This talk takes a step back from the toolbox to ask: What are the core benefits a tool should provide? As a project grows up, it has different needs and benefits from differing levels of "discipline". Likewise, people have differing comfort levels for process rigor. Too often we focus on the laundry list of benefits that we might get from a tool without considering the maturity of our project or the composition of the team. We want to build shared understanding without dictating a process that crushes diverse thought and collaboration. This talk proposes examples as a universal way to build shared understanding without tying a team to specific tools or implementations.