Baby Driven Development RubyConf

When I became a parent, I was completely unprepared for the challenges that awaited me. I reached out to hundreds of fellow parents in tech and learned there are common challenges that simply aren’t spoken about. These focus around one fact that no one wants to admit... parenting is not fun. Parenting is stressful, difficult, and oftentimes incredibly lonely. But being a parent also makes people more organized, focused, and empathetic. We’ll explore these survey results to expose common trends and issues and discuss solutions that show how supporting parents helps all team members thrive.

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1. BDD: Baby Driven Development Allison McMillan @allie_p #babydrivendev
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45. Moms and Dads Both 5% Neither 30% Hurt 38% Helped 27% #babydrivendev @allie_p
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58. • Parental Leave Company • Creative Working Options #babydrivendev @allie_p
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68. • Parental Leave Company • Creative Working Options • Support Systems • Realistic Expectations #babydrivendev @allie_p
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73. • Parental Leave Company • Creative Working Options • Support Systems • Realistic Expectations • Don’t Make It Weird #babydrivendev @allie_p
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78. • Parental Leave • Creative Working Options • Support Systems • Realistic Expectations • Don’t Make It Weird Company #babydrivendev @allie_p
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91. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take self-care days #babydrivendev @allie_p
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102. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take self-care days • Optimize the time you have available • Talk to other parents #babydrivendev @allie_p • Share that mental load
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108. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take self-care days • Optimize the time you have available • Talk to other parents #babydrivendev @allie_p • Share that mental load • Leave If You Have To
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116. Colleagues • Ask about leave policies #babydrivendev @allie_p
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121. Colleagues • Ask about leave policies • Ask about lactation rooms • Ask how your colleague is doing and listen to the answer #babydrivendev @allie_p
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126. Colleagues • Ask about leave policies • Ask about lactation rooms • Ask how your colleague is doing and listen to the answer • Stand up in groups • Google it #babydrivendev @allie_p
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131. • InHerSight: https://www.inhersight.com/ • Fairy Godboss: https://fairygodboss.com/ • Parental leave repo (older resource): https://github.com/davedash/parental- leave Resources #babydrivendev @allie_p • Additional Resources: http:// daydreamsinruby.com/bdd-resources/
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139. Just… High Fives. You’re Awesome. Be Confident! #babydrivendev @allie_p
140. Thank you #babydrivendev @allie_p @allie_p allison.p.mcmillan@gmail.com https://atom.io/ www.daydreamsinruby.com www.parentdrivendevelopment.com