3-3 Doing too much, Shiny New Planner Syndrome

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1. Module 3-3_ Doing too much, Sh... New Planner Syndrome [5 mins] Wed, Apr 27, 2022 9:30AM 4:48 SUMMARY KEYWORDS calendar, dopamine, planner, shiny, spend, brain, find, talking, important, part, commitment, patricia, priority, habit, prioritizing, resource, setting, work, outsource, overwhelm SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:01 Welcome back mamas, we are in module three. And this is part three, we're talking about all of our obstacles. Now, we've been talking about overwhelm, and one of those places that we can get really overwhelmed is doing too many things. When we look at our calendar, so if you were to hand it to somebody else and say, based on what you see on patricius, calendar, what would you say are the most important things to Patricia? Oh, how's that gonna go? Patricia Sung 00:27 I think when someone would look at me, they would get part of the picture. But I feel like they also would not get part of the picture of what's important to me, because there are some things that I need to prioritize better. If you could think about what are your hopes or I got here? What are your top three priorities in your life for me, that's God, my husband, my kids. And then after that comes, you know, friends and the podcast and teaching you all and when I look at my calendar, I'm thinking, oh, you know what I have been saying for a while now that I need to figure out how I'm going to spend more like find the right rhythm for quiet time. Patricia Sung 01:04 Things have been kind of crazy at our house with all the construction. And I don't have that written on my calendar, I haven't written down like, this is the commitment I'm making to myself to spend time with God. And you can tell by my calendar that it is not a priority right now. And so I'm like, ooh, feeling well convicted here, as I'm talking to you. I want people to know, if they were to look at your calendar or my calendar, what's really important, because when we know what's important to us, it's a lot easier for us to say, no. We do it is it is hard for us because prioritizing is a problem like our brains don't do that automatically.
2. Patricia Sung 01:44 We have to really be intentional about what's important for us. And we need to be able to step back and like look at the big picture in the moment. Our brains are impulsive, and we deal with whatever's in front of us. And that's really hard for us to say no, because when somebody asks us for something, we're like, oh, yeah, sure, we can do that. And all of a sudden, we're throwing more things on our plate. I can spend easily, like probably a whole class on this. Patricia Sung 02:09 I love this topic has been a recent self development project for myself is learning to say no, and setting and holding boundaries. And while I'm not going to expect you to like dive into all that in our calendar class, I do want you to start to think about what really is important to you. And are you making space for those things on your calendar? What can we cut out? What is it that we have been doing that we could find a way to exit that we could find a way to pass off to somebody else that we can outsource that we can, you know, stop doing that volunteer commitment, because it's no longer truly passionate in our hearts? What are the things that we could let go so that we can spend time on the things that really matter to us? Patricia Sung 02:55 Yeah, before I always say, I will be here for 100 years talking about this topic. So let me go. Work. So next obstacle is shiny new planner syndrome. I don't know about you, but I love a good office supply. Especially having been a teacher like opening a new pack of pens just makes me happy, as does getting a fresh notebook or a new planner. And we often we'll start with one and we do it for a little bit. And then it goes to sit on the shelf and collect dust. And then we're like, oh yeah, I was gonna work on that. And we get a new shiny new planet, we get all excited about it. Patricia Sung 03:29 Well, we want to recognize that dopamine hit that we get when we get the shiny new planner, and we get all excited about it. And recognize that, hey, this is just how my brain works. It likes that into dopamine, it likes the shiny new thing. That's okay. But we don't want to do that. Here on our planners, we want to stick with one system. And we want to find a different way to get our dopamine, which if you know you can grab a resource on my website, there's a free resource about all the treatments you can do for ADHD. And most of them are ways that we can find dopamine in a healthy way. Patricia Sung 04:00 So where else can we find that dopamine? Not through our planners? It's a hard habit to come out of. But when we see that it is a fun shiny thing for us. We can recognize, okay, that's why I like that it is makes my brain happy. Okay. I'm going to try to get that dopamine hit somewhere else and focus in on this one plan. I really want you to commit to this for the next at least two
3. months but I'd really like to ask you to do it for three months. So we work together and we're working on this new plan and we're setting it in because it takes us a while to develop our habits. Because there and we'll continue on in just a moment.