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Baby Driven Development RubyConf

Baby Driven Development RubyConf

When I became a parent, I was completely unprepared for the challenges that awaited me. I reached out to hundreds of fellow parents in tech and learned there are common challenges that simply aren’t spoken about. These focus around one fact that no one wants to admit... parenting is not fun. Parenting is stressful, difficult, and oftentimes incredibly lonely. But being a parent also makes people more organized, focused, and empathetic. We’ll explore these survey results to expose common trends and issues and discuss solutions that show how supporting parents helps all team members thrive.

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Allison McMillan

November 14, 2018
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  1. BDD: Baby Driven Development Allison McMillan @allie_p #babydrivendev

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  45. Moms and Dads Both 5% Neither 30% Hurt 38% Helped

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  46. Dads Moms Both 8% Neither 13% Hurt 59% Helped 20%

    Both 3% Neither 41% Hurt 24% Helped 32% #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  53. • Parental Leave Company #babydrivendev @allie_p

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  58. • Parental Leave Company • Creative Working Options #babydrivendev @allie_p

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  64. • Parental Leave Company • Creative Working Options • Support

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  68. • Parental Leave Company • Creative Working Options • Support

    Systems • Realistic Expectations #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  73. • Parental Leave Company • Creative Working Options • Support

    Systems • Realistic Expectations • Don’t Make It Weird #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  78. • Parental Leave • Creative Working Options • Support Systems

    • Realistic Expectations • Don’t Make It Weird Company #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  83. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt #babydrivendev @allie_p

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  87. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized #babydrivendev @allie_p

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  91. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take

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  95. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take

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  98. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take

    self-care days • Optimize the time you have available • Talk to other parents #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  102. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take

    self-care days • Optimize the time you have available • Talk to other parents #babydrivendev @allie_p • Share that mental load
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  108. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take

    self-care days • Optimize the time you have available • Talk to other parents #babydrivendev @allie_p • Share that mental load • Leave If You Have To
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  112. Parent • Disappear Parent Guilt • Get organized • Take

    self-care days • Optimize the time you have available • Talk to other parents • Leave If You Have To #babydrivendev @allie_p • Share that mental load
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  116. Colleagues • Ask about leave policies #babydrivendev @allie_p

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  118. Colleagues • Ask about leave policies • Ask about lactation

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  121. Colleagues • Ask about leave policies • Ask about lactation

    rooms • Ask how your colleague is doing and listen to the answer #babydrivendev @allie_p
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    rooms • Ask how your colleague is doing and listen to the answer • Stand up in groups #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  126. Colleagues • Ask about leave policies • Ask about lactation

    rooms • Ask how your colleague is doing and listen to the answer • Stand up in groups • Google it #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  128. • Ask about leave policies • Ask about lactation rooms

    • Ask how your colleague is doing and listen to the answer • Stand up in groups Colleagues • Google it #babydrivendev @allie_p
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  131. • InHerSight: https://www.inhersight.com/ • Fairy Godboss: https://fairygodboss.com/ • Parental leave

    repo (older resource): https://github.com/davedash/parental- leave Resources #babydrivendev @allie_p • Additional Resources: http:// daydreamsinruby.com/bdd-resources/
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  139. Just… High Fives. You’re Awesome. Be Confident! #babydrivendev @allie_p

  140. Thank you #babydrivendev @allie_p @allie_p allison.p.mcmillan@gmail.com https://atom.io/ www.daydreamsinruby.com www.parentdrivendevelopment.com