(2017 - 3/9) Navigating Difficult Conversations

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September 29, 2017

(2017 - 3/9) Navigating Difficult Conversations

Calibrate 2017 (3/9) - https://www.calibratesf.com/

"Navigating Difficult Conversations" - Shivani Sharma, Slack, Sr. Engineering Manager


Shivani is a Senior Engineering Manager at Slack and currently leads the New User Experience engineering team. She is passionate about the engineering leadership craft. She is a mentor in the www.platohq.com community where she mentors startup CTOs and engineering managers. Shivani also recently joined the Ascent expert community, a program in partnership with Sequoia Capital, that focuses on career development and mentorship for professional women. In her 10 years working in Silicon Valley she has worked at Google, BigFix and IBM. She is a UCLA graduate in Electrical Engineering and in her free time enjoys running, yoga and when she can get away, exploring the world.


Calibrate is a conference for new engineering leaders hosted by seasoned engineering leaders. Organized and hosted by Sharethrough, it was conducted on September 30, 2015, September 30, 2016 and September 29, 2017 in San Francisco, California.



September 29, 2017


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  2. Shivani Sharma Senior Engineering Manager Slack

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  4. Foundation

  5. The ability to identify and manage your own emotions and

    the emotions of others
 Emotional Intelligence
  6. Trust & Mutual Respect

  7. Blog post: Questions for first 1:1 http://larahogan.me/blog/first-one-on-one-questions/

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  9. Lead by Example

  10. e·qua·nim·i·ty noun mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially

    in a difficult situation
  11. Multiple Perspectives

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  13. What did you see?

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  15. Common scenarios

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  17. Why are we conflict averse?

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  19. Breathing

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  23. Difficult Conversations Structure

  24. Prepare

  25. Prepare 1. What is the purpose of having a conversation?

    2. What happened? 3. What was the effect? 4. What is the outcome you want? 5. What is the worst case scenario?
  26. Practice

  27. Practice Person 1: Manager Person 2: Employee Person 3: Silent

  28. Deliver

  29. Deliver 1. Raise the issue 2. Understand their perspective

 (What was the effect?) 3. Share your perspective 4. Align miscommunication
  30. Problem Solve

  31. Retrospective

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