Sh!t people say because they don’t understand introversion - ALE 2017

How I learnt to appreciate my own introversion and how I explain it to others.

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1. Sh!t people say because they don’t understand introversion Manuel Küblböck
2. Sh!t people say because they don’t understand introversion How I learnt to appreciate my own introversion and how I explain it to others Manuel Küblböck
3. Is it not OK to eat by myself? You poor thing have to eat lunch all by yourself. #1
4. You poor thing have to eat lunch all by yourself. Is it not OK to eat by myself? The fact that I am eating alone doesn’t mean I am lonely. #1
5. Are you sure you are an introvert? You don’t appear to be shy. Do I have to choose? #2
6. Do I have to choose? Networking and meeting new people drains me of energy. That doesn’t mean I am anxious about it. Are you sure you are an introvert? You don’t appear to be shy. #2
7. Is everything OK, you haven’t said much all night? Oh no, I did it wrong again. #3
8. Oh no, I did it wrong again. I don’t feel the need to talk just for the sake of it. Is everything OK, you haven’t said much all night? #3
9. Before I got to know you, I thought you were arrogant. What? Why? #4
10. What? Why? I don’t care about small talk. I do care about other people. Before I got to know you, I thought you were arrogant. #4
11. You hesitated. You don’t like my idea?! Erm... no I do. And I thought I just told you that?! #5
12. Erm... no I do. And I thought I just told you that?! Me taking time to contemplate what you just said, doesn’t mean I have doubts. You hesitated. You don’t like my idea?! #5
13. How can you be a coach, if you are an introvert? Maybe I am not qualified for this?! #6
14. Maybe I am not qualified for this?! My approach to coaching is more about listening and understanding. How can you be a coach, if you are an introvert? #6
15. Do you want to go out to blow off some steam? Hell no! #7
16. Hell no! What I need, is time to myself. You seem unbalanced. Do you want to go out to blow off some steam? #7
17. What my introversion means to me Solitude recharging energy when being alone Thoughtfulness spending a lot of time in my own head Meaning being annoyed by small talk And that’s OK.
18. As opposed to Social feeling energised after spending time with others Gregariousness enjoying interacting with others Politeness making conversation And that’s OK, too. What my introversion means to me Solitude recharging energy when being alone Thoughtfulness spending a lot of time in my own head Meaning being annoyed by small talk And that’s OK.
19. someone makes one of these remarks towards you, stop questioning your own feelings and explain how the situation actually feels to you. you feel the need to make one of these remarks towards someone else, consider if you are projecting your feelings on them and try to enquire without assumptions. Next time ...
20. Manuel Küblböck Quiet by Susan Cain Introvert Doodles by Marzi Medium post with less presuming inquiries that I would prefer over the remarks above at bit.ly/manuel-introversion