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@BERMONPAINTER

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HUMANS HOPES. DREAMS. FEELINGS.

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HUMANS COMPLICATED.

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LIZARD BRAIN PRE-HISTORIC HOLDOVER

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PHYSIOLOGICAL SAFETY BELONGING SELF-ESTEEM COGNITIVE AESTHETIC SELF-ACTUALIZATION TRANSCENDENCE

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PHYSIOLOGICAL SAFETY BELONGING SELF-ESTEEM COGNITIVE AESTHETIC SELF-ACTUALIZATION TRANSCENDENCE

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PHYSIOLOGICAL SAFETY BELONGING SELF-ESTEEM COGNITIVE AESTHETIC SELF-ACTUALIZATION TRANSCENDENCE

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CONFLICT THE BIGGEST PROBLEM IS EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION.

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The single biggest problem in communication is the allusion that is has taken place. – George Bernard Shaw

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CONFLICT FIGHT OR FLIGHT

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EXAMPLES A client asks you to make the logo bigger.

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EXAMPLES A client continually sends you wireframes in Powerpoint and injects solutions to their own problems.

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EXAMPLES A core stakeholder disengages from a project that desperately needs their direct and input.

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EXAMPLES An executive shows a design to their spouse who doesn’t like the colors. The executive then requests that you change the colors to appease their spouse.

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EXAMPLES A teammate isn't pulling their weight on a project.

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EXAMPLES Your product manager is allowing multiple stakeholders to drive the direction of a project causing scope creep that has the potential to cause the project to go over budget and ship late.

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LACK OF CONFLICT HIGH COST. LATE DELIVERY. LOW MORAL.

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SUCCESSFUL CONFLICT CONTENTION ≠ CONFLICT

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The road to real alignment is often paved with conflict. – David Novack

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EFFECTIVE CONFLICT BEING HONEST AND RESPECTFUL

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WE ALLOW OUR LIZARD BRAIN TO CONTROL US WE FAIL BECAUSE

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WE ARE UNPREPARED WE FAIL BECAUSE

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WE MISUNDERSTAND WE FAIL BECAUSE

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WE EMBRACE SELF-DEFEATING BEHAVIOR WE FAIL BECAUSE

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UNDERSTANDING HOW YOU COMMUNICATE FIGHT OR FLIGHT

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FLIGHT

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SARCASM OR SUGARCOATING FLIGHT

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AVOIDING AND SHIFTING FOCUS FLIGHT

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DISENGAGING AND SILENCE FLIGHT

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FIGHT

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FORCING OUR OPINIONS FIGHT

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STEREOTYPING PEOPLE FIGHT

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THREATING AND BELITTLING FIGHT

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LIES WE TELL OURSELF FANTASIES MIXED WITH TRUTH

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IT’S NOT MY FAULT FANTASIES AND LIES

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IT’S YOUR FAULT FANTASIES AND LIES

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THERE’S NOTHING MORE I CAN DO FANTASIES AND LIES

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SHARED UNDERSTANDING USEFUL TECHNIQUES

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HUMANIZE HOPES. DREAMS. FEELINGS.

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TAKE NOTICE BEHAVIORAL CUES

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PHYSICAL CUES SWEATY HANDS, DRY MOUTH/EYES

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EMOTIONAL CUES ANGER, HURT, FEAR

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BEHAVIORAL CUES RAISING VOICE, POINTING FINGERS, GOING SILENT

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USEFUL TECHNIQUES EMBRACING CONFLICT

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JUST THE FACTS USEFUL TECHNIQUES

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MIRRORING USEFUL TECHNIQUES

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PARAPHRASING USEFUL TECHNIQUES

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CONTRASTING USEFUL TECHNIQUES

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