With a Little Help From My Network

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1. WITH A LITTLE HELP FROM MY NETWORK Lacey Williams Henschel @laceynwilliams 1 — @laceynwilliams
2. Networking is scary! 2 — @laceynwilliams
3. WHAT IS NETWORKING? 3 — @laceynwilliams
4. CONFERENCE HOTEL BARS? 4 — @laceynwilliams
5. ▸ crowded ▸ booze ▸ don't know anyone 5 — @laceynwilliams
6. CONFERENCE HOTEL BARS 6 — @laceynwilliams
7. LINKEDIN? 7 — @laceynwilliams
8. ▸ "professional" Facebook ▸ like a business card binder 8 — @laceynwilliams
9. LINKEDIN 9 — @laceynwilliams
10. SO WHAT DOES NETWORKING LOOK LIKE? 10 — @laceynwilliams
11. Friendship 11 — @laceynwilliams
12. the exchange of information or services among individuals specifically: the cultivation of productive relationships for employment or business --Merriam-Webster 12 — @laceynwilliams
13. story time 2011 13 — @laceynwilliams
14. my network helped me become a developer 14 — @laceynwilliams
15. I moved to Portland and was lonely. 15 — @laceynwilliams
16. 16 — @laceynwilliams
17. A Practical Guide to Making Friends as an Adult 17 — @laceynwilliams
18. I met Hannah! 18 — @laceynwilliams
19. 1. Figure out where your potential friends connections hang out 2. Make your intentions goals clear 3. Don't be shy 4. Come up with good friend date ideas opportunities 5. Don't expect sparks to fly a deep, mentor-like connection right away 6. Know when to quit 19 — @laceynwilliams
20. 1: Figure out where your potential connections hang out 20 — @laceynwilliams
21. (you already know to go to meetups and stuff) 21 — @laceynwilliams
22. (it's okay to not like going to meetups) 22 — @laceynwilliams
23. Where are these magical people? 23 — @laceynwilliams
24. 24 — @laceynwilliams
25. HALLWAY TRACK 25 — @laceynwilliams
26. ATTEND EVENTS 26 — @laceynwilliams
27. (but if they aren't your thing, that's fine) 27 — @laceynwilliams
28. (but maybe give it a shot?) 28 — @laceynwilliams
29. VOLUNTEER FOR THE CONFERENCE 29 — @laceynwilliams
30. ▸ swag bag stuffing ▸ session chairing ▸ session running 30 — @laceynwilliams
31. Volunteering is a great way to meet speakers, organizers, and sponsors 31 — @laceynwilliams
32. ORGANIZE THE CONFERENCE 32 — @laceynwilliams
33. ▸ email them ▸ think about what you want to work on 33 — @laceynwilliams
34. great for "joiners" great for introverts great for everyone! 34 — @laceynwilliams
35. GET ONLINE 35 — @laceynwilliams
36. Ask around for Slack channels 36 — @laceynwilliams
37. SLACKS FOR: women in tech LGBT in tech PoC in tech crafters who tech language-specific job-specific coding beginners conferences 37 — @laceynwilliams
38. Twitter 38 — @laceynwilliams
39. ▸ get on the #actwpdx hashtag ▸ people love gifs 39 — @laceynwilliams
40. story time 2012 40 — @laceynwilliams
41. 2: Make your goals clear 41 — @laceynwilliams
42. mostly, make your goals clear to yourself 42 — @laceynwilliams
43. ▸ new job? ▸ contract opportunities? ▸ community? ▸ mentorship? 43 — @laceynwilliams
44. Having a goal helps you be more productive with your networking time. 44 — @laceynwilliams
45. the cultivation of productive relationships 45 — @laceynwilliams
46. networking is making useful friends 46 — @laceynwilliams
47. (I know this sounds a little mercenary) 47 — @laceynwilliams
48. put yourself out there 48 — @laceynwilliams
49. I’ve found the easiest way to make friends is to let people know I’m looking. Why is this such a taboo thing to say? -- Rachel Miller 49 — @laceynwilliams
50. When I let someone know I wanted a new opportunity, I had one that same week. 50 — @laceynwilliams
51. 3: Don't be shy 51 — @laceynwilliams
52. I'm an introvert. 52 — @laceynwilliams
53. lurking is okay! 53 — @laceynwilliams
54. When you have a goal, you will need to stop lurking. 54 — @laceynwilliams
55. Lady Speaker Small Talk — Heidi Waterhouse 55 — @laceynwilliams
56. ▸ make friends with someone in line 56 — @laceynwilliams
57. For the rest of the conference, you’ll probably be able to spot that one person you met early on and give them a friendly nod. — Heidi Waterhouse 57 — @laceynwilliams
58. set small interaction goals for yourself 58 — @laceynwilliams
59. make it easy for others to come up to you 59 — @laceynwilliams
60. It takes a special kind of courage to approach a ring of backs. — Heidi Waterhouse 60 — @laceynwilliams
61. 4: Come up with good opportunities 61 — @laceynwilliams
62. goes hand in hand with having a goal 62 — @laceynwilliams
63. MISSED CONNECTIONS 63 — @laceynwilliams
64. Remember Hannah? Hannah is great at this. 64 — @laceynwilliams
65. I tend to assume that people don't want to hang out with me. 65 — @laceynwilliams
66. I've tried to be more explicit when I want to get to know someone better. 66 — @laceynwilliams
67. Everyone enjoys things! 67 — @laceynwilliams
68. sushi ice cream work events meetup buddies 68 — @laceynwilliams
69. Everyone likes not talking about work sometimes. 69 — @laceynwilliams
70. story time 2016 70 — @laceynwilliams
71. ... I made a new friend and committed to an open-source project! 71 — @laceynwilliams
72. Spending time with my new friend made me more comfortable asking for her help 72 — @laceynwilliams
73. Do the touristy thing at a conference with someone 73 — @laceynwilliams
74. come up with ideas can also mean think about what I can do for others 74 — @laceynwilliams
75. If my idea of "networking" is "meeting people more successful than I am" then I am intimidated. 75 — @laceynwilliams
76. then I remember that I also have value, ideas, and something to offer 76 — @laceynwilliams
77. What ideas do you have that could help someone else? 77 — @laceynwilliams
78. 5: Don't expect a deep, mentor-like connection right away 78 — @laceynwilliams
79. It takes time to get to know people. 79 — @laceynwilliams
80. At your last job, how long did it take you to make a work friend? 80 — @laceynwilliams
81. You won't like everyone and not everyone will like you and that's okay — my mom 81 — @laceynwilliams
82. FRIENDS HAVE DIFFERENT 82 — @laceynwilliams
83. ▸ detail-oriented but blunt ▸ great ideas but little follow-through ▸ amazing listener but really busy 83 — @laceynwilliams
84. You will work with the people in your network 84 — @laceynwilliams
85. proofreading organizing coaching fundraising pep-talking job hunting interview prepping 85 — @laceynwilliams
86. you will learn what strengths others have 86 — @laceynwilliams
87. you will learn what strength you have 87 — @laceynwilliams
88. 6: Know when to quit 88 — @laceynwilliams
89. When do you need to stop networking? 89 — @laceynwilliams
90. The best networking for me has been open-source volunteering 90 — @laceynwilliams
91. paid opportunities speaking gigs new job book 91 — @laceynwilliams
92. great people I can depend on 92 — @laceynwilliams
93. but it's also a lot of hard work 93 — @laceynwilliams
94. content warning: depression 94 — @laceynwilliams
95. burnout: losing joy 95 — @laceynwilliams
96. STAGES OF BURNOUT 1. Compulsion to prove oneself 7. Withdrawal 2. Working harder 8. Obvious behavioral changes 3. Neglecting needs 9. Depersonalization 4. Displacement of conflicts 10. Inner emptiness 5. Revision of values 11. Depression 6. Denial of emerging problems 12. Burnout syndrome Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North via Jacob Kaplan Moss 96 — @laceynwilliams
97. Taking care of yourself comes first 97 — @laceynwilliams
98. MAINTAIN RELATIONSHIPS 98 — @laceynwilliams
99. GRACEFUL EXIT 1. give notice 2. document 3. train a new person 4. come back later? 99 — @laceynwilliams
100. 7: Harmful networking 100 — @laceynwilliams
101. old boys club 101 — @laceynwilliams
102. 15,000 JOB APPLICATIONS 102 — @laceynwilliams
103. Reliance on networks for professional connections can be harm to diversity. 103 — @laceynwilliams
104. We can learn a lot from conference recruiting 104 — @laceynwilliams
105. How I Got 50% Women Speakers at My Tech Conference -- Courtney Stanton 105 — @laceynwilliams
106. "I promised mentoring, I promised practice sessions, I promised one-on- one slide deck reviews with people who have spent hundreds of hours speaking at conferences. I emailed my Women in Games Boston group, I attended events and encouraged groups of women in person, I sought women out online, I met with women over coffee. I encouraged/begged them to consider translating the hours and hours I’d spent with them in the past talking about their careers, their specialties, their ideas, into a 45-minute presentation. I told them how much I respected their reputations and their ideas and that I’d be thrilled if they had the time or interest in submitting a talk." 106 — @laceynwilliams
107. use your leadership positions to make your organizations more inclusive 107 — @laceynwilliams
108. Point people you know to awesome opportunities 108 — @laceynwilliams
109. story time 2017 109 — @laceynwilliams
110. ▸ 2015: 160 proposals ▸ 2016: 200 proposals ▸ 2017: 250 proposals 110 — @laceynwilliams
111. our whole team is invested in making the conference welcoming to every attendee 111 — @laceynwilliams
112. use your connection to different groups to create opportunities for expansion and inclusion 112 — @laceynwilliams
113. ...but back to my credentials.. 113 — @laceynwilliams
114. Thank you! laceyhenschel.com 114 — @laceynwilliams
115. PHOTO CREDITS Tim Gouw Matty Adame LinkedIn Bartek Pawlik Marian Carrasquero Zack Spear Prima Luce Studio Slack Freestocks.org WoCinTech Chat Christian Widell Ian Dooley Epiccurence Evan Kirby Brenan Green Bence Boros Russell Keith-Magee UT Austin Vladimir Kudinov 115 — @laceynwilliams