Getting good doesn't feel like being good

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1. @talraviv
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   getting good
   doesnt feel like
   being good
   

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2. @talraviv
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   getting stronger
   

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3. @talraviv
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   getting stronger
   doesnt feel like
   being one of those
   strong people
   

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4. @talraviv
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   becoming a high
   functioning team
   

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5. @talraviv
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   becoming a high
   functioning team
   doesnt feel like
   being that high
   functioning team
   next door
   

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6. @talraviv
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   exercising resilience
   

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7. @talraviv
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   exercising resilience
   doesnt feel like being
   one of those really
   resilient people
   

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8. @talraviv
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   mastering a skill
   

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9. @talraviv
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   mastering a skill
   doesnt feel like
   being a master of
   a skill
   

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10. @talraviv
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    getting better at
    focus
    

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11. @talraviv
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    getting better at
    focus
    doesnt feel like
    youre a focused
    person
    

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12. @talraviv
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    getting in shape
    

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13. @talraviv
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    getting in shape
    doesnt feel like
    being in shape
    

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14. @talraviv
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    building up courage
    

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15. @talraviv
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    building up courage
    doesnt feel like
    being a courageous
    person
    

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16. @talraviv
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    getting better at
    time management
    

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17. @talraviv
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    getting better at
    time management
    doesnt feel like
    being those people
    who are good at
    managing time
    

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18. @talraviv
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    getting good at
    swallowing your ego
    

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19. @talraviv
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    getting good at
    swallowing your ego
    doesnt feel like
    being some buddha
    figure
    

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20. @talraviv
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    getting good at not
    getting hit by cars
    on your bike
    

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21. @talraviv
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    getting good at not
    getting hit by cars
    on your bike
    involves a lot of
    nearly getting hit by
    cars on your bike
    

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22. @talraviv
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    Genuinely working to get better at anything
    

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23. @talraviv
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    will feel like shit
    

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24. @talraviv
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    will feel like shit
    repeatedly
    

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25. @talraviv
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    in all situations
    

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26. @talraviv
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    if you
    in all situations
    

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27. @talraviv
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    if you
    1) notice your mistakes
    in all situations
    

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28. @talraviv
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    if you
    1) notice your mistakes
    2) care about getting better
    in all situations
    

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29. @talraviv
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    it’ll feel shitty
    

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30. @talraviv
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    it’ll feel shitty
    repeatedly
    

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31. @talraviv
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    and you have to make those mistakes
    

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32. @talraviv
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    and because you
    1) notice your mistakes
    

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33. @talraviv
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    and because you
    1) notice your mistakes
    2) and care about getting better
    

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34. @talraviv
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    you’ll get there
    

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35. @talraviv
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    but it’ll feel shitty
    

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36. @talraviv
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    but it’ll feel shitty
    repeatedly
    

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37. @talraviv
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    but it’ll feel shitty
    for as long as you care
    

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38. @talraviv
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    so give
    yourself
    credit
    

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39. @talraviv
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    cause
    1) the more mistakes you notice
    

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40. @talraviv
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    cause
    1) the more mistakes you notice
    the better you’re getting at noticing
    

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41. @talraviv
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    and cause
    2) the more each mistake hurts
    

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42. @talraviv
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    and cause
    2) the more each mistake hurts
    the more it means you care
    and the more immediately you’ll grow from it
    

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43. @talraviv
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    and be
    nice to
    yourself
    

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44. @talraviv
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    at least, i try to be nice to myself
    

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45. @talraviv
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    at least, i try to be nice to myself
    because there’s no other way
    

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46. @talraviv
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    and because, eh,
    

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47. @talraviv
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    and because, eh,
    this feeling is gonna be forever
    

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48. @talraviv
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    and because, eh,
    this feeling is gonna be forever
    so might as well smile
    

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49. @talraviv
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    and yeah yeah yeah
    

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50. @talraviv
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    and yeah yeah yeah
    we hear about “growth mindset” all the time
    

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51. @talraviv
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    and yeah yeah yeah
    we hear about “growth mindset” all the time
    but no one is fully that
    

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52. @talraviv
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    also
    dont
    forget
    

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53. @talraviv
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    the worst part of it all
    

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54. @talraviv
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    the worst part of it all
    is you don’t see this in other people
    

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55. @talraviv
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    the worst part of it all
    is you don’t see this in other people
    they all look great at everything
    

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56. @talraviv
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    the worst part of it all
    is you don’t see this in other people
    they all look great at everything
    you rarely see how bad they feel
    

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57. @talraviv
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    how fucked up is that
    

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58. @talraviv
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    so give
    yourself
    credit
    

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59. @talraviv
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    and be
    nice to
    yourself
    

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60. @talraviv
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    i feel like i suck at a bunch of things
    other people think i’m good at
    

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61. @talraviv
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    getting off a social media addiction
    doesnt feel like im not addicted
    

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62. @talraviv
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    getting off a social media addiction
    doesnt feel like im not addicted
    because i notice the shitty feeling of getting
    caught in a feed
    

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63. @talraviv
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    getting off a social media addiction
    doesnt feel like im not addicted
    because i notice the shitty feeling of getting
    caught in a feed
    and it bothers me that i spent some of my life
    in it
    

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64. @talraviv
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    getting off a social media addiction
    doesnt feel like im not addicted
    because i notice the shitty feeling of getting
    caught in a feed
    and it bothers me that i spent some of my life
    in it
    so that’s…good i guess
    

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65. @talraviv
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    leading in a growing organization
    doesnt feel like being a good leader
    

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66. @talraviv
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    leading in a growing organization
    doesnt feel like being a good leader
    because everything is constantly outgrowing
    itself
    

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67. @talraviv
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    leading in a growing organization
    doesnt feel like being a good leader
    because everything is constantly outgrowing
    itself
    so your job is to be really good at noticing,
    acknowledging and quickly adapting
    

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68. @talraviv
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    leading in a growing organization
    doesnt feel like being a good leader
    because everything is constantly outgrowing
    itself
    so your job is to be really good at noticing,
    acknowledging and quickly adapting
    and if you’re doing it right you’ll feel
    like you’re just plain bad at your role
    

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69. @talraviv
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    becoming level headed
    and even keeled
    feels like anything but
    being level headed
    

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70. @talraviv
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    becoming level headed
    and even keeled
    feels like anything but
    being level headed
    because when someone says something that
    frustrates me or pisses me off, I deeeefinitely
    feel that
    

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71. @talraviv
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    becoming level headed
    and even keeled
    feels like anything but
    being level headed
    because when someone says something that
    frustrates me or pisses me off, I deeeefinitely
    feel that
    the more i care about being level headed the
    more i notice it and realize how pissed off i am
    

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72. @talraviv
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    it shocks me when people on my team say i’m
    level headed
    

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73. @talraviv
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    developing a good product
    doesnt feel like
    developing a good product
    

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74. @talraviv
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    developing a good product
    doesnt feel like
    developing a good product
    because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and
    finding out what you messed up or overlooked
    

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75. @talraviv
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    developing a good product
    doesnt feel like
    developing a good product
    because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and
    finding out what you messed up or overlooked
    naturally you do it in small settings or small tests
    

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76. @talraviv
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    developing a good product
    doesnt feel like
    developing a good product
    because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and
    finding out what you messed up or overlooked
    naturally you do it in small settings or small tests
    (but that still hurts a little)
    

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77. @talraviv
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    developing a good product
    doesnt feel like
    developing a good product
    because you’re constantly soliciting feedback and
    finding out what you messed up or overlooked
    naturally you do it in small settings or small tests
    (but that still hurts a little)
    (not just because you care and because you showed
    it to customers, also because it’s your ideas)
    

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78. @talraviv
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    getting better at jiu jitsu
    feels like you suuuuuck at jiu jitsu
    

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79. @talraviv
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    getting better at jiu jitsu
    feels like you suuuuuck at jiu jitsu
    because you’re constantly getting beat up,
    literally physically
    

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80. @talraviv
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    getting better at jiu jitsu
    feels like you suuuuuck at jiu jitsu
    because you’re constantly getting beat up,
    literally physically
    and all your teammates are also advancing
    around you
    

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81. @talraviv
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    getting better at jiu jitsu
    feels like you suuuuuck at jiu jitsu
    because you’re constantly getting beat up,
    literally physically
    and all your teammates are also advancing
    around you
    so you never feel “good”
    

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82. @talraviv
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    unless someone new walks in the door
    

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83. @talraviv
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    unless someone new walks in the door
    for like their first day
    

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84. @talraviv
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    unless someone new walks in the door
    for like their first day
    and you’re like, how did I do that?
    

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85. @talraviv
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    unless someone new walks in the door
    for like their first day
    and you’re like, how did I do that?
    thanks rob :-*
    

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86. @talraviv
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    unless someone new walks in the door
    for like their first day
    and you’re like, how did I do that?
    thanks rob :-*
    (rob is past his first month so
    he will now kick my ass)
    

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87. @talraviv
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    unless someone new walks in the door
    for like their first day
    and you’re like, how did I do that?
    thanks rob :-*
    (rob is past his first month so
    he will now kick my ass)
    (because rob is very good at getting good)
    

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88. @talraviv
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    (and i will have to deal with it)
    

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89. @talraviv
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    (and i will have to deal with it)
    because, people with years upon years more
    experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me
    

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90. @talraviv
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    (and i will have to deal with it)
    because, people with years upon years more
    experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me
    you will always be getting your ass kicked by
    people who you thought you could beat
    

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91. @talraviv
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    (and i will have to deal with it)
    because, people with years upon years more
    experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me
    you will always be getting your ass kicked by
    people who you thought you could beat
    and you have to deal with that forever
    

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92. @talraviv
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    (and i will have to deal with it)
    because, people with years upon years more
    experience than me in jiu jitsu tell me
    you will always be getting your ass kicked by
    people who you thought you could beat
    and you have to deal with that forever
    and the only consolation is knowing you’re
    hurting someone else’s feelings too
    

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93. @talraviv
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    and if you really wanna get good…
    you want to be in situations where your
    feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting
    other people’s feelings
    

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94. @talraviv
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    and if you really wanna get good…
    you want to be in situations where your
    feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting
    other people’s feelings
    and that’s how you get good fast.
    

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95. @talraviv
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    and if you really wanna get good…
    you want to be in situations where your
    feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting
    other people’s feelings
    and that’s how you get good fast.
    so,
    $%@
    

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96. @talraviv
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    and if you really wanna get good…
    you want to be in situations where your
    feelings get hurt more than you’re hurting
    other people’s feelings
    and that’s how you get good fast.
    so,
    $%*@*!&$
    

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97. @talraviv
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    so give
    yourself
    credit
    

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98. @talraviv
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    and be
    nice to
    yourself
    

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99. @talraviv
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    this could totally have been a country song
    

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100. @talraviv
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     or maybe just the cafe im in is playing
     country music
     

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101. @talraviv
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     hey spencer can you make this a song
     

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102. @talraviv
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     spencer isnt a country singer but he could
     pull it off
     

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103. @talraviv
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     spencer is one of those people who seems to
     be good at everything
     

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104. @talraviv
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     spencer is one of those people who seems to
     be good at everything
     and if he werent so goddamn kind id be like
     fuck that guy
     

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105. @talraviv
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     luckily i know spencer enough to know he
     works fucking hard and is no exception
     

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106. @talraviv
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     anyways
     

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107. @talraviv
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     so i have so much to say on this
     

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108. @talraviv
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     ill make them future posts
     

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109. @talraviv
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     You have to seek out mistakes and mine for
     shit
     And to do this sustainably and be happy you
     have to love mistakes
     

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110. @talraviv
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     ok so thats one future post
     

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111. @talraviv
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     so however you found this
     

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112. @talraviv
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     add your email
     

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113. @talraviv
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114. @talraviv
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     so you get those posts
     

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115. @talraviv
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     you can unsubscribe after
     

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116. @talraviv
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     i promise
     

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117. @talraviv
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     i even made the unsubscribe button in my
     emails really big and easy to find
     

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118. @talraviv
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119. @talraviv
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     if you look at the bottom of my emails thats
     actually the button
     

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120. @talraviv
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