What about masculinity? Do you know how much femininity man lacks for completeness? You seek the feminine in women and the masculine in men. And thus there are always only men and women. But where are people? - Carl Jung

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash Facilitating role fluidity: A Role is larger than a Person

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Asking diverging questions "When discussing solutions, identify the need and ask, 'Who can sort of relate to this need?' To incorporate more perspectives into the group consciousness, inquire further: 'Who sees it differently?'"

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Johannes Plenio on Unsplash “The larger goal of Deep Democracy is not me changing you and you changing me. But we learning how to relate.” - Arnold mindell

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash Facilitating role fluidity: A Person is more than a role

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Give more focus to minority roles that speak up Minority roles are often projected one specific role. When they voice their opinions, they are typically ignored or ridiculed, either consciously or unconsciously. Use your influence to amplify these roles, encouraging the group to listen, truly understand and engage with their perspectives."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Johannes Plenio on Unsplash Harmony is a wonderful thing, but not nearly as powerful as awareness. - Arnold mindell

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash Facilitating role fluidity: Postpone asking for (strong) opinions when discussing design, first create awareness and role fluidity

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Impromptu networking "At the start of the design session, begin with an impromptu networking check-in. Have participants interview each other, switching partners every 5-8 minutes. Use facts and needs as questions for the interview, and steer away from questions that are opinions and solutions."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Johannes Plenio on Unsplash “We must be able to identify all the parts in a system and allow them to speak. All the parts in a group, even those we do not like or believe to be useless, must be present and supported.” - Arnold mindell

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash Facilitating role fluidity: "Conflicts indicate that new roles are seeking to emerge and serve as catalysts for increased group awareness."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Resolve conflicts in the process of the group "Resolve every conflict within the group, regardless of whether it involves just two people, as it is integral to the group process. Unmanaged conflicts can cause breakdowns in communication, loss of context, polarization, and ultimately, war or separation."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Johannes Plenio on Unsplash Leadership is a group project, and all of us are necessary to fill it. Wise leaders will realize this and encourage their groups to develop their own evolving leadership potential. - Arnold mindell

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Greg Rosenke on Unsplash Circle of shame and suppression "From a young age, boys are often taught to feel ashamed of emotions and roles deemed non-masculine, leading them to suppress these feelings. This early lesson in suppression can make it easier for them to suppress others in life."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Watch out for the edge!

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Jez Timms on Unsplash “Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.” “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” - Carl Jung

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Matheo JBT on Unsplash "The realization from people that are profiting from this system can be confrontational." Try not to be hard on yourself, because you can easily fall into that circle of shame and oppression

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Photo by Long Phan on Unsplash “Just because you benefit from the system doesn't mean you're bad, wrong, or lacking in hard work or intelligence."

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas We need more fluid role models.

@kenny.weave-itorg /in/kenny-baas Understanding the Barriers: Recognizing the systemic biases and challenges individuals/minorities who are not “of” the patriarchy face. Developing Allyship Skills: Learning specific behaviors like active listening, amplifying minority voices, challenging sexism (both overt and subtle), giving credit appropriately, and mentoring/sponsoring minorities. ● Disclaimer: While male allyship is needed, it's important that these efforts support and amplify leadership and experiences of minorities, contributing to equitable outcomes rather than centering ally actions or heroic narratives. Overcoming Hesitation: Addressing common concerns men have about intervening or speaking up. The Business Case: Highlighting how gender equality benefits everyone and improves organizational performance. In Summary

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