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10 suggestions to regain your libido

10 suggestions to regain your libido

How to regain your desire towards your partner and start enjoying every minut together

Amie Dawson

March 03, 2020
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  1. All couples are confronted at one point or another with

    lower sexual desire. Since the libido is not something that can be taken for granted, it's important to do your part to ensure that it retains its rightful place in the couple. Here are a few tips to help you regain your sexual desire.
  2. Don’t become a routine It is known that sexual desire

    increases with distance and boredom. At the beginning of the relationship, the attachment is sprinkled with passion and the shivers multiply with the rhythm of waiting for the next encounters. When a couple is well established, the partners live together and share their daily routine, the magic of waiting is no longer so magical. It is therefore important to keep a certain distance in order to regain the desire to be with the other. Have activities for yourself and see your friends on a regular basis. No need to share everything together.
  3. Take care of yourself When we feel desirable, we exude

    a lot of charm and confidence. This attitude greatly helps us to regain our sex appeal and this feeling of self- confidence will allow us to regain sexual desire. Take care of yourself, wear perfume, have new clothes, a new hairstyle, and you will see that your partner's shining eyes will increase your desire for him.
  4. Surprise your partner It's important to keep some mystery in

    a couple. Surprises bring partners closer together, because it's the kind of attention that feels good. You don't have to buy plane tickets to Honolulu to impress each other. You can bring her (his) favorite candy when she (he) comes back from the grocery store, a glass of wine when she (he) takes a bath, a sexy message in her (his) jeans pocket, and so on. In short, a surprise that brings a smile to remind her (him) how much you love each other. That too, it stokes the sexual flame.
  5. Take the stress away All sources of stress have an

    adverse effect on sexual desire. Work, unnecessary conflicts, financial worries, "too many things to do" etc. can harm the desire for closeness. This is normal! It's impossible to let yourself go completely in such a cervical brouhaha. However, learn how to relax well so as to keep as far away as possible from all sources of stress that are harmful to your libido. Exercise, eat well, practice yoga or go see your massage therapist regularly. These activities will allow you to better cope with daily stress and allow you to have more time to share good times in bed.
  6. Be the active one I have already mentioned it in

    another slide, but I have to repeat twice, because it is important: take the initiative! Sexual desire is not something that comes and goes without our knowledge. It goes away according to the daily context (fatigue, overwork, stress, etc.) and comes back if WE have made the effort to get it back. Take the first steps towards your partner, because he(she) may not risk another rejection ...
  7. Change the ‘bedtime routine’ When routine is reflected right down

    to the bed, it doesn't work well for a sparkling libido. Try a new position, new caresses, new places, etc. Often, it only takes a small change to bring the desire back to life. You can even try some ‘public’ intimacy using wearable panty vibrators that can be controlled from long distance away. A dinner date or even going to the mall can become so much fun and bring back your sexual desire.
  8. Keep communicating Talking about anything and everything with your partner

    can be very meaningful. Especially if the discussion is tinged with humour and complicity, you will notice that your eyes will light up. In these moments of exchange, you will see that desire is never far away. You can talk about what you would like to talk about in bed, the caresses you miss, ideas for erotic games, etc. No censorship!
  9. Read erotic texts together No need to describe the power

    of words over our imagination! There are thousands of erotic texts that feed the fantasy imagination. Feel free to take a look at them or read them in full, because these texts can greatly help you regain your libido. From romantic stories to the most erotic, there are no limits to the imagination.
  10. Turn off the TV "Not now, this is my show!

    "Honey, not tonight, I'd rather finish my book." "There's no shortage of excuses and sexuality shifts several ranks in your relationship. Reduce the outside influences that interfere with your intimacy. Sexuality still needs to be an important part of a healthy relationship. Turn off the TV and computer tonight. Take care of your relationship and make up for lost time.
  11. Learn how to satisfy yourself You know, masturbation is a

    great way to get to know your body and regain sexual arousal. Give yourself that gift when you're alone. Caress yourself to reconnect with that libido that's been buried for too long under the weight of daily routine. This is your moment, so make the most of it.
  12. And if none of these works... If these tricks have

    no effect on your libido and you feel a deep discomfort because of this lack of desire, it would be important to meet with a sexologist who will give you the necessary tools and advice to regain control of your sex life. Meetings in couple are also possible so you can understand together what harms your sexual desire and what you can do about it.