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HugOps For Humans: Self-Care to Selfless Care

HugOps For Humans: Self-Care to Selfless Care

Americans are experiencing the highest levels of stress in a decade. And if you are someone from a marginalized community, or working in the tech industry, you likely experience other stressors from concerns around your personal safety, professional growth, and self-esteem. All of which have huge impact on our physical and mental well-being. So how do we instrument ourselves to learn from past crashes so we can detect and manage or mitigate the effects on our health and happiness? In this talk, I hope to share my own journey in self-care and self-acceptance. And use the #HugOps analogy to explore how we as a community can move from self-care, to self-less care, where we share stories and create support networks that help us all survive, and thrive, in challenging times.

Nitya Narasimhan, PhD

October 04, 2019
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  1. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    @nitya
    #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans
    HugOps For
    Humans
    From Self-Care
    To Selfless-Care.
    Nitya Narasimhan | #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans | @nitya
    Image Credit: Noun Project

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  2. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Cloud + AI, Startups, ProDev
    Developer Relations
    Community Health
    & Advocacy
    PhD, Polymath
    Parent
    Personal Health
    & Technology
    Nitya Narasimhan | @nitya

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  3. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Image Credit: Unsplash
    Have you experienced
    stress or anxiety
    recently?

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  4. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Credit: Stress In America, Nov 2017
    Credit: Stress In America, Gen Z, Oct 2018
    Credit: New York Times, April 2019
    You are not alone!

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  5. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Image Credit: Emojipedia
    Stress
    transient
    Anxiety
    persistent
    Depression
    pervasive
    Unchecked stress will lead to
    bigger mental and physical
    health issues ..

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  6. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Self Care
    can help you manage
    your stress better
    Image Credit: Unsplash
    Community Care
    is about sharing
    the burdens together

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  7. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    https://www.statuspage.io/hugops

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  8. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Complex
    Systems
    Unpredictable
    Stressors
    Continuous
    Availability
    Observability
    Detect patterns = warning
    Empathy
    Embrace failures = learning
    Communication
    Share learnings = growing
    CONTEXT CULTURE
    DEVOPS HUGOPS

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  9. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Complex
    Systems
    Unpredictable
    Stressors
    Continuous
    Availability
    Observability
    Detect patterns = warning
    Empathy
    Embrace failures = learning
    Communication
    Share learnings = growing
    CONTEXT CULTURE
    DEVOPS HUGOPS
    Human-Ops

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  10. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Know Your Enemy
    Let’s talk about stress
    Image Credit: Unsplash
    Acute Stress
    Episodic Stress
    Chronic Stress

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  11. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Allostatic Load
    Cumulative Wear and Tear..
    Image Credit: Unsplash
    ..on the body can cause
    permanent
    changes to brain architecture and
    reduce
    ability to cope with future
    uncertainity

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  12. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Stress
    Our body’s response to
    perceived threats to mental
    or physical well-being
    Image Credit: Unsplash
    Adaptive
    Stress Response
    our built-in surival instincts
    adrenaline (fight or flight)
    cortisol (alert, persistence)

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  13. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Learn
    TRIGGERS
    Manage
    RESPONSES
    Share
    BURDENS
    How can we effect change?
    Refactor our
    behaviors
    Revitalize our
    communities
    Psychological
    Environmental
    Physiological
    Social
    Anger
    Fear
    Insecurity
    Anxiety
    Ask for Help
    Offer Help
    Share Stories
    Give Feedback

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  14. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Learn Triggers
    ENVIRONMENTAL
    PHYSIOLOGICAL
    PSYCHOLOGICAL
    SOCIAL
    Pollution
    & Toxins
    Food &
    Drink
    Illness &
    Sleep
    Injury &
    Disability
    Family &
    Friends
    Social
    Media
    Self Esteem

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  15. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Image Credit: Unsplash
    Stress vs. Self-Esteem
    A destructive cycle
    Manage
    STRESS
    CONTROL
    STRATEGIES
    Mitigate
    RESPONSES
    COPING
    STRATEGIES
    Boost
    SELF-ESTEEM
    COMFORT
    STRATEGIES
    Manage Responses

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  16. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    MANAGE STRESS
    Control Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    time-based triggers
    #30Days
    Food
    Sleep
    Exercise

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  17. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    MANAGE STRESS
    Control Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    space-based triggers
    #Declutter
    Social Media
    Workspace
    Memorabilia
    “Does it spark joy?”

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  18. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    MITIGATE RESPONSES
    Coping Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    cultivate calm
    #Refocus
    Sketching
    Meditation
    Knitting

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  19. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    MITIGATE RESPONSES
    Coping Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    support systems
    #Ally-Up
    Run Interference
    Collective Bargaining
    Moral Support
    Ask others to help!

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  20. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    BOOST ESTEEM
    Comfort Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    celebrate milestones
    #GratefulFor
    Anniversaries
    Successes
    Failures

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  21. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    BOOST ESTEEM
    Comfort Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    know yourself
    #SelfAcceptance
    Culture (by birth)
    Nurture (by upbringing)
    Venture (by choice)

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  22. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    BOOST ESTEEM
    Comfort Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    value yourself
    #SelfAppreciation
    Embrace achievements
    Embrace failures
    Champion yourself
    Practice saying..
    Thank You when complimented
    I (not we) when you did the work
    No thanks to emotional labor
    Yes thanks when offered leadership roles
    My turn when overlooked for opinions
    Mine too when overlooked for rewards
    It happens! on having failures

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  23. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    BOOST ESTEEM
    Comfort Strategies
    Image Credit: @nitya
    grow yourself
    #SelfAppraisal
    Focus
    Feedback
    Forgiveness
    FOCUS
    Set clear goals
    Make concrete plans
    FEEDBACK
    Ask for help
    Trust (but verify)
    FORGIVENESS
    Assess mistakes
    Then move on

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  24. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Self-Care
    Put on your
    oxygen
    mask first
    Image Credit: Unsplash

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  25. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Self Care to
    Self-less
    Care
    Self-care
    cannot solve
    systemic
    issues!
    Credit: Flare.com / April 2019

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  26. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    We need to destigmatize
    burdening others,
    normalize asking for help, and
    challenge ableism
    “Beyond Self-Care Bubble Baths: A Vision for Community Care”
    ~ Abeni Jones (Jul 2017)

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  27. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    Self-Care to Selfless-Care
    Stress
    Anxiety
    Depression
    Break the
    Stress, Self
    Esteem Cycle
    CONTROL
    30-Days
    Declutter
    Help yourself
    Ask for help
    Help others
    COPE
    Refocus
    Ally-Up
    COMFORT
    Celebration
    Self-Acceptance
    Self-Appreciation
    Self-Appraisal

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  28. #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans @nitya
    @nitya
    #AsburyAgile19 #HugOps4Humans
    Thank You!
    Slides: https://aka.ms/2019-10-AsburyAgile
    Work In Progress:
    Site: https://selfcare.dev
    Nitya Narasimhan, PhD | @nitya | #HugOps4Humans

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