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What is 'normal' anyway.

Craig Abbott
October 03, 2017
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What is 'normal' anyway.

A talk based on my blog post of the same name: http://www.craigabbott.co.uk/what-is-normal-anyway.

It talks about dealing with mental health and my personal journey.

This talk was delivered at:
- Geek Mental Help Newcastle on 3rd October 2017.

Craig Abbott

October 03, 2017
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  1. What is ‘normal’ anyway?

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  2. What is ‘normal’ anyway?
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    Craig Abbott
    @abbott567
    Interaction Designer at @DWPDigital.
    Lover of cats and code.
    David Attenborough is my hero.
    #Vegan
    Newcastle upon Tyne

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  3. “I just want to be normal”
    @abbott567

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  4. I have depression
    and anxiety issues…
    so right now, I’m anxious as hell!
    @abbott567

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  5. I rarely talk about
    these issues
    @abbott567

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  6. “Cheer up mate.”
    “What do you have to be down about?”
    “Things can’t be that bad!”
    @abbott567

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  7. I’ve always had a need to fit in
    @abbott567

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  8. @abbott567
    I’ve changed my
    identity repeatedly

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  9. @abbott567
    The emo phase

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  10. @abbott567
    The skater phase

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  11. @abbott567
    The indie phase

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  12. @abbott567
    The gym phase

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  13. @abbott567
    I chose the wrong career

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  14. My first place of work was not a safe place,
    I was bullied every day for almost a decade.
    @abbott567

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  15. I experienced burnout for almost 3 years
    because I didn’t want to let anybody down
    @abbott567

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  16. @abbott567
    The ‘party capital’.
    The home of Geordie Shore.

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  17. I hated clubbing, it made me anxious

    but I didn’t want to be ‘boring’
    @abbott567

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  18. Anxiety is exhausting
    @abbott567

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  19. Getting wasted helped me escape.
    I’d just get my brain too messed-up
    to think about anything.
    @abbott567

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  20. I’d find ways to numb
    what I was feeling, rather
    than actually feeling it.
    @abbott567

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  21. I became selfish, angry
    and unapproachable
    @abbott567

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  22. Boys are conditioned to ignore their feelings.
    And so anger became the only way I could
    express anything.
    @abbott567

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  23. This behaviour made me hate myself
    @abbott567

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  24. My entire life had been doing
    stuff because of fear and guilt,
    with zero support.
    @abbott567

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  25. @abbott567
    I was always seeking

    validation from others

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  26. @abbott567
    I over analyse everything.
    I always see how things could have been better.
    How I should have been better.

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  27. @abbott567
    Creative people are far more likely
    to dwell on the detail.

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  28. Attention to detail is the
    difference between painting a
    picture and a masterpiece. But it’s
    also the reason why we ruminate.
    @abbott567

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  29. In this industry, it is rare for you to
    come up with anything on your own
    @abbott567

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  30. Imposter syndrome
    An inability to internalise ones
    accomplishments. A persistent fear of being
    exposed as a fraud.
    @abbott567

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  31. At the age of 31, I realised
    I have no idea who I am.
    @abbott567

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  32. Surround yourself with
    positive, like-minded people.
    @abbott567

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  33. DWP is the first job I’ve had where I
    feel truly supported. Where I’m
    encouraged to be individual and to
    challenge the status quo.
    @abbott567

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  34. “An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship
    unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly,
    the negativity of the world can’t put you
    down unless you allow it to get inside
    you.”
    - Goi Nasu.
    @abbott567

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  35. @abbott567
    Stop overworking.
    You’re good enough.

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  36. Overworking is a fallacy.
    It’s not sustainable.
    @abbott567

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  37. We’re so obsessed with
    managing our time, that we
    forget to take time to just be.
    @abbott567

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  38. You’re unique, like everyone else.
    @abbott567

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  39. If you don’t think you’ve progressed
    as a person, go back 5 years on one
    of your social media profiles…
    Then cringe.
    @abbott567

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  40. @abbott567

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  41. @abbott567

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  42. Discover what makes you happy
    @abbott567

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  43. @abbott567

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  44. Don’t suffer in silence
    @abbott567

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  45. @abbott567

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  46. Don’t conform.
    Be true to yourself.
    @abbott567

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  47. @abbott567
    We’re all a bit broken.
    But broken crayons still
    colour the same.

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  48. KTHXBAI
    Twitter: @abbott567
    Email: [email protected]
    North East Counselling Services: https://www.necounselling.org.uk
    Blog post: http://www.craigabbott.co.uk/what-is-normal-anyway
    5 year journal: http://abtt.co/5-year-journal

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