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You Need A Break - Women Who Code Mobile Summit, Online, July 2022

You Need A Break - Women Who Code Mobile Summit, Online, July 2022

A lightning talk about the things I told myself to avoid taking a break, and the benefits when I finally took one.

Ellen Shapiro
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July 27, 2022
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  1. You Need A Break Women Who Code Mobile Summit |

    Online | July 2022 Ellen Shapiro | @DesignatedNerd | DesignatedNerd.com
  2. Recent Resume

  3. Recent Resume → Apollo GraphQL (6/19-2/22)

  4. Recent Resume → Apollo GraphQL (6/19-2/22) → ???? (2/22-6/22)

  5. Recent Resume → Apollo GraphQL (6/19-2/22) → ???? (2/22-6/22) →

    Gusto (6/22-present)
  6. ???? (2/22-6/22)

  7. Pandemic + Extrovert = Miserable Extrovert

  8. March 2020 !

  9. January 2021 !❄

  10. April 2021 !❄#

  11. August 2021 !❄#$

  12. Later in August 2021 !❄#$!

  13. December 2021 !❄#$!!

  14. January 2021 !❄#$!!❄

  15. I was depressed

  16. I had ! burnt out

  17. Attempted fix: ! Vacation!

  18. "I feel so much better now.

  19. "I feel so much better now. everything's gonna be fine!"

  20. None
  21. None
  22. I had ! burnt out (way harder than I ever

    had before)
  23. ! Red Flags I wish I'd recognized

  24. ! Red Flags → Doing basic tasks was exhausting

  25. ! Red Flags → Doing basic tasks was exhausting →

    Using sleep to avoid emotions
  26. ! Red Flags → Doing basic tasks was exhausting →

    Using sleep to avoid emotions → Doing work brought me zero joy
  27. Considered fix: Leave of absence

  28. Terrible excuses I gave myself for not taking leave

  29. "This is just the pandemic. I'll be fine when it's

    over."
  30. "What if I can't start again when I said I'd

    come back?"
  31. "What if I can't stop thinking about work?"

  32. "What if it doesn't help me get better?"

  33. "What if it makes things much worse?"

  34. Actual fix: Take five months off

  35. Privilege check

  36. Privilege check → Had substantial savings

  37. Privilege check → Had substantial savings → Did not have

    kids
  38. Privilege check → Had substantial savings → Did not have

    kids → Live in a lower-cost area
  39. Privilege check → Had substantial savings → Did not have

    kids → Live in a lower-cost area → Have a lot of experience
  40. So what helped?

  41. Step 1: Do Nothing

  42. Step 2: Search for joy

  43. Step 3: Start looking early

  44. Step 4: Don't start immediately

  45. Obligatory Summary Slide

  46. Obligatory Summary Slide → Burnout sucks. Try to catch it

    early.
  47. Obligatory Summary Slide → Burnout sucks. Try to catch it

    early. → Do not assume the world outside your control will get better at the rate your sanity needs it to
  48. Obligatory Summary Slide → Burnout sucks. Try to catch it

    early. → Do not assume the world outside your control will get better at the rate your sanity needs it to → Consider your options for time off, and look carefully at why you're saying no when you do
  49. Obligatory Summary Slide → Burnout sucks. Try to catch it

    early. → Do not assume the world outside your control will get better at the rate your sanity needs it to → Consider your options for time off, and look carefully at why you're saying no when you do → If you take serious time off, try to really have a hard reset of yourself away from work
  50. ! Thank you for listening