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The forgotten art of mentoring (June 2017)

The forgotten art of mentoring (June 2017)

When did you last care, help or even accompany someone, a colleague for instance, on his life journey? We produce ever more content, day in and day out. Either for our blogs, while organizing communities or when pointing out to the internet where our whole knowledge is to be found. Haven't we forgotten the "human being" in this avalanche of information? We all learn, but so few of us do it through mentoring. The word mentoring can be scary for some. But mentoring is like a superpower that anyone can use. In this talk we will talk about learning, teaching, leading, accompanying and even letting be. We will discuss the role of a mentor and the differences with a coach, a godfather and a boss. How do you act as a mentor or a mentee, and what makes this relationship so unique and so fruitful? Finally, the audience we will make its first step toward mentoring through a practical exercise.

Tim Bourguignon

May 23, 2017
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  1. mentoring
    The forgotten art of
    MATHEMA Software GmbH
    @timothep
    Timothée Bourguignon
    timbourguignon.fr

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  2. A handfull of
    mentors
    Image Source: Wikipedia

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  3. Do you recognize
    those persons?
    Image Source: Wikipedia & ruthnoller.blogspot.de

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  4. Show me a successful
    individual and I’ll show
    you someone who had
    real positive influences
    in his or her life,
    a mentor”

    - Denzel Washington
    Image Source: Wikipedia

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  5. Where art thou?
    Mentors!

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  6. Mentor?
    What is a

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  7. Define
    “Méntōr”
    Image Source: Wikipedia

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  8. Anyone who has a positive,
    guiding influence in another
    person's life, a trusted
    counselor or guide
    - Merriam-Webster

    Define
    “mentor”

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  9. The many faces
    of mentoring
    Coach
    vs mentor

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  10. The many faces
    of mentoring
    Teacher & tutor
    vs mentor

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  11. The many faces
    of mentoring
    My mum
    vs mentor

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  12. The many faces
    of mentoring
    Sparring-partner
    vs mentor

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  13. The many faces
    of mentoring
    Godfather
    vs mentor

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  14. The many faces
    of mentoring
    Boss
    vs mentor

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  15. Anyone who intentionally
    has a positive, guiding
    influence in another person's
    life over a longer time period,
    a trusted counselor or guide
    - Merriam-Webster & me

    Define
    “mentor”

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  16. Why
    but why?
    Shu-Ha-Ri
    Stages of learning

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  17. What is in there
    for you?

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  18. Benefits for the
    mentee
    Kick
    start

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  19. Benefits for the
    mentee
    Impartial
    advice

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  20. Benefits for the
    mentee
    Encouragements
    and feedback

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  21. Benefits for the
    mentee
    Professional
    development

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  22. Benefits for the
    mentee
    Increased
    visibility

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  23. Men learn
    while they teach
    - Seneca the younger

    Image Source: Wikipedia
    Benefits for the
    mentor

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  24. Organisational
    insights
    Benefits for the
    mentor

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  25. We make a living
    by what we get,
    but we make a life
    by what we give”
    - Winston Churchill

    Image Source: Wikipedia
    Benefits for the
    mentor

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  26. We’re here to put
    a dent in the universe,
    otherwise why else
    even be here?
    - Steve Jobs

    Benefits for the
    mentor
    Image Source: Wikipedia

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  27. everyone do it?
    Why doesn’t

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  28. It takes
    work
    Why doesn’t
    everyone do it?

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  29. It triggers
    insecurites
    Why doesn’t
    everyone do it?

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  30. We lack
    training
    Why doesn’t
    everyone do it?

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  31. It is not because
    things are difficult
    that we do not dare,
    it is because
    we do not dare
    that they are difficult

    - Seneca
    Why doesn’t
    everyone do it?
    Image Source: Wikipedia

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  32. Why doesn’t
    everyone do it?
    Accept
    The mission

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  33. Mentors
    Different kind of

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  34. 5 Mentoring
    aspects
    1.
    Advisor

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  35. 5 Mentoring
    aspects
    2.
    Listener

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  36. 5 Mentoring
    aspects
    3.
    Connector

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  37. 5 Mentoring
    aspects
    4.
    Cheerleader

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  38. 5 Mentoring
    aspects
    5.
    Challenger

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  39. Who are/were
    Timebox: 1 min
    your mentors?
    Exercise
    Write down their names

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  40. Mentee
    Looking for a

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  41. (does not exist)
    The perfect
    mentee
    Makes things
    happen

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  42. (does not exist)
    The perfect
    mentee
    Is
    committed

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  43. (does not exist)
    The perfect
    mentee
    Influences
    others

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  44. Who could you
    Timebox: 1 min
    mentor?
    Exercise
    Write down their names

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  45. Mentor
    Looking for a

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  46. Know
    yourself
    What makes you
    awesome?

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  47. Know
    yourself
    Where do you want
    to go?

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  48. Know
    yourself
    Who are your
    role models?

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  49. Know
    yourself
    What outcome
    do you want?

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  50. Before you
    jump in

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  51. Before you
    jump in
    Life worth
    living?

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  52. Before you
    jump in
    Other
    followers?

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  53. Before you
    jump in
    Produces
    leaders?

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  54. Before you
    jump in
    Reproducible
    strenghts?

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  55. Who could be
    Timebox: 1 min
    your mentor?
    Exercise
    Write down their names

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  56. to rule them all!
    The one trick

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  57. Be there
    listen & ask questions!

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  58. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
    “It’s not about the nail”
    Jason Headley

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  59. „Question
    Formulation
    Technique“
    http://rightquestion.org/education

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  60. How to break
    the ice?
    What’s on your mind?
    …and what else?

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  61. How to break
    the ice?
    challenge?
    …and what else?
    What’s your biggest

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  62. How to break
    the ice?
    Article:
    “Stop wasting my time
    with your shitty one on
    one meetings!”
    - Mike Acton
    https://tinyurl.com/shitty11meetings

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  63. How to break
    the ice?
    Those who cannot
    tell their story
    don’t exist
    - Salman Rushdie

    Image Source: Wikipedia

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  64. Now!
    It starts

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  65. speakerdeck.com/timothep
    @timothep
    timbourguignon.fr
    devJourney.info
    mathema.de

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