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1. FAQ_ What's the big picture_ intro TMM (edited) Fri, 2/18 8:23PM 3:50 SUMMARY KEYWORDS sections, dividing, day, moms, tasks, plan, overwhelmed, quick rundown, rearrange, prioritized, bucket, dedicated, change, afternoon, dealing, points, check, happen, leisure, bogged SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:01 Hey there. So we as ADHD brains like to have the full picture before we begin to give you a super quick rundown of where we're going in this course. Patricia Sung 00:12 We are taking our full day and we're dividing it into sections, we're dividing into pieces so that we don't get too far off track. We have check in points throughout the day, so that we're dividing our day into sections. So as we go through the day, we have like the morning section, midday section, afternoon, evening bed time. And they're all these sections, right. Patricia Sung 00:31 And because we have these checking points throughout the day, we don't get so far off task where we have gotten like, totally off into left field or like we have that check in because as moms, we don't have the leisure that we used to as single people or parentless people to be as flexible with our time, right? Patricia Sung 00:56 Kids have to be fed, kids have school, they have to be heard certain places they need to be cared for, right. So we have to keep on that schedule far more than we probably would, if we entrust. That's part one of dividing this section. Patricia Sung 01:11 The other part of dividing into sections is that you have predetermined in this section, what is generally speaking going to happen not to say that's written in stone, not to say that it has to
2. generally speaking going to happen not to say that's written in stone, not to say that it has to occur in a specific order. Patricia Sung 01:22 But this section is generally labeled or dedicated to a certain thing. So when you get to that section, you don't hit that stuff point where you just kind of like spin around in circles, like what am I doing here, I don't even know, you know that this is what this time is dedicated for. Patricia Sung 01:36 And you already have a plan going in, that alleviates the stress of what am I going to do next or not knowing how to start feeling overwhelmed by all the choices, and it keeps us from getting just in that stuck loop where we don't know what to do next. It also allows us because we have these sections, the sections grouped together is if something happens, because in motherhood it always does. Patricia Sung 01:58 Somebody gets a stomach bug, someone breaks an arm, we're just having a rough day, we can then rearrange those sections far more easily than trying to really like readjust the day when it feels like there's 400 things we need to do, which as moms, we aren't doing 400 things. Patricia Sung 02:19 Instead we're moving those sections around, we can move them later in the week or later in the day. And it makes it a lot easier to make modifications when things change because as a mom, things are always changing. It also allows us to not feel quite so overwhelmed by our day because we're not thinking about the to do list of this many tasks that things have to get done right. Patricia Sung 02:39 Or instead we have this these buckets of like, it's a lot more manageable to think about like hey, I need to move is like dealing with the house stuff bucket. And my like work bucket like I need to move to buckets because somebody is vomiting instead of I need to move 47 tasks today. Patricia Sung 02:56 So that is the big picture, we are dividing our section our day into sections, we have a plan going in for each section. And then that way we are rearranging the different sections of our day instead of trying to rearrange a big giant to do list.
3. Patricia Sung 03:08 Plus, we know we have a plan in place. We avoid that like the spinning and afternoon what to do next. Also, we've already prioritized what has to happen or what will be nice to happen. So that we're not getting bogged down by the whack a mole method of just dealing with whatever pops up. Patricia Sung 03:26 Keep in mind that this is a learned skill. We are not going to change our entire day tomorrow. Although we wish we could and that we are going to develop this over time. As you get more efficient at things they get easier. And it will come together as we work together. Patricia Sung 03:40 So good luck, Mama. We're gonna get through it right here with you and contact you soon Successful Mama/