Cyan Ta’eed (co-founder of Envato) shares her 10 year journey to building confidence, her trial and errors plus the hacks she’s picked up along the way.
B E N E F I T F R O M R E F L E C T I N G W H E R E T H E Y S I T B E T W E E N L O W C O N F I D E N C E A N D O V E R - C O N F I D E N C E . T H I S I S N O T A U N I Q U E LY F E M A L E C H A L L E N G E :
F O RTA B L E TA L K I N G A B O U T A C H I E V E M E N T S O R TA L E N T S I S O N E T H I N G . B U T H O W D O Y O U T H I N K A B O U T Y O U R A C H I E V E M E N T S ? W H AT D O E S Y O U R I N T E R N A L D I A L O G U E S O U N D L I K E ?
AT E D U N D E R T H E A S S U M P T I O N T H AT H E WA S C A PA B L E , W H E R E A S I O P E R AT E D U N D E R T H E A S S U M P T I O N T H AT I WA S N ’ T.
Y N D R O M E ) I would avoid putting myself in situations where I would be challenged, and I would avoid asking questions or getting help when I needed it. Both stemmed from a fear of "being found out”.
O LT # 2 : A truly confident person goes out looking for new opportunities and experiences, and doesn’t worry about failing. They believe if they work hard they’ll succeed.
U C C E E D , A L I T T L E B I T O F T H AT D O U B T I C A R RY A R O U N D FA L L S AWAY, A N D I G E T A S L I G H T LY C L E A R E R P I C T U R E O F M Y O W N C A PA C I T Y.
O R W H AT I T ’ S W O R T H ) : If there’s a choice between doing it and not doing it, always do it. Never let your confidence stop you from experiencing or learning. If you’re anything like me, try not to care so much what everyone else thinks. Chances are you are your own harshest critic.