in calls; English anxiety froze me • Waited for prompts; no agenda, no explicit asks • Mentors couldn’t infer my intent or blockers Turning Point • Realized I own the project; mentors support • Said: “English isn’t my strength — please support me.” • Sent a 3-line agenda and chaired each call After • Speaking turns per meeting ≈5×; decisions faster • Quicker unblocks; fewer resets after missed weeks
a 3-line agenda ◦ Status → Decision → Next step (owner/date) • Normalize clarification: script the first minute ◦ “Name two unclear points.” / “It’s fine to say I don’t understand.” • Single source + async default: one Living Doc ◦ Context / Decisions / Next Issue / Blockers / Links ◦ Batch questions daily with options + default.