Cultural Red Pills and Blue Pills

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January 15, 2019
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Cultural Red Pills and Blue Pills

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Tal Raviv

January 15, 2019
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  1. @talraviv talraviv.org Cultural Red Pills and Blue Pills

  2. @talraviv talraviv.org Here’s a way I see people personalities

  3. @talraviv talraviv.org Pardon the analogy,

  4. @talraviv talraviv.org Pardon the analogy, I can’t think of a

    better one
  5. @talraviv talraviv.org

  6. @talraviv talraviv.org There’s two sides

  7. @talraviv talraviv.org Fine, it’s more of a spectrum

  8. @talraviv talraviv.org

  9. @talraviv talraviv.org I don’t have a word for it. It’s

    groupings of behaviors.
  10. @talraviv talraviv.org

  11. @talraviv talraviv.org I’ve met people everywhere along it.

  12. @talraviv talraviv.org In every culture, ethnicity, nationality, you’ll find people

    everywhere on this spectrum.
  13. @talraviv talraviv.org so here are my clusters

  14. @talraviv talraviv.org in terms of what a video camera could

    capture
  15. @talraviv talraviv.org okayyyyy

  16. @talraviv talraviv.org okayyyyy not entirelyyyy objective

  17. @talraviv talraviv.org okayyyyy not entirelyyyy objective but going ahead anyways

  18. @talraviv talraviv.org Indirect

  19. @talraviv talraviv.org Direct

  20. @talraviv talraviv.org Niceties

  21. @talraviv talraviv.org Down to business

  22. @talraviv talraviv.org Careful not to offend

  23. @talraviv talraviv.org No filter

  24. @talraviv talraviv.org Calm

  25. @talraviv talraviv.org Passionate

  26. @talraviv talraviv.org Serious

  27. @talraviv talraviv.org Belly laughs

  28. @talraviv talraviv.org Avoid confrontation

  29. @talraviv talraviv.org Debates often

  30. @talraviv talraviv.org Space

  31. @talraviv talraviv.org Affectionate

  32. @talraviv talraviv.org Respect rules

  33. @talraviv talraviv.org Improvisation

  34. @talraviv talraviv.org Respect authority in the open

  35. @talraviv talraviv.org Openly question authority

  36. @talraviv talraviv.org Seek permission

  37. @talraviv talraviv.org Take initiative

  38. @talraviv talraviv.org Important not to step on toes

  39. @talraviv talraviv.org Important to assert

  40. @talraviv talraviv.org “That’s interesting”

  41. @talraviv talraviv.org “Nah”

  42. @talraviv talraviv.org Focus on agreement

  43. @talraviv talraviv.org Focus on differences

  44. @talraviv talraviv.org Start by apologizing but not deeply

  45. @talraviv talraviv.org Start by confronting but not deeply

  46. @talraviv talraviv.org Ask how you’re doing as small talk

  47. @talraviv talraviv.org Don’t ask how you’re doing unless they deeply

    care
  48. @talraviv talraviv.org Important to be agreeable

  49. @talraviv talraviv.org Important to be candid

  50. @talraviv talraviv.org Hard to recover from arguing

  51. @talraviv talraviv.org Quick to recover from arguing

  52. @talraviv talraviv.org As you read that, I bet some people

    came to your mind.
  53. @talraviv talraviv.org As you read that, I bet some people

    came to your mind. Maybe some regions.
  54. @talraviv talraviv.org As you read that, I bet some people

    came to your mind. Maybe some regions. Maybe some groups
  55. @talraviv talraviv.org I’ve learned this is everywhere

  56. @talraviv talraviv.org NASA Blue Marble series flickr.com/photos/gsfc

  57. @talraviv talraviv.org Here’s one example

  58. @talraviv talraviv.org Here’s one example from a movie that set

    the record for highest grossing romantic comedy of all time
  59. @talraviv talraviv.org Text My Big Fat Greek Wedding, 2002

  60. @talraviv talraviv.org Text Text My Big Fat Greek Wedding, 2002

  61. @talraviv talraviv.org Think about regions of the United States you’re

    familiar with
  62. @talraviv talraviv.org Think about places you’ve traveled …and misunderstandings you’ve

    had
  63. @talraviv talraviv.org Think about ethnicities outside your own that you

    gravitate towards …or have trouble connecting with.
  64. @talraviv talraviv.org This spectrum matters a lot.

  65. @talraviv talraviv.org This spectrum matters a lot. And it’s a

    source of a lot of misunderstanding, stress, and friction.
  66. @talraviv talraviv.org The more global the environment,

  67. @talraviv talraviv.org The more global the environment, the more cultures,

  68. @talraviv talraviv.org The more global the environment, the more cultures,

    the more diverse the mix
  69. @talraviv talraviv.org The more global the environment, the more cultures,

    the more diverse the mix the more I see this as a source of interpersonal friction
  70. @talraviv talraviv.org Because

  71. @talraviv talraviv.org heres how people view each other

  72. @talraviv talraviv.org Insensitive

  73. @talraviv talraviv.org Childish

  74. @talraviv talraviv.org Impulsive

  75. @talraviv talraviv.org Wild

  76. @talraviv talraviv.org Hide their feelings

  77. @talraviv talraviv.org Hypocritical

  78. @talraviv talraviv.org Patronizing

  79. @talraviv talraviv.org Rigid

  80. @talraviv talraviv.org heres the deal though

  81. @talraviv talraviv.org its actually a range

  82. @talraviv talraviv.org Any given person could be anywhere on this

    spectrum
  83. @talraviv talraviv.org Any given person could be anywhere on this

    spectrum
  84. @talraviv talraviv.org Any given person could be anywhere on this

    spectrum
  85. @talraviv talraviv.org Any given person could be anywhere on this

    spectrum
  86. @talraviv talraviv.org But to be more accurate

  87. @talraviv talraviv.org Everyone is more of a range {

  88. @talraviv talraviv.org Meaning, if you felt that the descriptors weren’t

    mutually exclusive - you’re right. {
  89. @talraviv talraviv.org You might be great knowing when to be

    here {
  90. @talraviv talraviv.org You might be great knowing when to be

    here and when to be here {
  91. @talraviv talraviv.org {

  92. @talraviv talraviv.org {

  93. @talraviv talraviv.org You may be here with your close friends

    & family {
  94. @talraviv talraviv.org And here at work {

  95. @talraviv talraviv.org you may be here when the system works

    in your favor {
  96. @talraviv talraviv.org and here when you need to rely on

    yourself {
  97. @talraviv talraviv.org I am here when I’m at work in

    San Francisco {
  98. @talraviv talraviv.org and I hop over here with professional contacts

    in Israel {
  99. @talraviv talraviv.org message 1 just be aware

  100. @talraviv talraviv.org I don’t have much to say other than

  101. @talraviv talraviv.org know this spectrum exists

  102. @talraviv talraviv.org know that if you think you’re better

  103. @talraviv talraviv.org someone is also pretty sure they’re better than

    you
  104. @talraviv talraviv.org and we’re all humans

  105. @talraviv talraviv.org I’m saying this as much for myself

  106. @talraviv talraviv.org Before I started this deck, this was originally

    a pretty judgmental dichotomy in my mind
  107. @talraviv talraviv.org I grew up on the east coast in

    an Israeli family
  108. @talraviv talraviv.org In college I laughed the most with Arab

    classmates
  109. @talraviv talraviv.org in San Francisco I room with Europeans

  110. @talraviv talraviv.org And while I expanded my range at work

  111. @talraviv talraviv.org And learned to say things like “Yes, AND”

  112. @talraviv talraviv.org I generally connect better with immigrants

  113. @talraviv talraviv.org (even if they make fun of me for

    code switching)
  114. @talraviv talraviv.org so it’s easy for me

  115. @talraviv talraviv.org so it’s easy for me to pick a

    side of the spectrum as “better”
  116. @talraviv talraviv.org but, damn it, we’re all people

  117. @talraviv talraviv.org but, damn it, we’re all people so I

    can’t be that lazy
  118. @talraviv talraviv.org and I know what it’s like to be

    frustrated in the other direction
  119. @talraviv talraviv.org I’m suuuuuper tempted to judge.

  120. @talraviv talraviv.org I’m suuuuuper tempted to judge. And realized, sigh,

    I can’t.
  121. @talraviv talraviv.org

  122. @talraviv talraviv.org Even my red pill/blue pill analogy is judgmental.

  123. @talraviv talraviv.org Even my red pill/blue pill analogy is judgmental.

    Red pill implies “real” or better
  124. @talraviv talraviv.org Even my red pill/blue pill analogy is judgmental.

    Red pill implies “real” or better But come on, do I really think one side is more human or better or real, and I’m the one to know that?
  125. @talraviv talraviv.org Even my red pill/blue pill analogy is judgmental.

    Red pill implies “real” or better But come on, do I really think one side is more human or better or real, and I’m the one to know that? Damn it, life would be so much easier without duality and subtlety.
  126. @talraviv talraviv.org message 2 widen your range

  127. @talraviv talraviv.org whatever your comfort zone {

  128. @talraviv talraviv.org the wider your range {

  129. @talraviv talraviv.org the more situations you can handle {

  130. @talraviv talraviv.org the more people you can connect with {

  131. @talraviv talraviv.org If people here could move a little right

    {
  132. @talraviv talraviv.org They may get more effective in some situations

    {
  133. @talraviv talraviv.org If people here could expand a little left

    {
  134. @talraviv talraviv.org They might improve their lives without giving too

    much up {
  135. @talraviv talraviv.org It took me a while to learn

  136. @talraviv talraviv.org When I worked in Israel I played the

    wrong side of the spectrum at the wrong time
  137. @talraviv talraviv.org To think of it, that definitely happened at

    work in San Francisco
  138. @talraviv talraviv.org Over time I’ve learned the art of playing

    my range at the right times
  139. @talraviv talraviv.org • I ask blunt questions • I call

    bullshit • I invite disagreement …AND get along after
  140. @talraviv talraviv.org I can take a deep breath and write

    non-confrontational (yet effective) fluff like this
  141. @talraviv talraviv.org (Sometimes I write on behalf of my Israeli

    friends or family to help them when responding to Americans)
  142. @talraviv talraviv.org I told my team once, I learned the

    secret to communication at work is learning to replace “whoa whoa whoa whoa wtfffffff”
  143. @talraviv talraviv.org I told my team once, I learned the

    secret to communication at work is learning to replace “whoa whoa whoa whoa wtfffffff” with “that’s awesome! we should talk”
  144. @talraviv talraviv.org so thats it

  145. @talraviv talraviv.org know this is a thing

  146. @talraviv talraviv.org stretch your range

  147. @talraviv talraviv.org look for this at work

  148. @talraviv talraviv.org look for this in your neighborhood

  149. @talraviv talraviv.org push yourself to deal with different styles

  150. @talraviv talraviv.org push yourself to deal with different styles talking

    to myself here…
  151. @talraviv talraviv.org have more patience for each other

  152. @talraviv talraviv.org have more patience for each other talking to

    myself here…
  153. @talraviv talraviv.org and keep the spectrum in mind

  154. @talraviv talraviv.org now

  155. @talraviv talraviv.org this is the part

  156. @talraviv talraviv.org where i ask you

  157. @talraviv talraviv.org to subscribe to my mailing list

  158. @talraviv talraviv.org but its late

  159. @talraviv talraviv.org and i dont have a clever tie in

  160. @talraviv talraviv.org so

  161. @talraviv talraviv.org just subscribe

  162. @talraviv talraviv.org its great

  163. @talraviv talraviv.org people love it

  164. @talraviv talraviv.org if you got this far

  165. @talraviv talraviv.org you will too

  166. @talraviv talraviv.org add your email here

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  168. @talraviv talraviv.org oh look

  169. @talraviv talraviv.org second wind

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