Techniques for Coming to A Consensus for BP 2018

Tools and thoughts on how to move a team from leaving someone out in a vote, to coming to a consensus.

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1. Coming to Consensus Ben Holt For the Bionic Porcupines 2018
2. Decision Making Models • Command - One Person Decides with No Involvement • Consult - Subgroup Decides with Input from Group • Vote - Group Decides Through Majority Rules • Consensus - Everyone Must Agree https://dnr.wi.gov/topic/ForestManagement/documents/CooperatingForestersMeeting2016/CrucialConversa tionsWorksheet.pdf
3. Understanding Communication - Drilling Down 1. I say what I want 2. What I actually want 3. What I actually need
4. Friend or Foe?
5. Activity • I have M&M’s and I’m going to offer you some. • If you agree, we keep the split. If you disagree, we get nothing.
6. Normal Results • Mean: 60% - 40% • Mode: 50%-50% • About 35% is the Higher End of Commonly Rejected Amounts • Size of the Stake Does Not Matter https://www.fte.org/teachers/teacher-resources/lesson-plans/is-capitalism-good-for-the-poor-2/the-ultimatu m-game/ https://www0.gsb.columbia.edu/mygsb/faculty/research/pubfiles/3046/SSRN-id1131083.pdf
7. Tiers of Feelings • Lower than 35% • Between 35%-50% • 50%-75% • Above 75%
8. We are a $6 Team • What does this mean? (Out of $10, we will offer our team $6) • How do we implement it? • Who is responsible?
9. Steps to Consensus 1. What do we need to talk about (or are avoiding)? 2. Start with Heart (Find a Common Purpose) 3. Make It Safe (Avoid Silence or Violence) 4. Know my Role (Not a Victim, Villain or Helpless) 5. Tell my Facts as a Story (I have noticed that…) 6. Listen to Their Story 7. Decide & Follow Up https://dnr.wi.gov/topic/ForestManagement/documents/CooperatingForestersMeeting2016/CrucialConversa tionsWorksheet.pdf
10. Our Focus Today 1. Start with Heart (Find a Common Purpose) 2. Make It Safe (Avoid Silence or Violence) 3. Know my Role (Not a Victim, Villain or Helpless) https://dnr.wi.gov/topic/ForestManagement/documents/CooperatingForestersMeeting2016/CrucialConversa tionsWorksheet.pdf
11. The Landlord & the Rent Increase
12. Breaking Down the Landlord & The Rent Increase • What was the Original Non-Common Purposes? • How did we reframe it to a Common Purpose? • Did we make it safe? • Did I know my role? ◦ What was the victim story? ◦ What was the villain story? ◦ What was the helpless story?
13. Tools for Consensus • Active Listening • Summarizing • Mirroring • Synthesis
14. When Consensus Won’t Work • Not Enough Time for the Process • Not Enough Participation • Not Committed • Not Enough Trust or Openness • Bad Facilitation
15. I Don’t Want What We Don’t Want • What does this mean? • How do we implement it? • Who is responsible?
16. Proposed Mottos: • I don’t want what we don’t want. • We are a $6 team.