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Baby Driven Development RubyConf

Baby Driven Development RubyConf

When I became a parent, I was completely unprepared for the challenges that awaited me. I reached out to hundreds of fellow parents in tech and learned there are common challenges that simply aren’t spoken about. These focus around one fact that no one wants to admit... parenting is not fun. Parenting is stressful, difficult, and oftentimes incredibly lonely. But being a parent also makes people more organized, focused, and empathetic. We’ll explore these survey results to expose common trends and issues and discuss solutions that show how supporting parents helps all team members thrive.

Allison McMillan

November 14, 2018
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  1. BDD:
    Baby Driven Development
    Allison McMillan
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  45. Moms and Dads
    Both
    5%
    Neither
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    Hurt
    38%
    Helped
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  46. Dads
    Moms
    Both
    8%
    Neither
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    Hurt
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    Helped
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    Neither
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    Helped
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    https://www.henrikkleven.com/uploads/3/7/3/1/37310663/kleven-landais-sogaard_nber-w24219_jan2018.pdf

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  53. • Parental Leave
    Company
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  58. • Parental Leave
    Company
    • Creative Working Options
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    Company
    • Creative Working Options
    • Support Systems
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  73. • Parental Leave
    Company
    • Creative Working Options
    • Support Systems
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    • Don’t Make It Weird
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  78. • Parental Leave
    • Creative Working Options
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    • Don’t Make It Weird
    Company
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  83. Parent
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  87. Parent
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  91. Parent
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  95. Parent
    • Disappear Parent Guilt
    • Get organized
    • Take self-care days
    • Optimize the time you have
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    • Disappear Parent Guilt
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    • Take self-care days
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    • Get organized
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    • Share that mental load

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    • Share that mental load
    • Leave If You Have To

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    • Disappear Parent Guilt
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    • Share that mental load

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  116. Colleagues
    • Ask about leave policies
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  118. Colleagues
    • Ask about leave policies
    • Ask about lactation rooms
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  121. Colleagues
    • Ask about leave policies
    • Ask about lactation rooms
    • Ask how your colleague is
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  123. Colleagues
    • Ask about leave policies
    • Ask about lactation rooms
    • Ask how your colleague is
    doing and listen to the answer
    • Stand up in groups
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  126. Colleagues
    • Ask about leave policies
    • Ask about lactation rooms
    • Ask how your colleague is
    doing and listen to the answer
    • Stand up in groups
    • Google it
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  128. • Ask about leave policies
    • Ask about lactation rooms
    • Ask how your colleague is
    doing and listen to the answer
    • Stand up in groups
    Colleagues
    • Google it
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  131. • InHerSight: https://www.inhersight.com/
    • Fairy Godboss: https://fairygodboss.com/
    • Parental leave repo (older resource):
    https://github.com/davedash/parental-
    leave
    Resources
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    • Additional Resources: http://
    daydreamsinruby.com/bdd-resources/

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  139. Just…
    High Fives.
    You’re Awesome.
    Be Confident!
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  140. Thank you
    #babydrivendev
    @allie_p
    @allie_p [email protected]
    https://atom.io/ www.daydreamsinruby.com
    www.parentdrivendevelopment.com

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