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With a Little Help From My Network

With a Little Help From My Network

Lacey Williams Henschel

June 17, 2017
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  1. WITH A LITTLE HELP FROM MY NETWORK
    Lacey Williams Henschel
    @laceynwilliams
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  2. Networking is scary!
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  3. WHAT IS
    NETWORKING?
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  4. CONFERENCE
    HOTEL BARS?
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  5. ▸ crowded
    ▸ booze
    ▸ don't know anyone
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  6. CONFERENCE
    HOTEL BARS
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  7. LINKEDIN?
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  8. ▸ "professional" Facebook
    ▸ like a business card binder
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  9. LINKEDIN
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  10. SO WHAT DOES NETWORKING
    LOOK LIKE?
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  11. Friendship
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  12. the exchange of information or services among individuals
    specifically: the cultivation of productive relationships for
    employment or business
    --Merriam-Webster
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  13. story time
    2011
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  14. my network helped me become a developer
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  15. I moved to Portland and was lonely.
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  17. A Practical Guide to Making Friends as
    an Adult
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  18. I met Hannah!
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  19. 1. Figure out where your potential friends connections hang out
    2. Make your intentions goals clear
    3. Don't be shy
    4. Come up with good friend date ideas opportunities
    5. Don't expect sparks to fly a deep, mentor-like connection right away
    6. Know when to quit
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  20. 1: Figure out where your potential
    connections hang out
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  21. (you already know to go to meetups and stuff)
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  22. (it's okay to not like going to meetups)
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  23. Where are these magical people?
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  25. HALLWAY TRACK
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  26. ATTEND EVENTS
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  27. (but if they aren't your thing, that's fine)
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  28. (but maybe give it a shot?)
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  29. VOLUNTEER FOR
    THE CONFERENCE
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  30. ▸ swag bag stuffing
    ▸ session chairing
    ▸ session running
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  31. Volunteering is a great way to meet speakers, organizers, and sponsors
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  32. ORGANIZE THE
    CONFERENCE
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  33. ▸ email them
    ▸ think about what you want to work on
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  34. great for "joiners"
    great for introverts
    great for everyone!
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  35. GET ONLINE
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  36. Ask around for Slack channels
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  37. SLACKS FOR:
    women in tech
    LGBT in tech
    PoC in tech
    crafters who tech
    language-specific
    job-specific
    coding beginners
    conferences
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  38. Twitter
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  39. ▸ get on the #actwpdx hashtag
    ▸ people love gifs
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  40. story time
    2012
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  41. 2: Make your goals clear
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  42. mostly, make your goals clear to yourself
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  43. ▸ new job?
    ▸ contract opportunities?
    ▸ community?
    ▸ mentorship?
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  44. Having a goal helps you be more productive with your networking time.
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  45. the cultivation of productive
    relationships
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  46. networking is making useful friends
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  47. (I know this sounds a little mercenary)
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  48. put yourself out there
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  49. I’ve found the easiest way to make friends is to let people know I’m
    looking. Why is this such a taboo thing to say?
    -- Rachel Miller
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  50. When I let someone know I wanted a new opportunity, I had one that
    same week.
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  51. 3: Don't be shy
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  52. I'm an introvert.
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  53. lurking is okay!
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  54. When you have a goal,
    you will need to stop lurking.
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  55. Lady Speaker Small Talk
    — Heidi Waterhouse
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  56. ▸ make friends with someone in line
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  57. For the rest of the conference, you’ll
    probably be able to spot that one person
    you met early on and give them a friendly
    nod.
    — Heidi Waterhouse
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  58. set small interaction goals for yourself
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  59. make it easy for others to come up to you
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  60. It takes a special kind of courage to
    approach a ring of backs.
    — Heidi Waterhouse
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  61. 4: Come up with good opportunities
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  62. goes hand in hand with having a goal
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  63. MISSED
    CONNECTIONS
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  64. Remember Hannah?
    Hannah is great at this.
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  65. I tend to assume that people don't want to hang out with me.
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  66. I've tried to be more explicit when I want to get to know someone
    better.
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  67. Everyone enjoys things!
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  68. sushi
    ice cream
    work events
    meetup buddies
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  69. Everyone likes not talking about work sometimes.
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  70. story time
    2016
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  71. ... I made a new friend and committed to an open-source project!
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  72. Spending time with my new friend made me more
    comfortable asking for her help
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  73. Do the touristy thing at a conference with someone
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  74. come up with ideas
    can also mean
    think about what I can do for others
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  75. If my idea of "networking" is
    "meeting people more successful than I am"
    then I am intimidated.
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  76. then I remember that I also have
    value, ideas, and something to offer
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  77. What ideas do you have that could help someone else?
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  78. 5: Don't expect a deep, mentor-like
    connection right away
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  79. It takes time to get to know people.
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  80. At your last job,
    how long did it take you to make a work friend?
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  81. You won't like everyone
    and not everyone will like you
    and that's okay
    — my mom
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  82. FRIENDS HAVE
    DIFFERENT
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  83. ▸ detail-oriented but blunt
    ▸ great ideas but little follow-through
    ▸ amazing listener but really busy
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  84. You will work with the people in your network
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  85. proofreading
    organizing
    coaching
    fundraising
    pep-talking
    job hunting
    interview prepping
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  86. you will learn what strengths others have
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  87. you will learn what strength you have
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  88. 6: Know when to quit
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  89. When do you need to stop networking?
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  90. The best networking for me has been open-source volunteering
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  91. paid opportunities
    speaking gigs
    new job
    book
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  92. great people I can depend on
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  93. but it's also a lot of hard work
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  94. content warning: depression
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  95. burnout: losing joy
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  96. STAGES OF BURNOUT
    1. Compulsion to prove oneself 7. Withdrawal
    2. Working harder 8. Obvious behavioral changes
    3. Neglecting needs 9. Depersonalization
    4. Displacement of conflicts 10. Inner emptiness
    5. Revision of values 11. Depression
    6. Denial of emerging problems 12. Burnout syndrome
    Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North via Jacob Kaplan Moss
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  97. Taking care of yourself comes first
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  98. MAINTAIN
    RELATIONSHIPS
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  99. GRACEFUL EXIT
    1. give notice
    2. document
    3. train a new person
    4. come back later?
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  100. 7: Harmful networking
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  101. old boys club
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  102. 15,000 JOB
    APPLICATIONS
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  103. Reliance on networks for professional connections
    can be harm to diversity.
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  104. We can learn a lot from conference
    recruiting
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  105. How I Got 50% Women Speakers at My Tech Conference
    -- Courtney Stanton
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  106. "I promised mentoring, I promised practice sessions, I promised one-on-
    one slide deck reviews with people who have spent hundreds of hours
    speaking at conferences. I emailed my Women in Games Boston group, I
    attended events and encouraged groups of women in person, I sought
    women out online, I met with women over coffee. I encouraged/begged
    them to consider translating the hours and hours I’d spent with them in
    the past talking about their careers, their specialties, their ideas, into a
    45-minute presentation. I told them how much I respected their
    reputations and their ideas and that I’d be thrilled if they had the time
    or interest in submitting a talk."
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  107. use your leadership positions
    to make your organizations more inclusive
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  108. Point people you know to awesome opportunities
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  109. story time
    2017
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  110. ▸ 2015: 160 proposals
    ▸ 2016: 200 proposals
    ▸ 2017: 250 proposals
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  111. our whole team is invested in making the conference
    welcoming to every attendee
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  112. use your connection to different groups to create opportunities
    for expansion and inclusion
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  113. ...but back to my credentials..
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  114. Thank you!
    laceyhenschel.com
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  115. PHOTO CREDITS
    Tim Gouw Matty Adame LinkedIn
    Bartek Pawlik Marian Carrasquero Zack Spear
    Prima Luce Studio Slack Freestocks.org
    WoCinTech Chat Christian Widell Ian Dooley
    Epiccurence Evan Kirby Brenan Green
    Bence Boros Russell Keith-Magee UT Austin
    Vladimir Kudinov
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