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With a Little Help From My Network

With a Little Help From My Network

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Lacey Williams Henschel

June 17, 2017
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  1. WITH A LITTLE HELP FROM MY NETWORK Lacey Williams Henschel

    @laceynwilliams 1 — @laceynwilliams
  2. Networking is scary! 2 — @laceynwilliams

  3. WHAT IS NETWORKING? 3 — @laceynwilliams

  4. CONFERENCE HOTEL BARS? 4 — @laceynwilliams

  5. ▸ crowded ▸ booze ▸ don't know anyone 5 —

    @laceynwilliams
  6. CONFERENCE HOTEL BARS 6 — @laceynwilliams

  7. LINKEDIN? 7 — @laceynwilliams

  8. ▸ "professional" Facebook ▸ like a business card binder 8

    — @laceynwilliams
  9. LINKEDIN 9 — @laceynwilliams

  10. SO WHAT DOES NETWORKING LOOK LIKE? 10 — @laceynwilliams

  11. Friendship 11 — @laceynwilliams

  12. the exchange of information or services among individuals specifically: the

    cultivation of productive relationships for employment or business --Merriam-Webster 12 — @laceynwilliams
  13. story time 2011 13 — @laceynwilliams

  14. my network helped me become a developer 14 — @laceynwilliams

  15. I moved to Portland and was lonely. 15 — @laceynwilliams

  16. 16 — @laceynwilliams

  17. A Practical Guide to Making Friends as an Adult 17

    — @laceynwilliams
  18. I met Hannah! 18 — @laceynwilliams

  19. 1. Figure out where your potential friends connections hang out

    2. Make your intentions goals clear 3. Don't be shy 4. Come up with good friend date ideas opportunities 5. Don't expect sparks to fly a deep, mentor-like connection right away 6. Know when to quit 19 — @laceynwilliams
  20. 1: Figure out where your potential connections hang out 20

    — @laceynwilliams
  21. (you already know to go to meetups and stuff) 21

    — @laceynwilliams
  22. (it's okay to not like going to meetups) 22 —

    @laceynwilliams
  23. Where are these magical people? 23 — @laceynwilliams

  24. 24 — @laceynwilliams

  25. HALLWAY TRACK 25 — @laceynwilliams

  26. ATTEND EVENTS 26 — @laceynwilliams

  27. (but if they aren't your thing, that's fine) 27 —

    @laceynwilliams
  28. (but maybe give it a shot?) 28 — @laceynwilliams

  29. VOLUNTEER FOR THE CONFERENCE 29 — @laceynwilliams

  30. ▸ swag bag stuffing ▸ session chairing ▸ session running

    30 — @laceynwilliams
  31. Volunteering is a great way to meet speakers, organizers, and

    sponsors 31 — @laceynwilliams
  32. ORGANIZE THE CONFERENCE 32 — @laceynwilliams

  33. ▸ email them ▸ think about what you want to

    work on 33 — @laceynwilliams
  34. great for "joiners" great for introverts great for everyone! 34

    — @laceynwilliams
  35. GET ONLINE 35 — @laceynwilliams

  36. Ask around for Slack channels 36 — @laceynwilliams

  37. SLACKS FOR: women in tech LGBT in tech PoC in

    tech crafters who tech language-specific job-specific coding beginners conferences 37 — @laceynwilliams
  38. Twitter 38 — @laceynwilliams

  39. ▸ get on the #actwpdx hashtag ▸ people love gifs

    39 — @laceynwilliams
  40. story time 2012 40 — @laceynwilliams

  41. 2: Make your goals clear 41 — @laceynwilliams

  42. mostly, make your goals clear to yourself 42 — @laceynwilliams

  43. ▸ new job? ▸ contract opportunities? ▸ community? ▸ mentorship?

    43 — @laceynwilliams
  44. Having a goal helps you be more productive with your

    networking time. 44 — @laceynwilliams
  45. the cultivation of productive relationships 45 — @laceynwilliams

  46. networking is making useful friends 46 — @laceynwilliams

  47. (I know this sounds a little mercenary) 47 — @laceynwilliams

  48. put yourself out there 48 — @laceynwilliams

  49. I’ve found the easiest way to make friends is to

    let people know I’m looking. Why is this such a taboo thing to say? -- Rachel Miller 49 — @laceynwilliams
  50. When I let someone know I wanted a new opportunity,

    I had one that same week. 50 — @laceynwilliams
  51. 3: Don't be shy 51 — @laceynwilliams

  52. I'm an introvert. 52 — @laceynwilliams

  53. lurking is okay! 53 — @laceynwilliams

  54. When you have a goal, you will need to stop

    lurking. 54 — @laceynwilliams
  55. Lady Speaker Small Talk — Heidi Waterhouse 55 — @laceynwilliams

  56. ▸ make friends with someone in line 56 — @laceynwilliams

  57. For the rest of the conference, you’ll probably be able

    to spot that one person you met early on and give them a friendly nod. — Heidi Waterhouse 57 — @laceynwilliams
  58. set small interaction goals for yourself 58 — @laceynwilliams

  59. make it easy for others to come up to you

    59 — @laceynwilliams
  60. It takes a special kind of courage to approach a

    ring of backs. — Heidi Waterhouse 60 — @laceynwilliams
  61. 4: Come up with good opportunities 61 — @laceynwilliams

  62. goes hand in hand with having a goal 62 —

    @laceynwilliams
  63. MISSED CONNECTIONS 63 — @laceynwilliams

  64. Remember Hannah? Hannah is great at this. 64 — @laceynwilliams

  65. I tend to assume that people don't want to hang

    out with me. 65 — @laceynwilliams
  66. I've tried to be more explicit when I want to

    get to know someone better. 66 — @laceynwilliams
  67. Everyone enjoys things! 67 — @laceynwilliams

  68. sushi ice cream work events meetup buddies 68 — @laceynwilliams

  69. Everyone likes not talking about work sometimes. 69 — @laceynwilliams

  70. story time 2016 70 — @laceynwilliams

  71. ... I made a new friend and committed to an

    open-source project! 71 — @laceynwilliams
  72. Spending time with my new friend made me more comfortable

    asking for her help 72 — @laceynwilliams
  73. Do the touristy thing at a conference with someone 73

    — @laceynwilliams
  74. come up with ideas can also mean think about what

    I can do for others 74 — @laceynwilliams
  75. If my idea of "networking" is "meeting people more successful

    than I am" then I am intimidated. 75 — @laceynwilliams
  76. then I remember that I also have value, ideas, and

    something to offer 76 — @laceynwilliams
  77. What ideas do you have that could help someone else?

    77 — @laceynwilliams
  78. 5: Don't expect a deep, mentor-like connection right away 78

    — @laceynwilliams
  79. It takes time to get to know people. 79 —

    @laceynwilliams
  80. At your last job, how long did it take you

    to make a work friend? 80 — @laceynwilliams
  81. You won't like everyone and not everyone will like you

    and that's okay — my mom 81 — @laceynwilliams
  82. FRIENDS HAVE DIFFERENT 82 — @laceynwilliams

  83. ▸ detail-oriented but blunt ▸ great ideas but little follow-through

    ▸ amazing listener but really busy 83 — @laceynwilliams
  84. You will work with the people in your network 84

    — @laceynwilliams
  85. proofreading organizing coaching fundraising pep-talking job hunting interview prepping 85

    — @laceynwilliams
  86. you will learn what strengths others have 86 — @laceynwilliams

  87. you will learn what strength you have 87 — @laceynwilliams

  88. 6: Know when to quit 88 — @laceynwilliams

  89. When do you need to stop networking? 89 — @laceynwilliams

  90. The best networking for me has been open-source volunteering 90

    — @laceynwilliams
  91. paid opportunities speaking gigs new job book 91 — @laceynwilliams

  92. great people I can depend on 92 — @laceynwilliams

  93. but it's also a lot of hard work 93 —

    @laceynwilliams
  94. content warning: depression 94 — @laceynwilliams

  95. burnout: losing joy 95 — @laceynwilliams

  96. STAGES OF BURNOUT 1. Compulsion to prove oneself 7. Withdrawal

    2. Working harder 8. Obvious behavioral changes 3. Neglecting needs 9. Depersonalization 4. Displacement of conflicts 10. Inner emptiness 5. Revision of values 11. Depression 6. Denial of emerging problems 12. Burnout syndrome Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North via Jacob Kaplan Moss 96 — @laceynwilliams
  97. Taking care of yourself comes first 97 — @laceynwilliams

  98. MAINTAIN RELATIONSHIPS 98 — @laceynwilliams

  99. GRACEFUL EXIT 1. give notice 2. document 3. train a

    new person 4. come back later? 99 — @laceynwilliams
  100. 7: Harmful networking 100 — @laceynwilliams

  101. old boys club 101 — @laceynwilliams

  102. 15,000 JOB APPLICATIONS 102 — @laceynwilliams

  103. Reliance on networks for professional connections can be harm to

    diversity. 103 — @laceynwilliams
  104. We can learn a lot from conference recruiting 104 —

    @laceynwilliams
  105. How I Got 50% Women Speakers at My Tech Conference

    -- Courtney Stanton 105 — @laceynwilliams
  106. "I promised mentoring, I promised practice sessions, I promised one-on-

    one slide deck reviews with people who have spent hundreds of hours speaking at conferences. I emailed my Women in Games Boston group, I attended events and encouraged groups of women in person, I sought women out online, I met with women over coffee. I encouraged/begged them to consider translating the hours and hours I’d spent with them in the past talking about their careers, their specialties, their ideas, into a 45-minute presentation. I told them how much I respected their reputations and their ideas and that I’d be thrilled if they had the time or interest in submitting a talk." 106 — @laceynwilliams
  107. use your leadership positions to make your organizations more inclusive

    107 — @laceynwilliams
  108. Point people you know to awesome opportunities 108 — @laceynwilliams

  109. story time 2017 109 — @laceynwilliams

  110. ▸ 2015: 160 proposals ▸ 2016: 200 proposals ▸ 2017:

    250 proposals 110 — @laceynwilliams
  111. our whole team is invested in making the conference welcoming

    to every attendee 111 — @laceynwilliams
  112. use your connection to different groups to create opportunities for

    expansion and inclusion 112 — @laceynwilliams
  113. ...but back to my credentials.. 113 — @laceynwilliams

  114. Thank you! laceyhenschel.com 114 — @laceynwilliams

  115. PHOTO CREDITS Tim Gouw Matty Adame LinkedIn Bartek Pawlik Marian

    Carrasquero Zack Spear Prima Luce Studio Slack Freestocks.org WoCinTech Chat Christian Widell Ian Dooley Epiccurence Evan Kirby Brenan Green Bence Boros Russell Keith-Magee UT Austin Vladimir Kudinov 115 — @laceynwilliams