Getting good doesn't feel like being good

@talraviv talraviv.org getting good doesnt feel like being good

@talraviv talraviv.org getting stronger

@talraviv talraviv.org getting stronger doesnt feel like being one of
those strong people

@talraviv talraviv.org becoming a high functioning team

@talraviv talraviv.org becoming a high functioning team doesnt feel like
being that high functioning team next door

@talraviv talraviv.org exercising resilience

@talraviv talraviv.org exercising resilience doesnt feel like being one of
those really resilient people

@talraviv talraviv.org mastering a skill

@talraviv talraviv.org mastering a skill doesnt feel like being a
master of a skill

@talraviv talraviv.org getting better at focus

@talraviv talraviv.org getting better at focus doesnt feel like youre
a focused person

@talraviv talraviv.org getting in shape

@talraviv talraviv.org getting in shape doesnt feel like being in
shape

@talraviv talraviv.org building up courage

@talraviv talraviv.org building up courage doesnt feel like being a
courageous person

@talraviv talraviv.org getting better at time management

@talraviv talraviv.org getting better at time management doesnt feel like
being those people who are good at managing time

@talraviv talraviv.org getting good at swallowing your ego

@talraviv talraviv.org getting good at swallowing your ego doesnt feel
like being some buddha figure

@talraviv talraviv.org getting good at not getting hit by cars
on your bike

@talraviv talraviv.org getting good at not getting hit by cars
on your bike involves a lot of nearly getting hit by cars on your bike

@talraviv talraviv.org Genuinely working to get better at anything

@talraviv talraviv.org will feel like shit

@talraviv talraviv.org will feel like shit repeatedly

@talraviv talraviv.org in all situations

@talraviv talraviv.org if you in all situations

@talraviv talraviv.org if you 1) notice your mistakes in all
situations

@talraviv talraviv.org if you 1) notice your mistakes 2) care
about getting better in all situations

@talraviv talraviv.org it’ll feel shitty

@talraviv talraviv.org it’ll feel shitty repeatedly

@talraviv talraviv.org and you have to make those mistakes

@talraviv talraviv.org and because you 1) notice your mistakes

@talraviv talraviv.org and because you 1) notice your mistakes 2)
and care about getting better

@talraviv talraviv.org you’ll get there

@talraviv talraviv.org but it’ll feel shitty

@talraviv talraviv.org but it’ll feel shitty repeatedly

@talraviv talraviv.org but it’ll feel shitty for as long as
you care

@talraviv talraviv.org so give yourself credit

@talraviv talraviv.org cause 1) the more mistakes you notice

@talraviv talraviv.org cause 1) the more mistakes you notice the
better you’re getting at noticing

@talraviv talraviv.org and cause 2) the more each mistake hurts

@talraviv talraviv.org and cause 2) the more each mistake hurts
the more it means you care and the more immediately you’ll grow from it

@talraviv talraviv.org and be nice to yourself

@talraviv talraviv.org at least, i try to be nice to
myself

@talraviv talraviv.org at least, i try to be nice to
myself because there’s no other way

@talraviv talraviv.org and because, eh,

@talraviv talraviv.org and because, eh, this feeling is gonna be
forever

@talraviv talraviv.org and because, eh, this feeling is gonna be
forever so might as well smile

@talraviv talraviv.org and yeah yeah yeah

@talraviv talraviv.org and yeah yeah yeah we hear about “growth
mindset” all the time

@talraviv talraviv.org and yeah yeah yeah we hear about “growth
mindset” all the time but no one is fully that

@talraviv talraviv.org also dont forget

@talraviv talraviv.org the worst part of it all

@talraviv talraviv.org the worst part of it all is you
don’t see this in other people

don’t see this in other people they all look great at everything

don’t see this in other people they all look great at everything you rarely see how bad they feel

@talraviv talraviv.org how fucked up is that

@talraviv talraviv.org i feel like i suck at a bunch
of things other people think i’m good at

@talraviv talraviv.org getting off a social media addiction doesnt feel
like im not addicted

like im not addicted because i notice the shitty feeling of getting caught in a feed

like im not addicted because i notice the shitty feeling of getting caught in a feed and it bothers me that i spent some of my life in it

like im not addicted because i notice the shitty feeling of getting caught in a feed and it bothers me that i spent some of my life in it so that’s…good i guess

@talraviv talraviv.org leading in a growing organization doesnt feel like
being a good leader

being a good leader because everything is constantly outgrowing itself

being a good leader because everything is constantly outgrowing itself so your job is to be really good at noticing, acknowledging and quickly adapting

being a good leader because everything is constantly outgrowing itself so your job is to be really good at noticing, acknowledging and quickly adapting and if you’re doing it right you’ll feel like you’re just plain bad at your role

@talraviv talraviv.org becoming level headed and even keeled feels like
anything but being level headed

anything but being level headed because when someone says something that frustrates me or pisses me off, I deeeefinitely feel that

anything but being level headed because when someone says something that frustrates me or pisses me off, I deeeefinitely feel that the more i care about being level headed the more i notice it and realize how pissed off i am

@talraviv talraviv.org it shocks me when people on my team
say i’m level headed

@talraviv talraviv.org developing a good product doesnt feel like developing
a good product

a good product because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and finding out what you messed up or overlooked

a good product because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and finding out what you messed up or overlooked naturally you do it in small settings or small tests

a good product because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and finding out what you messed up or overlooked naturally you do it in small settings or small tests (but that still hurts a little)

a good product because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and finding out what you messed up or overlooked naturally you do it in small settings or small tests (but that still hurts a little) (not just because you care and because you showed it to customers, also because it’s your ideas)

@talraviv talraviv.org getting better at jiu jitsu feels like you
suuuuuck at jiu jitsu

suuuuuck at jiu jitsu because you’re constantly getting beat up, literally physically

suuuuuck at jiu jitsu because you’re constantly getting beat up, literally physically and all your teammates are also advancing around you

suuuuuck at jiu jitsu because you’re constantly getting beat up, literally physically and all your teammates are also advancing around you so you never feel “good”

@talraviv talraviv.org unless someone new walks in the door

@talraviv talraviv.org unless someone new walks in the door for
like their first day

like their first day and you’re like, how did I do that?

like their first day and you’re like, how did I do that? thanks rob :-*

like their first day and you’re like, how did I do that? thanks rob :-* (rob is past his first month so he will now kick my ass)

like their first day and you’re like, how did I do that? thanks rob :-* (rob is past his first month so he will now kick my ass) (because rob is very good at getting good)

@talraviv talraviv.org (and i will have to deal with it)

because, people with years upon years more experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me

because, people with years upon years more experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me you will always be getting your ass kicked by people who you thought you could beat

because, people with years upon years more experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me you will always be getting your ass kicked by people who you thought you could beat and you have to deal with that forever

because, people with years upon years more experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me you will always be getting your ass kicked by people who you thought you could beat and you have to deal with that forever and the only consolation is knowing you’re hurting someone else’s feelings too

@talraviv talraviv.org and if you really wanna get good… you
want to be in situations where your feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting other people’s feelings

want to be in situations where your feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting other people’s feelings and that’s how you get good fast.

want to be in situations where your feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting other people’s feelings and that’s how you get good fast. so, $%&#@

want to be in situations where your feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting other people’s feelings and that’s how you get good fast. so, $%&#*@*!&$

@talraviv talraviv.org this could totally have been a country song

@talraviv talraviv.org or maybe just the cafe im in is
playing country music

@talraviv talraviv.org hey spencer can you make this a song

@talraviv talraviv.org spencer isnt a country singer but he could
pull it off

@talraviv talraviv.org spencer is one of those people who seems
to be good at everything

@talraviv talraviv.org spencer is one of those people who seems
to be good at everything and if he werent so goddamn kind id be like fuck that guy

@talraviv talraviv.org luckily i know spencer enough to know he
works fucking hard and is no exception

@talraviv talraviv.org anyways

@talraviv talraviv.org so i have so much to say on
this

@talraviv talraviv.org ill make them future posts

@talraviv talraviv.org You have to seek out mistakes and mine
for shit And to do this sustainably and be happy you have to love mistakes

@talraviv talraviv.org ok so thats one future post

@talraviv talraviv.org so however you found this

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@talraviv talraviv.org i even made the unsubscribe button in my
emails really big and easy to find

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@talraviv talraviv.org if you look at the bottom of my
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