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Building effective relationships

Building effective relationships

Working as a staff+ engineer can be a lonely or confusing experience. In a leadership role, it’s often impossible to directly emulate the behaviour of other coworkers and unclear whom to go to to get feedback and provide or receive mentorship and coaching. As a result, many staff+ engineers can end up relatively siloed while the business requires them to have a broad outlook and provide feedback on areas they are not directly working on.

In this talk, I’ll discuss the following:
- the three types of relationships critical to cultivate: mentor, mentee and peer
- how to decide which relationships to invest in vs move on from
- how to use these relationships to improve your career, your success and work and build up everyone surrounding you
- how to still do this when remote or timezone separated from your coworkers

Mike McQuaid

March 16, 2023
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  1. Building Effective
    Relationships


    👵 🏁🏅🌏
    @MikeMcQuaid

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  2. me


    👋

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  3. Project Leader of Homebrew
    (Homebrew Maintainer 2009 – Present)

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  4. Principal Engineer at GitHub
    (GitHub Engineer 2013 – 2023)

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  5. CTO/Cofounder at Raise.dev
    (2023)

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  6. 👵 mentors


    👶 mentees


    👯 peers

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  7. 😬


    can I have a mentor?

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  8. 😬


    can I have a mentee?

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  9. The Mentorship Diamond (mmq.lol/mentor)

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  10. 🎬 start


    🏁 stop


    💬 continue

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  11. 👭 new team


    📽 new project


    🌏 new location

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  12. 👭 old team


    📽 old project


    🌏 old location

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  13. 🔁 old chat


    📥 too busy


    ✅ job done

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  14. 🥑 fresh chat


    ⏳ have time


    ▶ in progress

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  15. 🏗 career


    🏅 success


    🥰 build up

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  16. 🚠 internal move


    🧑🏫 learning


    📲 networking

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  17. 🗓 other plans


    🧐 outside eyes


    🛒 get buy in

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  18. 🥳 congratulate


    😭 commisserate


    😊 closeness

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  19. 💑 in-person


    🎥 remote


    🌏 distributed

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  20. 🐕🦺 dog walk


    🍲 lunch


    🏖 visiting

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  21. 👩💻 pairing


    ☎ audio calls


    📹 video calls

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  22. 👀 async review


    📡 async chat


    🫶 share tasks

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  23. questions?


    🙋


    @[email protected]


    @MikeMcQuaid


    [email protected]

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