The forgotten art of mentoring (June 2017)

When did you last care, help or even accompany someone, a colleague for instance, on his life journey? We produce ever more content, day in and day out. Either for our blogs, while organizing communities or when pointing out to the internet where our whole knowledge is to be found. Haven't we forgotten the "human being" in this avalanche of information? We all learn, but so few of us do it through mentoring. The word mentoring can be scary for some. But mentoring is like a superpower that anyone can use. In this talk we will talk about learning, teaching, leading, accompanying and even letting be. We will discuss the role of a mentor and the differences with a coach, a godfather and a boss. How do you act as a mentor or a mentee, and what makes this relationship so unique and so fruitful? Finally, the audience we will make its first step toward mentoring through a practical exercise.

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1. mentoring The forgotten art of MATHEMA Software GmbH @timothep Timothée Bourguignon timbourguignon.fr
2. A handfull of mentors Image Source: Wikipedia
3. Do you recognize those persons? Image Source: Wikipedia & ruthnoller.blogspot.de
4. Show me a successful individual and I’ll show you someone who had real positive influences in his or her life, a mentor” “ - Denzel Washington Image Source: Wikipedia
5. Where art thou? Mentors!
6. Mentor? What is a
7. Define “Méntōr” Image Source: Wikipedia
8. Anyone who has a positive, guiding influence in another person's life, a trusted counselor or guide - Merriam-Webster “ Define “mentor”
9. The many faces of mentoring Coach vs mentor
10. The many faces of mentoring Teacher & tutor vs mentor
11. The many faces of mentoring My mum vs mentor
12. The many faces of mentoring Sparring-partner vs mentor
13. The many faces of mentoring Godfather vs mentor
14. The many faces of mentoring Boss vs mentor
15. Anyone who intentionally has a positive, guiding influence in another person's life over a longer time period, a trusted counselor or guide - Merriam-Webster & me “ Define “mentor”
16. Why but why? Shu-Ha-Ri Stages of learning
17. What is in there for you?
18. Benefits for the mentee Kick start
19. Benefits for the mentee Impartial advice
20. Benefits for the mentee Encouragements and feedback
21. Benefits for the mentee Professional development
22. Benefits for the mentee Increased visibility
23. Men learn while they teach - Seneca the younger “ Image Source: Wikipedia Benefits for the mentor
24. Organisational insights Benefits for the mentor
25. We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give” - Winston Churchill “ Image Source: Wikipedia Benefits for the mentor
26. We’re here to put a dent in the universe, otherwise why else even be here? - Steve Jobs “ Benefits for the mentor Image Source: Wikipedia
27. everyone do it? Why doesn’t
28. It takes work Why doesn’t everyone do it?
29. It triggers insecurites Why doesn’t everyone do it?
30. We lack training Why doesn’t everyone do it?
31. It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult “ - Seneca Why doesn’t everyone do it? Image Source: Wikipedia
32. Why doesn’t everyone do it? Accept The mission
33. Mentors Different kind of
34. 5 Mentoring aspects 1. Advisor
35. 5 Mentoring aspects 2. Listener
36. 5 Mentoring aspects 3. Connector
37. 5 Mentoring aspects 4. Cheerleader
38. 5 Mentoring aspects 5. Challenger
39. Who are/were Timebox: 1 min your mentors? Exercise Write down their names
40. Mentee Looking for a
41. (does not exist) The perfect mentee Makes things happen
42. (does not exist) The perfect mentee Is committed
43. (does not exist) The perfect mentee Influences others
44. Who could you Timebox: 1 min mentor? Exercise Write down their names
45. Mentor Looking for a
46. Know yourself What makes you awesome?
47. Know yourself Where do you want to go?
48. Know yourself Who are your role models?
49. Know yourself What outcome do you want?
50. Before you jump in
51. Before you jump in Life worth living?
52. Before you jump in Other followers?
53. Before you jump in Produces leaders?
54. Before you jump in Reproducible strenghts?
55. Who could be Timebox: 1 min your mentor? Exercise Write down their names
56. to rule them all! The one trick
57. Be there listen & ask questions!
58. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg “It’s not about the nail” Jason Headley
59. „Question Formulation Technique“ http://rightquestion.org/education
60. How to break the ice? What’s on your mind? …and what else?
61. How to break the ice? challenge? …and what else? What’s your biggest
62. How to break the ice? Article: “Stop wasting my time with your shitty one on one meetings!” - Mike Acton https://tinyurl.com/shitty11meetings
63. How to break the ice? Those who cannot tell their story don’t exist - Salman Rushdie “ Image Source: Wikipedia
64. Now! It starts
65. speakerdeck.com/timothep @timothep timbourguignon.fr devJourney.info mathema.de