MNADV Statewide Comprehensive IPV Training Round Three-Day 5

This Statewide Comprehensive Training provides professionals with in-depth information about working in the field of domestic violence. The training emphasizes victim safety, victim empowerment, abuser accountability, and a comprehensive system’s response to intimate partner violence. MNADV emphasizes partnering with local domestic violence programs and utilizes local experts to present throughout the training. MNADV developed this training for professionals from a variety of different fields who encounter domestic violence in their work.

1. MNADV’s 5-Day Comprehensive Intimate Partner Violence Training Day 5: Survivor Panel, Engaging Boys and Men, Feminist on Cell Block Y, Vicarious Trauma/Resiliency, Self-Care and Evaulations
2. Meet the Team Angel Campbell Training & TA Specialist Darrell Holly LAP Administrator Jenn Pollitt Hill Interim Executive Director K-Tony Korol Evans Statewide Trainer Lucane LaFortune Deputy Director Chimere Jackson Communications Specialist Mariesa Robinson Prevention Coordinator Melanie Shapiro Policy Director Renee Wells Operations Manager Lina Jaramillo LAP Project Lead
3. Housekeeping • Certificates and CEUs • Cancellations • Attendance • Accessing Materials • All attendees will be MUTED except during breakout sessions. • Use the chat box to ask questions or engage in dialogue • Evaluations
4. Review/Debrief of Day 4 Survivor Panel BREAK Survivor Panel Continued BREAK Engaging Boys and Men LUNCH AND LEARN – Feminist on Cellblock Y Vicarious Trauma/Resiliency/Self Care Reflections/Wrap-up/Evaluations
5. Our Workshop Agreements • Active listening • Be open • Be present: silence that internal chatter • Push through growing edge • Respectfully challenge each other • Continue to have these conversations • Remember why we’re all here
6. Day 4 Review and Debrief • What were your overall thoughts on the day? • What did you learn? • What surprised you? • What do you want to learn more about? • How will you do your work differently?
7. Survivor Stories Part 1 7
8. Survivor Stories Part 2 8
9. Engaging Men & Boys
10. “ There are many effects of the abuse that are particular to males. Men are not supposed to be victims. Society tells us: men don’t get depressed, men don’t seek help, men don’t need therapy…” – Male Survivor
11. What does the data show? • About 1 in 17 men in the U.S. were victims of stalking at some point in their lifetime. • In the U.S., about 1 in 3 men experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime • Over one-third of men experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner during their lifetime.
12. What does the data show… • Nearly 1 in 10 men in the U.S. experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime and reported some form of IPV-related impact • 31.0% experienced physical violence ;14.9% experienced severe physical violence. • About 1 in 20 men in the U.S. experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during the 12 months preceding the survey.
13. Consequences of not being seen as a victim • Not taken seriously as the victim by the Police thereafter • Losing care of children • Becoming even more isolated • Feeling there is no alternative but to use violence and/or weapons to protect self and/or children, increasing risk to everyone. • Increased use of self-medication to cope, which presents additional risks to self and to children.
14. Consequences of not being seen as a victim • Psychological impact of not being believed ✓shutting down emotionally ✓minimizing to self and others the nature and effects of the violence ✓More difficult for agencies to respond • Being referred to a perpetrator program ✓a waste of resources ✓Inappropriate or unsafe for survivor ✓Increased depression or anger ✓More control by the real perpetrator
15. The Mask You Live In
16. Change Agents • If you know somebody who is abusive toward their partner tell them their behavior is not okay and they need to get help to stop. • Speak out against domestic violence. This can have a powerful effect in helping change attitudes and social norms that support and perpetuate abuse. • Take on a leadership role in your community, e.g. sports club, university, neighborhood association or church group, and use this opportunity to speak out against violence in the home.
17. Change Agents • Understand how your own attitudes and actions may perpetuate sexism and violence. • Confront sexist, racist, homophobic and all other prejudiced remarks or jokes. • Reach out and show support to someone you know is experiencing domestic violence. Gently ask if you can help. Never put the blame on the victim of domestic violence.
18. Change Agents • Become active bystanders including naming and stopping situations that could lead to violence before it happens and stepping in during an incident. • Recognize that the tradition of referring to men who choose to walk away from a fight as “punks” is connected to negative ideas about what is masculine.
19. Resources • A Call to Men • Men Can Stop Rape • National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) • Men Stopping Violence • Men’s Initiative for Jane Doe Inc. • Mentors in Violence Prevention • ReThink • Walk a Mile in Their Shoes
20. Break Time
21. Break
22. Feminist On Cell Block Y
23. Breakout Rooms Takeaways
24. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency
25. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: What is Vicarious Trauma?
26. An occupational challenge for people working and volunteering in the fields of victim services, law enforcement, emergency medical services, fire services, & other allied professions, due to their continuous exposure to victims of trauma and violence. -Office for Victims of Crime
27. Secondary Traumatization Refers to the natural consequent behaviors and emotions that often result from knowing about a traumatizing event experienced by another and the stress resulting from helping, or wanting to help, a traumatized or suffering person. Symptoms can mimic PTSD.
28. Compassion Fatigue Is a combination of physical, emotional, and spiritual depletion associated with caring for others who are in significant emotional pain and physical distress.
29. Indicators of Types of Vicarious Trauma Secondary Traumatization • Avoidance • Hypervigilance • Intimacy issues • Irritability • Re-experiencing the trauma • Withdrawal Compassion Fatigue • Constant exhaustion • Easily distracted • Inability to empathize • Isolation • Numbness • Pessimistic world view
30. Is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by long-term involvement in emotionally demanding situations. Both secondary traumatization and compassion fatigue contribute to burnout. Comes from Chronic interpersonal stressors Leads to Complete lack of efficacy Burnout
31. Systemic Oppression & Vicarious Trauma
32. Clip: Side Effects
33. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Discussion: Which Indicators of VT Have You Experienced?
34. Clip: VT in Victim Service
35. Recognizing Signs
36. Discussion: What are Ways You’ve Offered Support?
37. What is Resilience? The human ability to adapt in the face of tragedy, trauma, adversity, hardship, and ongoing significant life stressors. American Psychological Association
38. Vicarious Resilience Creating Safety for Yourself • Acupuncture • Aroma therapy • ASMR/Soothing sounds • Cleansing your chakras • Mindfulness • Movement • Spirituality • Take breaks • Visualization/Imagination
39. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: How are You Resilient?
40. Menti: What Are 2 Ways You Feel Your Work Has Had a Positive Influence on the World, Yourself, or What Matters to You?
41. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: What do You Find Especially Rewarding About Working in this Field?
43. Self-Care: Personal Change Plan
44. Protective Factors The expectation that we can be immersed in suffering and loss daily and not be touched by it is as unrealistic as expecting to be able to walk through water without getting wet. - Rachel Naomi Remen
45. Be a Rock…Not a Sponge
46. Protective Factors • The ability to attract and maintain social support (personal and professional) • Feeling that one has a personal calling to the field • Personality traits: • Regular use of deliberate & healthy coping strategies (aka self-care) Collins-Camargo, 2012
47. Menti: What are two communities that are important to you?
48. Menti: What brought you to the field?
49. Menti: Which Personality Traits do you have?
50. Menti: What self-care strategies do you use?
51. Creating Change: Adapting Fogg’s 6 Elements of Simplicity https://bigthink.com/wikimind/models-to-know-fogg-behavior-model
52. Sustainability Tips • Keep your written self-care plan visible, somewhere where you will see it every day. • Share your plan with a friend or coworker. • Don’t expect changes overnight • Don’t compare your self-care plan to others’. • Reassess • Be gentle with yourself. The Happy Healthy Nonprofit (Kanter & Sherman, 2017)
53. There’s an App for That! Habit List • This app motivates you, helps you stay focused, and keeps you on track. Coach.me • Goal Tracking, Habit Building & Motivational Coaching Support Strides • Helps you stay motivated and on track with reminders and charts. Way of Life 3 • Invest less than a minute daily to track, identify and change your habits. The Happy Healthy Nonprofit (Kanter & Sherman, 2017) Habit Change Mindfulness & Gratitude Headspace • Meditation made simple. Learn online, in just 10 minutes a day. Calm • Meditation that will bring more clarity, joy, & peace of mind Happier • Helps you identify those moments of joy, kindness, & meaning in your life to share with others Tiny Buddha • Helps you stay motivated, inspired & positive throughout the day.
54. Self-Care for Advocates Created just four years ago, this space is growing daily. It is filled with a ton of cool kids, and you and your teams are welcome to join. https://www.facebook.com/groups/Selfcareforadvocates
55. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: I will know my plan is working if…
56. Menti: Some things that could interfere with my plan are…
57. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: If my plan is not working, I will…
58. Self-Care Change Chart This Week This Month This Quarter Physical Emotional Psychological Spiritual Professional/ Workplace Social/ Relationship
59. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: List one physical self-care thing you will commit to doing by the end of this quarter.
60. Menti: List one emotional self-care thing you will commit to doing by the end of this quarter.
61. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: List one physical self-care thing you will commit to doing by the end of this quarter.
62. Menti: List one spiritual self-care thing you will commit to doing by the end of this quarter.
63. Vicarious Trauma & Resiliency Menti: List one professional self-care thing you will commit to doing by the end of this quarter.
64. Menti: List one social self-care thing you will commit to doing by the end of this quarter
65. Wrapping Up End-of-Day Self-Care Exercise Evaluations Questions
66. Self-Care Moment: Celebration You Did It!
67. Menti: What will you do for self-care TONIGHT & THIS WEEKEND to celebrate your achievement?
68. Evaluations Questions to think about: • What did you learn that you’re going to take with you back to your work? • Is there something you wanted to learn about that wasn’t addressed, or wanted more time spent on it? • Was there something that can be improved for next time? https://md.coalitionmanager.org/formmanager/formsubmission/create?formId=150
69. Questions???
70. Stay Connected