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Business in Marriage: The Third Spouse

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October 06, 2014

Business in Marriage: The Third Spouse

This is the trimmed down slide deck from my talk at ExpressionEngine Conference 2014.

Summary:

We love making things. That's why we go to conferences to learn about how we can make better things in better ways. Many of us love making things so much that it's what we spend the majority of our day doing. And if we're not careful, we spend the majority of our nights and weekends making things too. That's not inherently bad, but when you consider the fuller life that we're each living, there's a huge risk that we lose focus and perspective of what really matters to us.

This session will be incredibly honest and transparent. We'll talk about entrepreneurship and relationships. I'll share part of my wife and I's story. I'll also have some guests share their stories. We'll talk about marriages that have been strong, weak, or even failed due—in part—to the effects that running a business can have on owners and spouses. If you're married, or might one day be married, this session might just change your life. Or maybe the life of someone you know after you walk away with something that could help them.

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Erik Reagan

October 06, 2014
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  1. Business in Marriage The Third Spouse Erik Reagan Operations Director

    Focus Lab, LLC
  2. @erikreagan #eeconf — Brad Feld “Your startup is a part

    of your life, not your entire life. ”
  3. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips

  4. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 1. alignment

  5. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 1. alignment Take time to define

    your own values and priorities, and those you share as a couple.
  6. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 1. alignment Set some short term

    goals.
  7. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 1. alignment Set some long term

    goals.
  8. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 1. alignment Define expectations of hours,

    how much is shared, and how to handle exceptions.
  9. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 1. alignment Build in a kill

    switch and use it if you have to.
  10. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 2. delegation & hiring

  11. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 2. delegation & hiring With any

    given task, your options are to do it yourself, hire someone, outsource, or don’t complete the task.
  12. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 2. delegation & hiring Hiring team

    members can free up a ton of your time.
  13. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 2. delegation & hiring Hiring team

    members can free take up a ton of your time.
  14. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 2. delegation & hiring Working with

    people is messy. Adding a layer of “management” means you might bring new or added stresses home.
  15. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 2. delegation & hiring Ultimately—hiring should

    have a positive impact or you’re doing it wrong.
  16. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 3. boundaries

  17. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 3. boundaries Define boundaries with clients,

    team members, and your spouse that help you retain a distinction between work time and non-work time.
  18. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 3. boundaries Practice saying “no” at

    the right times and to the right people.
  19. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 3. boundaries Define working hours with

    your clients.
  20. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 3. boundaries Define working hours with

    your spouse (and kids).
  21. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 3. boundaries Set aside a transition

    time after work so you can actually be present when you’re with family.
  22. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 4. prioritizing health

  23. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 4. prioritizing health Few things have

    as big of an impact, across the board, as your health.
  24. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 4. prioritizing health Be conscious of

    your diet at home and at work.
  25. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 4. prioritizing health Figure out what

    the ideal sleeping pattern is for you.
  26. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 4. prioritizing health Exercise regularly.

  27. @erikreagan #eeconf Big Tips 4. prioritizing health Build into your

    schedule time for mental space. Slow down.
  28. @erikreagan #eeconf Quick Tips

  29. @erikreagan #eeconf Quick Tips 1. Don’t stop dating your spouse

  30. @erikreagan #eeconf Quick Tips 2. Measure your laughter

  31. @erikreagan #eeconf Quick Tips 3. Ask each other questions

  32. @erikreagan #eeconf Quick Tips 4. Invest in your relationship

  33. @erikreagan #eeconf Quick Tips 5. Put down your freakin’ phones

  34. @erikreagan #eeconf Quick Tips 5. Turn off your freakin’ phones

    Put down
  35. @erikreagan #eeconf Recommended Resources

  36. @erikreagan #eeconf For Better or For Work A Survival Guide

    for Entrepreneurs and Their Families March 2012
  37. @erikreagan #eeconf Startup Life Surviving and Thriving in a Relationship

    with an Entrepreneur January 2013
  38. @erikreagan #eeconf Boundaries When to Say Yes, When to Say

    No to Take Control of Your Life April 1992
  39. @erikreagan #eeconf Marriage Startup A weekly podcast hosted by Leslie

    and Laura Camacho Started July 2014
  40. @erikreagan #eeconf — Herbert Spencer “The great aim of education

    is not knowledge but action.”
  41. Thanks! Erik Reagan @erikreagan @focuslabllc