Designing Confidence: A Workshop for Dealing with Impostor Syndrome

A mini-workshop that Lori Widelitz-Cavallucci and I gave at the 2015 IA Summit

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1. #ImpSyn Designing Confidence: A Workshop for Dealing with Impostor Syndrome Lori Widelitz-Cavallucci Amy Silvers IA Summit 
 April 26, 2015 #ImpSyn
2. #ImpSyn • Take Our Survey: http://goo.gl/VeYzId • Collaborate on our wiki: https:// sites.google.com/site/designingconfidence/ welcome • Email us: designingconfidence@gmail.com
3. #ImpSyn @lwcavallucci @A_Silvers #DesignConfidence
4. #ImpSyn My co-workers Me
5. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn “Impostor Phenomenon designates an internal experience of intellectual phoniness.”
6. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn “I’m not as capable as people think I am.”
7. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn Any praise and recognition leads to discounting the success.
8. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn “My success is due to luck and nothing else.”
9. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn Outperform
10. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn Avoid
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15. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn What's the worst thing that can happen?
16. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn Don't equate expertise with infallibility. We can be both.
17. #ImpSyn Oops!
18. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn We only see what others want us to see, including insecurities and fears.
19. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn Behaviors = changeable Attributes not changeable
20. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn "just" "only"
21. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn Get one! Be one!
23. #ImpSyn –Steven Ungerleider, Ph.D. “…research shows that athletes who envision themselves performing well throughout the day tend to have these positive visions at night …reinforcing the image of success in their brains.”
24. #ImpSyn You can’t get rid of negative thoughts, but you can make them powerless.
25. #ImpSyn #ImpSyn We are all in this together. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
26. #ImpSyn Habit Loop
27. #ImpSyn Story Arc Current State Exposition Inciting Incident or Complication Rising Action Crisis Climax Falling Action or Denouement
28. #ImpSyn Story Arc Example of Current State Interviewing for a new job, feeling positive about how interviews went Receiving rejections from the interviews & feeling like a fraud Raging Impostor Syndrome I can’t do this job and must not have any talent as a designer otherwise these interviews would have better outcomes - feels like giving up Fighting to prove these feelings wrong This is “effing” hard!!! Where do you go from here???? (You’ll create this in your Future State) Future State: What’s the reward? Future State: This is where you will overcome
29. #ImpSyn Story Arc Future (Desired) State Exposition Inciting Incident or Complication Rising Action Crisis Climax Falling Action or Denouement
30. #ImpSyn “What happens when Impostor Syndrome takes over?”
31. #ImpSyn Exercise:
 Muscle memory and identifying triggers
32. #ImpSyn “He who has a why can endure any how.” Frederick Nietzche
33. #ImpSyn Find Your Purpose
34. #ImpSyn A Final Thought “The beauty of the impostor syndrome is you vacillate between extreme egomania and a complete feeling of: ‘I’m a fraud! Oh God, they’re on to me! I’m a fraud!’ So you just try to ride the egomania when it comes and enjoy it, and then slide through the idea of fraud.”—Tina Fey
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36. #ImpSyn Thanks for participating!
37. #ImpSyn • Take Our Survey: http://goo.gl/VeYzId • Collaborate on our wiki: https:// sites.google.com/site/designingconfidence/ welcome • Email us: designingconfidence@gmail.com