Being Nice is Nice

Programming is a social activity. An Open Source community is all about the interactions between multiple opinions. Trying to come at every interaction with a positive perspective is hard, but worth it.

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1. BEING
   NICE IS
   Design Dictator @ CocoaPods
   Head of Mobile @ Artsy
   @Orta
   

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2. Design Dictator @ CocoaPods
   Head of Mobile @ Artsy
   @Orta
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3. Programming is social
   

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4. DANGER MCSHANE
   

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6. Being a jerk
   

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11. Normal Person
    Anonymity
    audience
    +
    +
    = Total Jerkface
    

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12. relatively Normal Person +
    perceived priv
    acy +
    yes people audience
    http://marocharim.com/2010/11/02/fuckwad-effects/
    http://marocharim.com/2010/11/02/fuckwad-effects/
    = Total Jerkface
    

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13. Friction is easy
    

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14. Friction
    gets
    followers
    

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17. that’s not as funny/
    smart as you think it is
    

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18. Nice is HARD
    

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21. […] I spent many hours with this
    and I will give up without your help.
    an email from a few days ago
    

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22. Empathy
    

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23. POSITIVE REINforcement
    

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30. no-one is alw
    ays in a
    good mood
    Let’s not set the wrong expectations
    

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31. I’m not alw
    ays in a
    good mood
    

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32. Where can you get
    some good advice?
    

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35. TLDR
    

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36. People
    Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
    Give honest sincere appreciation.
    

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37. ARGUMENTS
    Avoid at all costs
    Never say, “You’re wrong.”
    If you are wrong, admit it quickly.
    

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38. Being A Leader
    Ask questions instead of orders.
    Praise every improvement.
    Give someone a reputation to live up to.
    

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41. @orta
    

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