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Benaz Irani - The power of ‘No’: Confessions of a former people pleaser

Benaz Irani - The power of ‘No’: Confessions of a former people pleaser

Like many women, I was wired to believe that if I was helpful, I’d get ahead. We people please so as not to cause conflict, not rock the boat. But when we say 'Yes' to others, we're really saying 'No' - 'No' to our own well-being, self-esteem and perhaps even our careers. What we sometimes fail to realize is that the power of saying 'No' is what makes us stand out - and in a good way!

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April 28, 2022
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 52 me ime , e eciall ea l in ca ee , hink an d e e hing e h b hi i a ing hi i e all a im an . L f n mbe - elling. I did a li le bi f e ea ch b in gene al I a n' i ed hen I f nd hi a i ic ha a e a d ne and f all he men and men maj i f he men e le lea e, n i ing, a e aid, men end be m e em a he ic and h gh f l. Wha d e ha lead ? A I aid can ee in m le I a j d ing m e k e ha me f m c - ke and f m a e 55% f ke ac all a igned men he ea 45% f ha k i a igned men. Wh i ha ? Ob i l f e le lea ing b he e a e he ea n a ell. In gene al a men e end d m e in i ible k. I i n j in k life, e end d m e in i ible k and ma be n n- m i nal k. Ba icall he k ha men ha e been a e i e a n e ha e d ing. And I hink Wa en B ffe a i he be hen he a , "The diffe ence be een cce f l e le and eall cce f l e le i ha eall cce f l e le a n alm e e hing." I' e g ha in m b ain. S fi l a ing n i g ing c ea e f c n hing ha ma e . An he e ha I emembe , le ' ee if I emembe i ell i b S e e J b , "He a , "F c ing i al a ab a ing n ." If hink ab ca ee g al make e a e hi ing hem and if d all f e e ne el e' e e h d make e ha hi g al and a n ack? The he ne hich I eall l e i i i g ing e ec ime beca e ime i a fini e e ce j a I a king la e nigh d ing m k, ha a g ing lead b n and i ' e im an e e ec ime, ene g , b al me, i i g ing
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 54 de k and hel hem. In all he cena i didn' hink m ch and aid e aigh a a bef e hinking a ha me hing eall an ed d ? S he e f m Vane a I f nd ha eall e na ed i h me, "I ne f he m f ndamen al need i f cial c nnec i n and feeling ha e bel ng. Sa ing n feel h ea ening ela i n hi and ha feeling f c nnec edne ." The e a e man ea n h e e le lea e h e a e hing bef e e e en eali e ha i me hing e h ld be d ing. Fi l a men e a e i ed hel igh a a ng age hel he and e ecei e i i e feedback hen e d , hink back high ch l and ge ing g d g ade hel ing m m a nd he h e and i i e m ch in na e a men, e eciall i h cie al e e , be he ca e ake and n e and he e le' need fi . I defini el an a i i c mmendable f hel he in need, I ee i n e ching he k lace he e e hink e h ld a e e e hing ha c me a . The he hing i fea f c nflic . I ill be h ne , ha a me. A a eni de igne back hen I did n an ha e a challenging c n e a i n i h me ne, i a fa ea ie a e . The he hing i e eall d n' an be een a diffic l . Y an kind f be een a he g - e n a k and e eciall a men I hink e ha e e a cie al e e . If e d n' d an hing e ma be e e ed af aid e ill be e e ed a b m d . The he hing i - babl he in e e ing ne i ma be a e ne an ind ca ee , a ing a a de igne , I nde and hi i babl ne f he m challenging ime h back beca e a e ing e elf and make a g d im e i n I nde and ha b I am al g ing c n ince ha hi i al a g ea ime c ea e a g d im e i n a ell. Y ma be e le lea ing and a ing e e e hing beca e an a m i n and e can ee ha all f he ni ie and
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 55 e en me hen I a d ing all f h e hing I a ha a e idence ge m ed he ne le el b m b a i a I am n eall i i i ing m k. A e a e king em el e ha e ace ime f c - ke and manage and e ma be d ing m e han e h ld el j ha e m e a and ela i n hi and be m e c nnec ed i h em l ee . S n I ill g in hing ha can d beca e e le lea ing i ac all - i i a lea ned beha i and f me h ' g en e ha , i ha been a l f ac ice and a l f c n ci eff . He e a e me hing ha I a ed d . Fi l , ne eminde i eall ake ime e nd. Y a e n bliged e nd igh a a . N he e a e diffe en e f e e ha c me in, he e i a e e ha c me in n i e in email and he e e i h me ne a ing n a h lde if he a e in a mee ing. I nde and ha he a e diffe en b he e n e h ld be he ame. Y h ld be eall , like - e eciall hen me ne i a ing n he h lde he e i like an elemen f anic - ma be ha i me. I a e aigh a a ! B ill ead me e hene e me ne' a ked me hing and d n' eall kn if h ld d i n a ing hi , "I'm g ing hink ab i and ge back a he end f he eek." Y a e a ing end f he eek i i gi ing hem a li le bi f imeline b a e n hing f an an e . If l d n' kn ha d j a , "Le me ge back i h nce I check i h m manage ." Y can eall ac ice h e en e and he ne ime me ne a k me d me hing eall ake a ec nd and a k i hi ca ing e , d I ac all ha e ime f i , ha ' he hing like, "Ye , e, I'll d i ." Sa ha e g en a e e f m me ne and he a e ing fig e i i ac all me hing I h ld d . Reall n m fa i e i
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 58 MAGS HANLEY: Q e i n f Bena ? >> I l e ha and I h e i i ...I ha e aff aining hem n i . Beca e i i kill a l f e le d n' ha e ... k lace n i a di ea e ... he k he h ld be d ing ... >> I eak all f , e eciall hen a e ne and he a e hing ini ia i e and a e n e ha can a n . I an ed a k e e men i ning a bi ab f c ime and bl cking ha f he calenda , h ld ec mmend d ing ha hen a e king i h eam in diffe en hel e feed . BENAZ IRANI: I k ac Ame ican ime ne and A alia and I al ed d India a ell. Wi h ha I am e ec i e e m ime. I d a ea l m ning . Tha mean I am e clea m eam I ill be f h d ing he da . I a ed a 7am. I i all ab c mm nica i n. We d e man al in m eam. A e g a a e f e man al ? I i like a d c men ha c mm nica e need , h like k and h like ge feedback and e e eam membe ha ne and i eall c mm nica e need b I' e d ne a calenda k h a ell called de igne calenda , i h he eam and can h b hen e a e g ing f c and ha e mee ing a ell a a eam. >> I i like ...if I'm king in a eg la da I h ld be e nding n f c ing n ha I need f c n. MAGS HANLEY: Remembe Slack i a ickne . Y can a ...
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 59 BENAZ IRANI: One f m de igne i e g d a ec ing he ime. She ill ha e he f c ime and in he calenda i i like, "We ill be l n Slack". >> Like I aid ... e le ld a b k mee ing a 12 'cl ck. Yeah, man, I'm ha ing l nch. I ld be like, "N , ha ' ha I'm d ing" ...a eall g ea a ...Slack ha e e i i . Wha e a d a a de ign eam i elf i e a and en h d e an e a e a a eam, ha i en i nmen and e e e ...de ending n h ha e n an ed k ma be he ill be be e in he m ning, ne da a eek e an d hi and n e e e e F ida f n mee ing . Y need me hing, he e i a half h ca in he af e n n and ha i i , i gi e ha ace k in. >> I' e g a e i n. I find i , I d n' kn if i ' j me, e he la c le f ea a l ea ie a n and I n ice h bec me m e al able a ell beca e in bec me m e eli e i i like, "She' b " b I me ime feel like m d c i i i a - a nd m al e he eam me ime hen he a e a king me e i n and an me I feel like ha i di ec i h m al e , I can hel beca e ha hel m elf-e eem and I hink I need ...ma be ac all n , b a ing n , i d e n' im ac m al e a a eam Pla e . BENAZ IRANI: I hink la ea I had de igne and I a e m ch like being a en i e hei need b he ill a k me e i n and I a in fi e 10 min e I ill be ead f . Making e I fini h m cl ing h gh beca e he migh hink Bena , he i j like ing ab me m ch if he i al a a ailable he a hink ab
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 60 m need . I hink ha ac all ha changed - he i aking a b eak, he i ac all a ing n hing . She i heal hie a ell. >> S i h he f c ime ha a e bl cking , i hin he eam, beca e e can ee calenda ha i fine ...d ing me k, h d manage ha ime i h he ... hen he an e a mee ing l nch ime fi hing in he m ning hen ha e f c ime. BENAZ IRANI: Tha i eall in e e ing and ha i h I am in-h e. MAGS HANLEY: S e e hing I d i in calenda and I ba icall - I am b king - al a b ked and m F ida all b ked and he ef e I a m clien hi i hen e a e a ailable, le ' b k me in a ha in in ime. If e e ne can' hen e can neg ia e an he ime. >> Beca e e a e ing d he ame hing and ha e ne da ha he e i n mee ing and e e ne j f c e n hei k. I i eall challenge beca e e e ne i king n he h ee - 10 diffe en jec a he ame ime. Then he clien a e j g ing e en af e elling hem i i l nch h e can' d hi mee ing a hi in nle i i m , he g , "Then if e d i m ime ill be im ac ed" and hen m ne , "Tha mean e ha e a hem and e d n' an a an m e h d n' d i n ?" I i a diffic l balance, e can' a e n b d i . >> I ag ee m ime i m ne be c m le el h ne . S he clien alen f mee ing I d i ill affec m b m line. S i h he financial c n l anc d ing me hing ha ha a n mbe n i I hink
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 61 eall la ing a he a he a k i h hem hi i h I k i h and hi i h k i h me and hi i he e ec a i n. Wha I f nd eall lidl e ing a lan and b inging hem back ha mee ing b e ha e mee ing e ing h e a e g ing k ge he , aid ld call me n T e da , hi i Wedne da , eall b inging hem back ha imeline a e m ch ime. >> I hink e en like me hing I ha e d ne a ell and m b ' im e i n n h d hi i he ld bl ck he fi half h and la half h f he da . Tha i c n i en . He a , "I bl ck ha beca e ha i m ime ge e led f he da k hing f he ne da ." If de e a el need me I can make ime in ha ace. I i e ing he e ec a i n. I hink al ...calenda he e ill be ime hen i ill be ...b be elf-a a e and c n ci and n make i a habi . Tha ' - ing d ha . >> Sh and ell e and ...b ilding ha ...c ea e ... >> I eall like me f e am le , "I can' ge back i hi eek" b al made a in ha "n " i ill a en ence. Ha e ed n di ec l in a hile and h did ha k? BENAZ IRANI: M e in e nal ela i n hi . Ab l el . I d k i h me ne ha al a need m ime and and ml and l ng - a d c manage a ell - I ha en' aid n a ne d b I ha e been e , e a e i e i h him and e , e h and I ha e been like, "I can' ge hi igh n " and ha ' - I' e al ead aid I'm d ing hi and hi and hen ha i i and if final hing i I' e n nlea hed he f,
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 62 "Wha a e he g ing hink hen I a i ?" Beca e back hen - ha c me back feedback a ell I ed gi e me ne a ca hing and a f eak and hen me g f a alk b n I'm j like, "C l, I j h ed an ni ha I kn m b nda ie , I am being m e a e i e and I d n' e en hink ab i m ch." >> Once a e c nfiden and kn ha ha e made elf al able and he ee a an a e can handle hem m ch be e . Y can a n ... ha ' ha I ha e ...a e ka ? "Yeah, h ?" "Y d n' l k ka ." "Y hink?" ... >> Ha en' ed n a a f ll en ence in a li le hile b i i e hila a ing. MAGS HANLEY: Y e i j dici l . >> ..i i fine, i i ka , ...calling n , and like, "N ", " eall ?" "Oka ." BENAZ IRANI: Y g c mf able d ing ha . >> J c ming back nd a in ha a made in he e di ec i n a hile ag , ne hing ha i ed me i ha I h gh e ld hink I a a bi U ele beca e I c ldn' d ff, I am d ing a l f ff, babl ab e le' h f j b kind f ff. When I a ed ing he b nda ie e le h gh be e f me and m h inc ea ed in hei e e and e en h gh I a d ing le , beca e I a balancing m life i h m j b e le a me a m e al able and me ime e le al a me a d ing m e. I aid n he ef e I m be
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 63 d ing ff. >> Yeah, al a b . (LAUGHTER) BENAZ IRANI: I'm d ing ha . >> I can' emembe ha e e e alking ab b he e a a in a nd d n' need a l gi e f he ea n a n and I had a b n h if I en , "D ha e 10 min e " he ld a , "N , I'm ac all d ing hi igh n and I n' be able gi e m f ll a en i n I'll ha e d i hen." He didn' a l gi e f i b he ld he h and i a , "Oh eah, c l." He ld al a hing like "can j e ea ha ..." I i ef e hing hen me ne' like... BENAZ IRANI: He a h ne . >> (Ina dible) if e le c me me and ...I' e een email b I c ldn' be b he ed an e ing, m e like being a hen ic, like, "A he m men I d n' nde and ha a e a ing." F me I feel like if I d n' h h I am hen n' ge ha an and a he ame ime I ill end ...b he e le I an k i h I an be nded i h a he han ing end m ch ene g ing c n ince ha ha I an d f ... (LAUGHTER) ANNABELLE ROBB: I hel , like I am me ne h ge a ked a l f e i n a n a meb d a , "I ha e n idea ha mean" i i like, "G ea I can alk an he a and e can ge a l i n fa e " he ea if bea a nd he b h - eah, be an a en , and hen I ill finall ge he e.
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 64 >> T an a enc and h ne ... manage he la e i n m elf. >> I d ... MAGS HANLEY: Di ec A ie in he US and he UK and di ec A ie h gh ma k - I' e had n ma k a li a he le female eni in IT and ha ne I hink ha been he ha de ne I feel n I'm f ha , and cl e h ee ea f i , I feel a h gh ha ma k ha g ne and i a ne e a hen ic me b i a defini el ha hing I had n hile I a he e. >> I ha e a e i n ha I lea n ab ...IT eam al ng ide f indi id al ...b e e e - a he hea f hi ...magic beca e bef e ha I ked in ... he ea i h hi i ill ake me h ee da ake ha i h me. B e did i . We k i nb a d and m eam a ge ing 50 e e ... e j aid i a in 24-48 m e e e ...and if I an ed me hing fa i a b e ce i n. Beca e I can j alk a a and hen a I did ha ...beca e he kne i a e ce i nall fa and cl e ... a e ing he anda d and c mm nica ing ha he akeh lde , ha ' hen i a ...I hink a ha in a ell. >> I am g il f ha a ell, e ing an e ec a i n b i i like, "La ime did i ." I i a mi ing e . BENAZ IRANI: Tha i h i i im an hen a e ne . I i he m challenging ime b i i im an beca e a e e ing ha g ea e ec a i n.
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    i f a li e e e a d he ef e ma c ai e . Thi a c i i he j i e f Ca i LIVE a d he a h i ed a e ible f a me a d ma be c ied ed b a he a i h a h i a i . Page 65 >> I had a CEO nce ha had a ja n hi de k i h big ck , all f c n he big ck , n he mall ck . Beca e if I f c n he li le b I'd be king in he eam m j b i ick and ch e ha I f c n, he m im ac and fill he ja fa . I a like, "Oka ." BENAZ IRANI: He a f c ed he ge ...a ed hel ing i h e e ne el e. >> We d ha m e. MAGS HANLEY: One m e. N ? Thank m ch. (APPLAUSE) We a e ead n ha e l nch. D ha e did la ime, j g nd and ha e l nch in he e. Y can a he e if i h b i migh be ea ie f m e he e i m e m. ANNABELLE ROBB: We ill ha e an h l nch and d ing ha h e ill an f m ha ace in a k h ace. Y ha e all been egi e ed. If a e n e ab he e a e c me and find me n igh n , cl e he ime, b hile e a e an f ming, j be a ien and a a e e ill be m ing a fe hing a nd he i e e ha e g i and e h ld be e and nning in ab 20 min e . F l nch j g and e can en hi and can all c me in. MAGS HANLEY: S g ab ff. ANNABELLE ROBB: Af e k h a he end f he da e ill all c me ge he b he i e l nch i . A e me. Thank g .