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My secret is honesty Laura Kalbag @laurakalbag laurakalbag.com

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I can be a bit useless, but I’m honest

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What is honesty?

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being honest not being dishonest

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openness being honest not being dishonest

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honesty

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honesty

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honesty honesty openness

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!#@§%!

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Where I’m open

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laurakalbag.com/blog

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24ways.org/2012/design-systems/

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How I’m open

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and I’m sharing right now…

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it wasn’t a conscious decision…

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“How come you’re ok with sharing that stuff?”

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Examples of my openness

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laurakalbag.com/bardowl-the-big-one

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laurakalbag.com/women-and-conferences

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laurakalbag.com/we-read-with-our-own-contexts

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laurakalbag.com/burnout

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Not always work-related, but me-related

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Why I’m open

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naïvety

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encourages others to do the same

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being nice feels good

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I’m not a brand, I’m a person

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I build trust and my reputation, not a brand

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I’ve got nothing to hide

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nobody is perfect

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It’s not that I don’t care what people think of me (I really do)

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I don’t want to work with someone who doesn’t like me

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I can learn more I can improve

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If we can’t admit we don’t know everything, we’ll never learn anything

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it’s compulsive

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oversharing

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the response is worthwhile

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if you have a problem, people will try to help you

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if you are suffering, people will empathise

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people will understand you, they will get to know you

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it just seems to work…

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Who’s affected by my openness?

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my friends and family

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clients

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be respectful, be polite

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Why openness helps my business

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I don’t assume I know everything

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if I don’t know, I’ll ask

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transparency and trust builds friendships

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understanding more about you makes people feel that they know you

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IRL

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clients know what they’re getting

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they can trust me to be honest and work hard

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“empathy starts with vulnerability” the-pastry-box-project.net/sara-wachter-boettcher/2013-march-2013/

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putting up a front doesn’t just distance you from your own emotions, but from other people’s the-pastry-box-project.net/sara-wachter-boettcher/2013-march-2013/

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when your job is to understand people’s problems, you can’t afford to be numb the-pastry-box-project.net/sara-wachter-boettcher/2013-march-2013/

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“professionally vulnerable” Sara Wachter-Boettcher

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What happens when it goes wrong

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1. accidentally say something which isn’t true (without checking first)

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2. being overemotional or overreacting

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3. being unkind or rude to others

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you probably don’t mean it…

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just keep telling the truth

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admit your mistakes

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apologise

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don’t worry about making yourself look good, worry about doing the right thing

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remember that you are human

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How to start being open

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1. admit the next mistake you make

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2. don’t try too hard to be professional, just try to be good

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honesty, hardwork and reliability

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3. keep your criticism constructive

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#fail

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4. keep reminding yourself that you’re human

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“fail forward” Aza Raskin

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Laura Kalbag @laurakalbag