Becoming Giants Workshop by Zol and Zola

This workshop gives you a step by step guide to organising your life and goals.

This workshop was a key workshop at the Zol and Zola club

Transcript

2. By Wafa Elamin for Zol and Zola Becoming Giants Workshop
4. What we will cover in this workshop: 1. Defining what success means to you and understanding the fear of failure 2. Planning your life, Settling achievable goals and changing the habits you dislike about yourself 3. Make sure you remain consistent towards achieving your goals 4. Learning to have a positive attitude in life 5. Becoming an independent thinker in a tough community
5. All great change BEGINS with you!... But in order to be great, you need to know where you are going in life.
6. Where do I start???
8. Define what success means to you! 1) Draw a mind map of all the things that if you get or reach means you have now become a successful person!
9. 2) Ask yourself…If you achieve those things will your life be complete? 3) Also, are these things what you want to be remembered by in 50 years time?
11. All those things are good. But for you to continue to work on it, at least one part of your definition of success must be connected to your purpose in life.
12. Purpose is often about people and value.
13. Remember: 1. You can achieve anything you want. Nothing is impossible 2. Success is not limited by a single event. 3. There is no easy path to winning 4. Luck has nothing to do with. 5. You will definitely fail along the way 6. Attitude is everything. 7. You must get over the “If only” syndrome…
14. …I lived outside of Sudan …I was born into a rich family …I knew how to speak better English …I was not…. Syndrome!
15. You will definitely fail first!
16. Think about this…is failure acceptable in the Sudanese Society?
17. [Failure is NOT opposite to success] 85% will allow their fear of failure stop them from TRYING….Mistakes are part of the learning process
18. Fail forward... ...means learning from each mistake and adjusting your attitude towards failure. Everyone fails but not everyone fails forward!!! -John Maxwell
19. Most people react by: 1) Trying to covering-up their mistakes 2) Making excuses and blaming something or someone else
20. 3) Start working harder and faster without changing direction!
21. 4) Falling into a long cycle of self-pity and self-doubt
22. To be successful, we need to failure... FAIL ADJUST TRY
23. As we are adjusting we need to: 1. Be honest and open about our mistakes 2. Take responsibility for our actions 3. Look at what went wrong and change our action plan 4. Spend little time self-pitying and more time raising our self up again
27. Have a definitive goal for the year!
28. If you don’t write your goals down there is only a 3-6% chance of accomplishing them. The moment they are written down that immediately becomes a 60-80% chance. Dr Shad Helmstetter
30. 1. Begin with “I want to reach________” 2. Write the date specifically (day, month, year) of when you want to reach your goal. 3. Write the obstacles you will face 4. Write the solutions to overcome them 5. Track your goals on a 5 year and 1 year plan (using a ladder & to do list) Lets write one correctly…
31. 5. Track your goals on a 5 year and 1 year plan
32. Make sure you have a Plan B… This Plan can start similarly to Plan A but changes as the years move forward.
33. Now answer these questions: 1. Will these goals help me reach success? 2. Are these goals my dreams or am I doing them to satisfy someone else? 3. Do these goals make me uncomfortable or nervous? 4. WHAT IS MY PLAN B???
34. The only way you grow is if you step outside your comfort-zone
36. Track your monthly goals on :
38. Answer these questions honestly: “Do you want to be successful?” “Do you EXPECT to be successful?”
39. The word ‘want’ comes up in conversation but expectation comes up in action.” -Les Brown
40. “Most people don’t expect to succeed and therefore never change their behaviours and habits.
41. Law of consistency! What you do daily is more important than what you do once a year or once a month. It is the small HABITS that bring success.
42. “If you always do what you’ve always done Then you’ll always get what you’ve always got” - John Maxwell So he suggests instead that we follow “The Rule of 5”
43. If a man or woman hits a tree 5 times every day with an axe, what will happen? It will fall.
44. The Rule of 5 says: Your goals are a tree. The axe in your hand is the small actions you do daily to reach that goal. To reach your goal, you must do 5 small actions (which will become habit after a while) to help you reach your goal.
45. What are these habits? They vary from person to person and goal to goal but it could be: 1) Read for 10 minutes a day 2) Talk to professionals in my field 3) Write 500 words daily 4) Learn 10 new words of a new language 5) Practise talking in front of a crowd for 3 minutes…
46. Now write your Rule of 5? Every day I: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Make sure they are realistic and achieveable!
47. Prioritize your life Many people want to do so much, RIGHT NOW!!! Remember “You can do anything you want in life, but not all at the same time”. Prioritize and focus on your most important goals.
48. It’s not enough to just change habits. The people around you must push you forward
49. Have a strong Power Circle! “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”- Jim Rohn Who are the 5 people you spend most time with?
50. Your closest friends should raise your self-esteem. Don’t allow anyone to de-motivate you even if they are joking.
52. And of course, prevent distractions from Invading your life Ask yourself: “What are the things that are truly distracting me and how can I gradually remove them from my life?”
55. Defining one’s attitude Positive Attitude Reacting to bad events Daily Self- talk Very Hard to adjust
56. Everybody has a positive attitude when their life is going well…. Your true attitude only shows when things go BAD!
57. People panic and they become immobilised by fear and uncertainty.
58. How to deal with bad situations: 1. Stay calm and act normally 2. Don’t make a permanent decision for a temporary problem. 3. Remember your core beliefs and life philosophies
59. Life standards at Zol and Zola Don’t hurt anyone Don’t lie, steal or cheating Be kind. Never be rude Don’t cut corners Take responsibility Don’t complaining Don’t make excuses These are our life standards. Make a life of yours!
60. Now lets talk about self-talk and the human mind!!
62. Dr. Shad Helmstetter explained how our mind is affected by the (Positive or Negative) messages we receive daily.
63. Each message we get makes a pathway in our mind…like someone walking for the first time in a field of grass. It isn’t permanent however!
64. With time, that pathway becomes a walk way if we continue to walk on it. It has changed the landscape but the process is still reversible.
65. Eventually, the walkway becomes a road way and it is now permanent. To undo this will require a lot of effort and time.
66. The roadway becomes a highway and it has drastically changed the landscape. It is now almost impossible reverse it.
67. When we receive messages we go through a similar process in our minds. If the positive message continue, we become positive thinkers and if the negative ones continue we become negative thinkers.
68. Unfortunately, Between the age of 1 to 18 we hear the words ‘No’ and “What we cant do” over 148,000. - Dr. Shad Helmstetter
69. What effect will this have on the children?
70. Who are responsible? These messages come from people who love us and want to protect us. However 1. They teach us that there is a limit to what we can do. 2. And that we should be afraid of taking risks Eventually when we become adults the negative voice is no longer from the external environment!
71. “Don’t…” “You cant…” “You’ll never…”
72. In a recent survey on our page..63% of the people said talked themselves out of doing something.
73. How do I solve this? Listen to your inner voice daily 1. Write these words down and circle the negative words 2. Replace them with positive phrases Listen to positive external messages 1. Listen to positive messages everyday from motivational speakers 2. Record yourself saying positive encouraging advice
75. Independence is affected by: 1. The environment around you 2. Your personality (what value you place on yourself)
76. Lets talk about responsibility?... 1) Who here is fully responsible for his or her self? 2) Who relies on someone else? What do you rely on them for?
78. Differences between Cultures Individualism 1. Independent Control 2. Take care of yourself/close family only 3. “I” consciousness 4. Competition with others 5. Uniqueness is valued - speak your mind 6. Relies on own knowledge 7. Direct Communication 8. Consistent self in all situations 9. Prefers to work alone 10. Right of Privacy Collectivism 1. Controlled by larger group 2. Sense of belonging 3. “We” consciousness 4. Duty to whole group 5. Harmony with others is more important than uniqueness 6. Advice sought from others 7. Self changes with situation 8. Hierarchy is important 9. Prefers to work in groups 10. Less desire for privacy
80. Which 7 values do you want in your life? Individualism 1. Independent Control 2. Take care of yourself/close family only 3. “I” consciousness 4. Competition with others 5. Uniqueness is valued - speak your mind 6. Relies on own knowledge 7. Direct Communication 8. Consistent self in all situations 9. Prefers to work alone 10. Right of Privacy Collectivism 1. Controlled by larger group 2. Sense of belonging 3. “We” consciousness 4. Duty to whole group 5. Harmony with others is more important than uniqueness 6. Advice sought from others 7. Self changes with situation 8. Hierarchy is important 9. Prefers to work in groups 10. Less desire for privacy
81. Using the values you picked make an independence plan… 1. What is independence for me? 2. When do I want to become dependent? 3. What steps will I take to become independent?
82. www.16personalities.com
83. What is my personality? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? Hard worker Dreamer Responsible Highly emotional Temper impatient How do I need to change NOW! What do I need add to my personality? Impatience… develop a rule for three days before I over react More generous Make concrete decisions
84. What is my personality? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? How do I need to change NOW! What do I need add to my personality?
85. Make a list of 7 things you took away from this workshop. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. These will be your 7 steps towards change...set a time with your table mats to review in 6 weeks and in 12 weeks.
86. “At the end of your entire life, you will have traded your entire life, for no dream, a small dream or a big dream” - Anonymous
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