Americans are experiencing the highest levels of stress in a decade. And if you are someone from a marginalized community, or working in the tech industry, you likely experience other stressors from concerns around your personal safety, professional growth, and self-esteem. All of which have huge impact on our physical and mental well-being. So how do we instrument ourselves to learn from past crashes so we can detect and manage or mitigate the effects on our health and happiness? In this talk, I hope to share my own journey in self-care and self-acceptance. And use the #HugOps analogy to explore how we as a community can move from self-care, to self-less care, where we share stories and create support networks that help us all survive, and thrive, in challenging times.