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1. 1-7 Activity_ Value Card Sort - TMM Module 1 Mon, 2/28 4:49PM 7:34 SUMMARY KEYWORDS important, feel, card, narrow, sorting, overwhelming, repopulate, fine, mama, very important, spending, schedule, matter, category, big old pile, pile, left, sift, patricia, slim pickins SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there, Successful Mama, it's your friend Patricia Sung. This is ourvalue card sorting activity for if you're feeling really overwhelmed about, how do I even come up with what's important to me right now. I don't, I don't know, it feels too overwhelming. Patricia Sung 00:14 You can either do this activity on line, on this website that will show you or you can print out the cards and just cut them apart. If you're really a hands on person, and you want to feel them and you can sort them that way. Either ones fine. Patricia Sung 00:27 What we're gonna do is take these cards, there are a lot of them, there's about 100 of them. So fair warning, it can be a little overwhelming at first. And you can do this in pieces, you don't have to do it all together at one time. We're going to sift through the values that they have on the card, and it explains what they mean. Patricia Sung 00:43 Now, in this exercise, they're going to ask you to sort it into four categories. I don't care about all that. All I need to know is is it really warm to you? Or is it not? So we're going to start that way, we don't need to start with all these different, like somewhat important, really important, not important, we just need, is it important or not? Patricia Sung 01:00 And when you're sorting through all these, most of them are things that are going to feel
2. And when you're sorting through all these, most of them are things that are going to feel important. But not everything is very important to you. We can't have everything be important to us. So a lot of people when they first look at this, it's like well, how do I say that like caring about others as not important to me? No, we're not saying it's not important to you at all, what we're trying to figure out is what's most important to you. Patricia Sung 01:28 And I'm hoping that we can narrow down this list to about like, big picture, we're trying to get down about 10. It's okay if you have a little more, it's okay is you have a little bit less. Like the exact number doesn't matter what it is, is we just want to start focusing in and coming into to what's important to you. Patricia Sung 01:49 So I'm gonna make my head a little bubble here again. And when you first click on it, it looks like this, you know, click on this link here, and pops up is this value, a card, sort of make my head a little bigger here. Now, when you click next, you can read the instructions on your own thing, okay? Patricia Sung 02:11 Directions, you just drag and drop all these things. So you're going to go through these, and it's going to ask you to put them in the pile. So it doesn't matrer all this just put what's very important to you in this pile. And then everything that's not important, you can just leave over here. So be like art, not really a big deal belonging compromise. These all they might be pretty important. They're like, Oh, you know what? Diligence, that is very important to me. Freedom, gratitude, blah, blah, blah, practicality, high variable practical. Patricia Sung 02:44 So we're going to do is, you know, sorting through this pile and find the things that are really important. As you're sorting through, eventually you're going to end up like this. And you're going to have a big old pile of stuff over here. And like I said, you're gonna be like, Well, I mean, how do I not feel like carrying is important or, you know, compassion? How do I see that's not important? Look, they're all going to be not all that a majority of them are going to be important. We're circling in on very important like, do or die, okay? Patricia Sung 03:14 When you have all the things in very important, we can kind of see how many you end up with over here. Remember, we're looking for about 10. So this is when you'll start to narrow this down of like, okay, protecting, that feels important. Spirituality feels important. Okay, okay, responsibility, I can probably move that one out. Okay, I do really need to be challenged, caring. Okay, and you're gonna sort through until you have about 10 here, more or less, okay.
3. Patricia Sung 03:47 If you are feeling up to it, if your brains on tired, you can rank them or you can try to narrow down to like, these are the three that are most important to me. We want to get this down to like a manageable number. Because if it's too many, it's hard to prioritize when you're like, I have 15 priorities. It's hard to make decisions through that. But again, it might feel too overwhelming for you, if you get it down to 15 in your brains, like I'm done. Cool, that's fine. Move on. If you want to come back to it later. You can. If you don't want to, it's fine. Patricia Sung 04:19 The good news is if you hit previous, and you know accidentally go the wrong thing, you can hit next and it's still there. If you hit refresh, it's gonna ask you do you go back to where you left off? Yes, I do. And it'll repopulate it for you. So as long as you don't close out your window, you're good. Patricia Sung 04:40 And then at that point, if you will write down whatever you end up with here, and if you feel like coming back to the the list and narrowing down later you can but otherwise, this isn't meant to be like super stressful. It's just meant to start giving you some direction and feeling what is it that is important to you. Because when we start to create our schedules, and we need some kind of filter to say, this is what matters to me, this is what's important to me. Patricia Sung 05:09 And again, I know some of them will be like, well, my family is not very important to me, it's fine. If spending time because you might take this as like extended family or like, you know what, I don't really need to spend time with those people. That's fine. I want you to be true to yourself. This isn't about anybody but you. You don't have to show anybody this if you don't want to. If you don't feel comfortable posting in the group, that's totally fine. This is truly about you to have filters to start saying what needs to be on my schedule. And if we noticed that, you know what, I'm spending a lot of time at the gym. But yet fitness isn't actually important to me, then this is where we can start to be like, look at that doesn't match up and start making different choices. Patricia Sung 05:09 Because if you're going to tell me hey, you know what spirituality is a really is a very important thing to me that we want to make sure that your schedule reflects that. Are you creating time to nurture your spirit? Is that here? If feeling attractiveness is important to you? Are you spending time taking care of your body? Are you exercising? Are you eating great food. If you're saying that family is very important to you, where's that time where we're putting in family time where it's one on one or whole family quality time. This is how we start to filter what needs to be in that routine.
4. Patricia Sung 06:32 So there are no wrong answers. All like 100 of these things, they're all going to probably be really important. Like when I did it, I think I only had like less than five things and not important. Everything else was in somewhat important important and very important. And like I said, it doesn't actually matter this stuff over here you really just need very important because it's unlikely that you're going to end up with when you have ADHD there's it's highly unlikely that you're very important category is going to be a slim pickins so you'll have at least three if not, you know 10 things that are very important to you. Patricia Sung 07:08 So good luck, Mama. If you're struggling with this, you're welcome to ask one of the other moms in the group to talk it out with you or do like a body doubling time together to work through it. And definitely reach out and get some help with this if this is feeling overwhelming. And also if you just want to skip it, it's fine too. Patricia Sung 07:25 Alright, have a lovely day Successful Mama. You're doing great. No matter how hard this is. You're doing a great job.