that my code was "a piece of shitty spaghetti code". 2. Feelings: this made me feel disrespected because I had put a lot of energy in this new feature. 3. Needs: for our team to function well, we need feedback to be shared in a respectful manner. 4. Request: moving forward, can you try to find better words and more actionable feedback?
my code was "a piece of shitty spaghetti code". 2. Tell: I can't help but think you want to hurt my feelings with such strong words. 3. Ask: what was your intention with sharing those strong words? "Hold to your belief; merely soften your approach"
chat room you said that my code was "a piece of shitty spaghetti code". 2. Task: N/A here. 3. Action: I felt disrespected as a result. We need everyone to share feedback respectfully. 4. Outcome: when feedback is shared respectfully, people are more keen acting upon it.