a way to find your balance between you and your needs, the other person and their needs, and the entire context. • If you ignore the needs of the other person, you might blame people. • If you ignore yourself and your needs, you might placate or appease other people • If you ignore all three: yourself, the others, and the context, you act in irrelevant ways • If you don’t think about the whole—self, other, and context—you have a lopsided view of the system. • In management, if you don’t think about yourself, the other people, and the environment, you have a lopsided view of everything: the people you serve, their teams or group, and the organization as a whole.