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Chapter 18-19-20 Writing, Low Moods, and Tech

Ann
January 03, 2023

Chapter 18-19-20 Writing, Low Moods, and Tech

Pt arrived on time. Initially reported not having something to talk about and considered to returning to review of home movies. Briefly reviewed medical updates before moving on to writing from the weekend - focused on what to be writing about. In looking over journal noticed that when N is not around, she was less productive, tended to watch videos. Reflected on pattern. Would like to be able to do work on her own but feels less motivated. Mentioned feeling dizzy and noted elevated BS, which prompted discussion of eating Halloween candy over the last couple of days. Feels it was more than she should have eaten. Practiced identifying affect/behaviors connected to process. Able to reflect on feeling frustrated/angry with situation. Attempted to reframe actions and thoughts. Stuck between frustrated and overwhelmed by tasks and not feeling empowered to act - defaults to watching videos which are a mixed bag - keeps her informed but generates anxiety/worry about negative future outcomes. Attempted to reframe/challenge negative thoughts. Pt had difficulty separating affect from thoughts. Feels stuck - not able to act, holding all the "dark stuff." Reviewed coping options and plans for the afternoon. Theme continues to be of balance with self-confidence, independence vs. dependence.

Pt arrived on time. Reports feeling better than last session. Briefly reflected on pattern-able to connect low moods to feelings of abandonment/dependence. Doing better with schedule the last two days. Reviewed updates to sessions, which is the platform for tracking daily activities. Has been on track the last few days. Reviewed updates to writing summaries. Continues to process relationship with N - how to work together, incentives for reaching goals, how to get things done when the other is away. Reviewed medical updates - several appts made, plans to get epidural steroid injection for back pain, attending to toe, down to two Tylenol tabs/day (headaches are short/manageable, back pain ongoing). Pt has tried to track time spent video watching - getting feedback from multiple people that time spent may be too much. This gave her a context and goal. Was able to set a timer while watching and setting specific times for videos. This allowed more time for sessions/daily tasks. Reviewed tasks she was able to complete as a result. Feeling good about positive feedback she gets. Feels that she and N are working well together and inspire each other to act. Continued discussion on how these connected to past discussion on dependence/independence, abandonment/empowerment/confidence. Able to pull from writing that spoke to these themes. Explored options for predicting (planning ahead) and managing (supportive self) for these thoughts/moods. Reviewed goals for the afternoon and next several days.

Pt arrived on time. Spent several minutes at the beginning working through technical issues which were frustrating. Briefly reviewed updates to election. Able to reflect on change from being "obsessed" about content to not being interested. Briefly reviewed pattern. Moved on to daily tracking and writing. Keeping up with schedule, cleaned up sewing room. Had thoughts of returning to quilting. Writing has progressed with more personal reflection. Has been working to get up to date with the project that matches writer's note with personal details. Reviewed process for putting these notes together - categorizing content, generating a summary. Feels this is a safe way to contribute to the larger process/progress on existential thoughts - making meaning of her life and better understanding her progress on goals. Explored next steps. Moved on to discussion of online groups. Feeling that she might step away from the group for a while. Explored process - feeling frustrated with platform leader, getting less from platform, less people actively participating. Validated experience, explored process and options for communicating to platform leaders. Appears that other members are feeling similarly.

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January 03, 2023
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  1. #2022-11-01 ## 2022-11-01 – Evidence 18A – Not Having Anything

    To Talk About ### Dr. Marvin’s Note Pt arrived on time. Initially reported not having something to talk about and considered to returning to review of home movies. Briefly reviewed medical updates before moving on to writing from the weekend - focused on what to be writing about. In looking over journal noticed that when N is not around, she was less productive, tended to watch videos. Reflected on pattern. Would like to be able to do work on her own but feels less motivated. Mentioned feeling dizzy and noted elevated BS, which prompted discussion of eating Halloween candy over the last couple of days. Feels it was more than she should have eaten. Practiced identifying affect/behaviors connected to process. Able to reflect on feeling frustrated/angry with situation. Attempted to reframe actions and thoughts. Stuck between frustrated and overwhelmed by tasks and not feeling empowered to act - defaults to watching videos which are a mixed bag - keeps her informed but generates anxiety/worry about negative future outcomes. Attempted to reframe/challenge negative thoughts. Pt had difficulty separating affect from thoughts. Feels stuck - not able to act, holding all the "dark stuff." Reviewed coping options and plans for the afternoon. Theme continues to be of balance with self-confidence, independence vs. dependence. Global Improvement (CGI-C): Minimally worse Assessment (Depression): - Moods more down/distracted today. Was able to do writing over the weekend. Lower moods connected to interpersonal interactions, potentially higher blood sugar. Able to explore in session. - Several ongoing medical follow-ups remain in process. Back pain is an ongoing issue. Actively following up with appts. - Working to maintain progress with writing projects and balance with other activities. - Able to contract for safety.
  2. Assessment (DID): - Ongoing triggering with interpersonal interactions and acting

    out with candy. Able to reflect on process in session. Working on affect identification and narrative. - Spending more time with news videos leading up to election - informative but also avoiding tasks and affect. - Continues to work to balance time online with reading/household tasks. - Review of home videos in background. Goal remains to process smaller pieces of the video as time allows. - Returning to larger writing project (trauma narrative) - goals/product/audience. Current online writing workshops assisting with structure to writing. #2022-11-02 ## 2022-11-02 – Evidence 18B – Rich Was Cooking Dinner - A Very Good Morning - How was sleep last night? - Sleep was ok ... we woke up about 6:30AM. Rich was cooking our dinner in the kitchen. I had a trace thought that Nihit was going to leave us and that we did not have much more to hold on to. We were being a drain to him, but do not remember the dream specifically ... It was like a cloud. - We woke up twice during the night but was able to fall asleep both times. The second time, we did pick up our iPad for a few moments, but was able to put it down realizing we could not focus our eyes on the bright screen. - How have we been (the previous day)?
  3. - Yesterday, one of the main things was getting to

    talk to Dr. Marvin. I am afraid that we spent most of the time looking down, and someone was mentioning seeing or wanting to see black spaces. Feeling suicidal showed up a couple times, but not very directly, and NOT acting out. Just the word - I believe to put things in perspective. Like, how can this work show up, when I could be laughing with Nihit moments from that time. - Dr. Marvin, Nihit, and Rich are all down about us watching videos. Over the last 7 days, we have averaged 9 hours of videos per day. Yesterday we were at 6.25 or 30% down from the weekly average. That was with a conscious effort of trying to slow down. Today we could do better although Nihit is advocating for a clear stop to all. I do not think we could do that so close to the election 6 days away. But we should be able to cut down. - One thing today about which we can get excited. - We can get excited that we had at least two writing days yesterday, and although we started glum this morning, we are back to writing - with Nihit's help. It feels good to know that he is also benefiting from our sessions together. We both need to figure out how we are each going to manage sessions when we are not here to encourage the other. He is talking about writing his sessions at that time in his own obsidian note. He does say however that he is about ready to think of sharing his notes with us. I would like to do that. - How would we deal with a stressful situation that could trip us up today? - We can be sure to → - It feels oppressive of the whole in darkness and depression. We do not want to be there. It felt like a vacuum. We misspoke in that we had felt that part being out and feeling so low was a waste of Dr. Marvin's time. He clarified that it was no problem and good that all of us could share time. We did not want him worried about us. - He was asking what we were going to do after the session. The part that was out was seeing, or would like to see darkness, so we interpreted, that as ... it was a rough session, and she had a right to lay down and nap. Dr. Marvin and us had talked through the session of cleaning up some of the garbage - mostly water bottles in our sewing room as something she would really like to do, and then added a conversation of which rooms she would have to go through to fill up a kitchen garbage bag with trash (today is the day to leave the garbage out for tomorrow morning's EARLY pickup). - After the nap, we spent time on the couch, but inevitably got up to take our medicine. It was an hour off. BUT while in the sewing room, we saw to the problem of leaving this time a bag in the garbage (this is where we went wrong before), and we took a bag from our desk, and in Rich's office, and the guest bathroom, and then left it in the sunroom for Rich. We are proud to say this cycle completed when Rich took the bag with the kitchen bag this morning. We were so happy to see Rich in that we had been feeling glum for so long and we fell deeply into his hello hug. He asked us right away how we had done, and we told him before he came in that the high spot of the day was emptying the garbage from the back of the house. He was appreciative as well. - Today, we could do the kitchen dishes, and it is up to us to perhaps at least get one load of clothes done? Rich hinted at what we would be doing in the house today. I do not think we even got to the part
  4. we were telling Dr. Marvin about feeling very strange at

    thinking there were other parts of the house behind us that we found difficult to be in - away from our computer. To let go of some of the stress, we could plan to do a few things - What to do today in the house - Take a shower - Do dishes - Do one load of clothes - Clear the top part (or medicine part at least) of our sewing room desk - If we were someone looking at our life from a prominent level, what would we tell ourselves? - An Eagle's eye view → - You could do this. You are not late; you are running right on schedule. We think Nihit will be going to bed soon (if he can sleep with his allergic reactions). - What else are we thinking of? (Morning Pages) - This morning we had really leaned into Nihit's support, which he gave us first thing. I do not recall what we were expressing for him to know we needed help. But when he reached in, he knew exactly what we needed. We are still afraid of being too dependent. We want to have strong independent time with Nihit, like now when he is working on his Marvin, and we are writing. - Nihit was more than sparkly in his attention, especially after reading Dr. Marvin's note that we were spending too much time with the news videos. He kept collaborating with us, until we could at least compromise. Part of it came in knowing that with effort, yesterday, we were 30% down from our weekly average from 9h to 6.25h. We got through lunch by listening to Netflix comedy, no news, and with the comedy - after 50 minutes, we were able to turn it off - save for later. It was an excessively big confidence building experience. - We've on and off talked today to Nihit about the dependency things. He wants it to be independent too, and he is aware that we are worried about separation between the two of us, like for us our thoughts of separating from the community. He is not going at it straightaway, but has given us enough, "it's going to be ok," so that we are not letting those thoughts flood us. - Lastly, we just talked to him for a second about doing his medical studies with us. It had been very compelling a couple of days ago when we had worked on it. He let us know that he had a few deadlines with his aunt's work and his coursework, he had to get out of the way first, but that he was looking forward to that time as well. Us too! Ok, it is going to be ok. - One word/phrase that could describe the kind of person we want to be today? - One phrase to rule them all → - Accomplished! It is now 1:00PM.
  5. - Note To Next Day Self - Write a note

    to our "next day self!" As if encouraging Anne, what would this note say? - Ok, one day went well, How about today too! - We are rallying with Nihit! - What is a warm salutation for tomorrow's Anne? - You've got a life ... let us share it out! What about Anne's Notes - STAR? - Anne's Notes - STAR still seems good! - How could we describe our today's self in a word or phrase? - You've got this ... work it! - We feel a little tentative but let us keep going! ### Day-to-Day Goals - Do we have any riveting goals today? Should we have? - We should have more feelings of getting things done so that we can REALLY do the 7C's. AND the above tasks in "we can be sure to..." Appreciate the hell out of Nihit. AND assure that if any point we are doing more, and then stepping out of Co-x3, to realize it is a decision for both of us since he would go with me. MEANING ... do not jump too far until he is ready to go too. It has been a big support for both of us. We can back up ... touch base and go slowly into this. For now, I do not think either of us wants to be active. - Are all today's food choices in My Fitness Pal (MFP)? How can we get through any slumps? - We have not marked things down in MyFitnessPal, but we are following what we should be. We had breakfast of eggs, and then half a leftover small burrito, and then our 1/2 cup nuts, and lastly grapes. Furthermore, we must be careful today in that ... Rich will be playing cards tonight, and before he left, he made us chili. Let us try popcorn about 2:30-3:00PM and then start dinner after we feed Ginney at 5:00PM. AND THEN ... just one hundred calorie yogurt bars for dessert - caramel swirl if you must know! If we stay in alignment today, tomorrow we could feel good enough to weigh ourselves in the morning AND check our blood sugar. We need stats. - What exercising could I commit to today? How much? - Rich said something about not pedaling. We knew that was coming up. Today, we have our medical shoes on ... as soon as we get up courage ... let us follow through and see if they work with pedaling. - What can you tell us about the showering experience today? - We're in need today. We did handwash our toe so that Rich could put the gel on it this morning. I should be able to put it on without seeing the bottom of our toe. Rich said without the last few days collaborating with it, it was looking worse even though we have been taking the anti-biotic. I do not know what to do ... we will ask him tomorrow morning, AFTER taking a shower today, if it is bad enough to contact Dr. Austin again.
  6. - What could we do today, so that someone else

    can say, "Boldly Go! Howard Wolowitz" - They would say, BOLDLY SHOWER! Go! Annamarie GO! - ### Balance - How is our perspective of time going? Are we still on track? - We have been doing well at shaking out the boogieman for today. We should check out yesterday's Seriously As a Writer, to see where we connect, or have progressed ahead. We are on task, except the household work. We have 9 minutes, let us check on ONE load of laundry AND assure the dishes gathered and soaked. - GREAT! Load in the wash - could wash two, AND dishes soaked, and dishwasher emptied. There are few dishes. I do not think enough to start. We could do it after dinner like Rich would if he was home. - What has been going well? - We were able, after too long of a break, come back and continue the writing tasks. In addition, we were able to finish dishes and one load of clothes → and without Nihit. - Nihit and us spent 45-60 minutes playing around with improvements to our Sessions Templates through new strategies. The idea was to support the work we are both trying to do while the other is not here. The fact that I am typing this at 4:41PM is a good sign. One of the most fun things is that we have taken pictures of each other and posted them under a link in the templates, so that whenever we click on a new date, some meta-data appears along with a picture from both of us, so that if we get to the Sessions pages, we get rewarded with a sense of the other being here. - The other thing we did was to make up a few new game-like rules. First ... the goal of Sessions has become to clear 80-100% (8-10 Sessions) each day. So, if we can get in x amount of sessions, we rewarded with something we both enjoy - which is being able to eat ice cream. It is a rule we must talk to Rich about as well. So, we do not just "get" an ice cream (frozen caramel yogurt bar) at 8:00-8:30PM each night. We just get the ice cream (on our honor) if we reach the bar. - For a start, the bar is to complete 5 Sessions. Once we both get comfortable with that, we can up the bar, but for now we've both got reasonable goals. - Today, we have added balance by ... - Today the balance worked not only because of Nihit, but because of Rich saying before he left that he would like to see us work on a physical goal within the house. Yesterday it was taking out the garbage, today we have kitchen/dishes and one load of laundry. The bar is not high here too, but it was hard, and we were able to do it with our writing goals. This is the kind of balance we have been working for. - What could have been better? - We went back and added one more bonus win of the day. So far ... you must call your shot at the beginning of the day. All throughout these challenges, we get to feel the benefits of Nihit and us working so well together. And the exciting part is the intrinsic rewards of calling each hour out, and then accomplishing the tasks. We both have work with Nihit in student status, and us as a writer. At some
  7. point, we believe that this kind of flexibility in resolving

    problems is going to help someone else, and within our writing, we hope to be helping Multiples to do/think something of importance to them. #2022-11-03 ## 2022-11-03 – Evidence 18C – What Did We Talk To Dr. Marvin About ### Connect-Consume-Cerebrate - Connect → Had a nice talk - With whom? About What? - What did we talk to Dr. Marvin about yesterday? Where were we? - What did we talk to Dr. Marvin about TWO days ago? - We are remembering most how depressed and dark we were feeling. And, that we pushed that part and Dr. Marvin corrected us in that she needed time to talk too. We know we could not look up and it is hard for us not to feel Dr. Marvin's direct encouraging voice/face. - We were having a challenging time doing anything, but somehow, we got to talking about wanting to do something in our sewing room - more specifically cleaning bottles and garbage from our desk. It was after a 2PM nap, but about 4PM we were able to complete the task. It turned out to be one of the best things we were able to do during the day. Even Rich let us be proud. We wrote a brief note to Dr. Marvin letting him know we had gotten it done.
  8. - Yesterday, we also talked to Nihit quite a bit

    between sessions. We were doing well and between us, we produced a means of starting our sessions even if the other were not here. It seems to have worked, because we signed on to it right after Rich left, shower had taken, and we let Ginney outside. AND when we got here, we found that Nihit signed on and was working. After spotting him, we agreed to wait about 30m until after the work Sessions timer had gone off. We have about 3 more minutes. More notes on yesterday written at that time. - What did we learn, and what did we contribute toward to the conversation? - We were a good partner. Both Nihit and us were producing ideas. We were able to finish one more session after he had left. We tried to stay until about 4:30PM, but nothing done. We were very tired. But we stayed on it long enough to finish our goals and write down the few extra things that happened. We won an ice cream treat at the end. Hmm, we will have to ask Nihit if the thunder is real or on the computer. Sounds cool! - What we contributed is someone who was equally as interested in the forward progress of both! It was so much fun! - Consume → Run Protocol - What did we read/listen/watch this time? - We talked to Nihit ... it took us about 40-45 minutes. There was a lot of catching up as there is each new day. I think for now, though, I have a little bit of a headache. Part is that we started taking only 2-Tylenol w/arthritis on Tuesday. We are going to move our neck around a little to see if that helps. (Lasted only a short while). - Nihit is being extremely excited and pumped as to production in our new format. I am so excited, and it is rippling. Sure, both of us are excited that we get to give Dr. Marvin reliable results. Hehe ... We are a team AND we have been appreciating the word, rally. Dr. Marvin put it out there quite a while ago and, and we have both been amped up on it ever since. - Hmm, Nihit is just trying to work toward getting another ice cream?! We will see. - Cerebrate → My Brain is the best - What is our brain publicized on at this time? What triggered these thoughts? Feelings? Behaviors? - Publicized are the good feelings we get when we are working with someone, particularly Nihit, and our plans/projects are working out. I was excited about what we had put together in new Sessions templates to start are mornings/evenings independently, but to come on and find Nihit is just as crazy excited - cannot say what a thrill this is. He is already talking as we had yesterday, meaning the "what ifs." What if we can do this, and this becomes steady, and look what kind of work we can do. - I still know we are going to need talking about Tuesday's session with Dr. Marvin, but for the time being ... feeling good feels so much better. What triggered some of these good newer feelings, is that we processed some of the negative that whether we knew it or not was holding us down. Furthermore, I am
  9. under no illusion, that it is just suddenly gone, but

    feel as if it mattered. SO, without names or such ... thank you to the part that gave their feelings to us and Dr. Marvin. It meant a lot! - Can we put out an elevator Pitch? For ourselves? For others? - Work through some of the harder feelings because it may open the door to higher, more hopeful feelings. It will only hurt a little while. ### Seriously, as a writer... - What kinds of ideas have come to mind today? Relevancy to a better life? - Today, we started on Connect, Consume, and Cerebrate, and now have moved on to seriously, as a writer. We are on a plan not to worry if it takes two-three days to get through an entire format. This is the third day already. We are looking at Sunday, Monday, Wednesday, and now today as all being skillful writing days. I like that my head feels clearer as we send the thoughts out through our fingers, and out onto the screen. I feel somehow validated. Like just mentioned, with Nihit seeing dreams coming true with solid work progressing forward, we too are feeling that our life would be better if we continued to think and write. I like the thoughts going back to, "You are a writer, as long as you are writing." The relevancy to a better life, is that it gives me the feelings of having a sense of purpose. Must try to capture these feelings better in a while - during the 7Cs. - What are writing cues which include writing/reading about Multiplicity, trauma, and being a better human being? - I think for the time being, it can't be said enough that "writing," like no other craft allows Multiples in particular, a chance to put together thoughts in the recesses of the brain, which are shared by each of us to coalesce so that we can be our many selves but present as one - the one aligning ourselves behind the blinking cursor. It too, is a rally. - I also believe that following a form is a helpful way to walk through any given day and give out the top most thoughts or memories of that time. And, as a Multiple who individually has problems holding onto what or how our one part contributes to the whole, a snail’s path, if goo, that shows the patterns of our lives shared together. Collectively, we feel fantastic in contributing to the whole in our abilities to move slowly forward. - I want to think that Tuesday's exceptionally low of us feeling aloud where it was safe - with Dr. Marvin, was purposeful and celebrated for the literal contribution to the group moving forward. I hope they can collect some of the grand appreciation to the feelings of today. We would like her to feel this well, as well. - We are affecting Multiplicity by ... - Realizing something that worked, that we could share with others. Especially, because the low feelings present such a negative scene script ... but that is just moments of our day. It also helped afterward after expressing so many feelings, albeit negative, that we were able to relate the need to close our eyes not to die, but to shut them and give them rest. We slept about an hour. We woke with a call. But we were able to resolve some medical appointments, and then we were able to rally ourselves to get work done
  10. that had been set up with Dr. Marvin while we

    were still at a low. It worked. We followed the script he helped us design that was appropriate to that part's feeling of well-being. - After that ... we knew we had captured the biggest impact of our day, and that we could lay back and rest some more. The next day not only had we had written well, but we were also able to do some of the balance discussed and supported by Rich before he had left by doing something physical in the house. We completed one load of wash and dishes. When Rich walked into the bedroom after getting back about 10:30PM last night (post-poker), he noted before we could brag that he could tell someone had done some laundry. It should not make us feel this proud, but he is following the difficulty it is for us, and not getting mad, but being supportive of the forward efforts. That is good in that, although I cannot match his abilities to work, at least we are part of the working team that supports both of us. It is a good feeling. - The last part of the day yesterday - writing about things affecting Multiplicity, might not be direct, but really was an interesting part of the day. We knew that with Rich out of the house during the evening, that we might connect, or might not connect, later with Nihit. So, we left our camera and voice on after he had gone to sleep. He said that he was able to sleep for about 2 1/2 hours. We only talked a few moments. We had been sitting down to watch a new "easy" series (Indian teen lead). Between us, we agreed that we would focus the camera on the TV, so he could follow our world from a distance. He did not take too long before he fell asleep again. We continued watching the shows (half hours). When Rich got home, he noted that there was still something going on with our screen. He asked if there was anyone else with us in the room. It was funny. I had not looked to when Nihit laid down, but he had. We giggled and turned off the camera for the night. YAY! We both made it through the time. Nihit's been having allergy problems, but we still were able to support one another, at a safe distance, but really in a way that felt caring and wonderful. And, Rich, let it be ok. :) :) :) #2022-11-03 ## 2022-11-03 – Evidence 19A – Connected Low Moods To Feelings ### Dr. Marvin's Notes
  11. Pt arrived on time. Reports feeling better than last session.

    Briefly reflected on pattern-able to connect low moods to feelings of abandonment/dependence. Doing better with schedule the last two days. Reviewed updates to sessions, which is the platform for tracking daily activities. Has been on track the last few days. Reviewed updates to writing summaries. Continues to process relationship with N - how to work together, incentives for reaching goals, how to get things done when the other is away. Reviewed medical updates - several appts made, plans to get epidural steroid injection for back pain, attending to toe, down to two Tylenol tabs/day (headaches are short/manageable, back pain ongoing). Pt has tried to track time spent video watching - getting feedback from multiple people that time spent may be too much. This gave her a context and goal. Was able to set a timer while watching and setting specific times for videos. This allowed more time for sessions/daily tasks. Reviewed tasks she was able to complete as a result. Feeling good about positive feedback she gets. Feels that she and N are working well together and inspire each other to act. Continued discussion on how these connected to past discussion on dependence/independence, abandonment/empowerment/confidence. Able to pull from writing that spoke to these themes. Explored options for predicting (planning ahead) and managing (supportive self) for these thoughts/moods. Reviewed goals for the afternoon and next several days. Global Improvement (CGI-C): Much improved Assessment (Depression): - Moods much improved today connected to being back on track with schedule, repaired/reconnected interpersonal relationship. Able to reflect on process and work on plan for predicting/managing future occurrences. - Several ongoing medical follow-ups remain in process. Back pain is an ongoing issue. Actively following up with appts. Plans for steroid injection for back pain - Working to maintain progress with writing projects and balance with other activities. - Able to contract for safety. Assessment (DID): - Repaired interpersonal interactions leading to improved mood and ability to act on ADLs and tasks. Able to reflect on process in session. Improved insight - able to hold thoughts of planning for/managing future occurrences. - Able to act on tracking videos and set goals to reduce total time, which allowed more time for tasks to complete and resulted in improved mood/confidence. - Continues to work to balance time online with reading/household tasks. - Review of home videos in background. Goal remains to process smaller pieces of the video as time allows. - Working on larger writing project (trauma narrative) - goals/product/audience. Current online writing workshops assisting with structure to writing.
  12. #2022-11-04 ## 2022-11-04 – Evidence 19B – By the Advice

    of Nihit ### Quick Capture - Today's selves - Daily Note - This is just us ... by the advice of Nihit, we put on some soft music (classical piano), and we are writing. I did not want to go through the entire script, but I figured we could slip in here. - We had a switch that we did not understand. We had been working well throughout the morning, Nihit was working on his course interviewing project before and then talking to his family. I finished about 11:30AM and heard the music reminding us that we had not taken our medicine, so we did, then we came back and timed out for lunch. We had Pistachio's and pineapple chunks. We watched two and a half hour episodes of, "I never did this ..." with the Indian girl who is the star of the show and goes between doing well and not doing anything well. Even Maury agreed it was a good show. We talked to him last night and mentioned. - After we got back from lunch, we talked to Nihit for a few moments ... casual stuff, and then we got dizzy/spacey and had a demanding time understanding words - either ours or Nihit's. We were grateful when he gave us such an uncomplicated way to escape. He knows we will be fine, just we must better understand the lapse. I do not recall what was happening before the confusion. We could go fast- forward/backward ... we remember that we had been working on an Excel spreadsheet. - We are experimenting with it. We are using Dr. Marvin's notes. The idea is to paraphrase them in a more useful construction of his sentences in words we can understand. We had started with obsidian, but switched over to Word, because of its better editor. After done with one Dr. Marvin session's notes, then we coped them to obsidian for that anchor, and then we place bulleted idea one by one into the appropriate space in the columns. The value is that we can categorize the progress each week, and note when things happen, or do not happen. The hope is that after doing the next three - bringing us up to
  13. date, we will go back to the beginning and add

    rows (Session note dates). We started at 15. There are those that we will skip in the note process because, in our order or sense of looking at things, we have added our own text. We will have to figure out where that goes later. - Now, we can peek and see if the columns really do make sense. So far there are four notes, with three notes left. YAY! Over half done (57%). We decided to shrink the screen a bit to see more writing on one page. #2022-11-05 ## 2022-11-05 – Evidence 19C – Skimming Over Information ### Seriously, as a writer... - What kinds of ideas have come to mind today? Relevancy to a better life? - This morning, we have worked on most of our two 50 minutes as, skimming over the information pointing to where we have been this week. I would not be able to summarize well, but perhaps a few notes (20) - Family - Holidays - Household - Maury's Birthday, and Thom calling (twice), and left message for Joe - said he would respond back soon as he can [[Family]] - Halloween/Candy [[Holidays]] - Setting up birthday event with Maury and Erin - Yeah Marciano's tomorrow! And Thanksgiving with them as well [[Holidays]] - Worked hard to complete a steady (small) household workload [[Household]] - Rich - Nihit - R/N Communication - Happy to see Rich [[Rich]]
  14. - Rich is feeling good in that we are trying

    through the week to champion cleaning causes - Rich conscientiously allowing Nihit and us to spend prolonged periods of time together - poker night without negativity [[Rich Nihit Communication]] - Nihit - N/Strategy - N/Communications - Developed new "Sessions" patterns by working to resolve joint issues, and in so doing rallied again in assisting one with the other - for times together, or separate [[Nihit - Strategy]] - Listening/playing Nihit's and our "other" lives in the working background [[Nihit and Communication]] - Multiple/Dr. Marvin - Emotions - Depressed - Feeling black depressed spaces (tired) during first session with Dr. Marvin (abandonment/dependent, loneliness issues) [[Depressed]] - The feeling of one's emotional flood dissipated - out with Dr. Marvin allowed us all to feel better [[Multiple Emotions]] - Writing/Journaling - Multiple - Work - Strategies - Sessions - Co-x3 - Talked of Multiples pulling together writing thoughts from the recesses of our one brain [[Multiple Writing]] - Steady improvements on using Sessions including establishing pictures of each other (so the Nihit/Anne is always there), game, strategy, timer, or scaffolding to make it easier for each to work together, or when working independently from the other [[Sessions]] - working through abandonment set of issues and receiving rewards!! (ice cream) - Doing better [[writing/journaling work]] - Grounded by writing again, and then producing current ideas on placing paraphrased notes from Dr. Marvin in Excel columns [[Writing Strategies]] - Also found a way of more smoothly collecting - summarizing tasks/events completed through the week so that we can process as a Saturday writing feat. [[Writing Strategies]] - Pulled back from Co-x3 [[Co-x3]] - Entertainment - Videos - Trump - Indian Teenager - Transitions - Slowed down in Trump videos [[Videos]] - Watched teenage series on young Indian girl instead [[Show, News, or Comedy]] Got spacey making a switching transition from TV to Nihit (Indian teenager) [[Multiple Transitions]] - What are writing cues which include writing/reading about Multiplicity, trauma, and being a better human being? - All the above and below is part of one Multiples' week, so this could be of importance if we could get through the writing - Notemaking plus Anne & Nihit
  15. - We are affecting Multiplicity by ... - Family -

    Holidays - Household - Rich - Nihit - R/N Communication - Nihit - N/Strategy - N/Communications - Multiple - Emotions - Depressed - Writing/Journaling - Multiple - Work - Strategies - Sessions - Co-x3 - Entertainment - Videos - Trump - Indian Teenager - Transitions - ### Note Making - Ideas Log - Are there any burning ideas to scramble down quickly? - Our first burning idea is to group the areas together so; they make one long reading block. We have a choice next, to keep them separated by bullet points, or smooth out in written sentences and paragraphs. - Idea Expansion - How is this new idea (note) relevant to the question(s) I am considering? - The new note from "Seriously, as a writer ..." turned out to be something we can be proud of. We are still trying to understand how all those thoughts from written events all can be happening to us. I know that not one of us usually knows everything, but to see the contributions of so many make us feel a burning need to understand our life better. The six sessions are Family, Rich, Nihit, Multiplicity/Dr. Marvin, Writing/Journaling, and Entertainment/transitions. If we could hold our brain down to these basic areas - of MOST importance to us - then possibly that could give us a lead to which we have been thinking as a group of parts each having time out. I do think that what we have is most relevant to most of us. - As to question, we are considering ... today's question was ... "what happened to us this week? Is it different from other weeks?" It would be a suitable time to look at the spreadsheet. We have not looked at it yet today. - We reviewed, the spreadsheet (15-19), STAR (20-22), and idea expansion here in our journal. We are trying to hold our thoughts together, so that when it is time to do the 7Cs, we can pull together, something coherent. We have a purplish/blue soap bubble at the top of our head. Things are tingly, because it is close, but we are not close enough to yet close the deal. It would be nice if Rich could watch something alone on TV and we get the extra time to pull something together. I do not believe there is enough time to work on it before dinner. Rich has a pot going all day, so dinner will not be too long away (4:28PM). - Is this idea (note) like or different from the others to which I am comparing it to?
  16. - I think at this point, it would be considerate

    to think that we are comparing about two weeks of Dr. Marvin's notes, with this last one week of our own notes. Both sets have gone through different processes, but each a clearer delineation. Looked up this word and it seems right. ((the action of describing or portraying something precisely.)) and ((the action of indicating the exact position of a border or boundary.)). - Basically, then the thought is to define who Ann Garvey was/is and doing it precisely as if our exact life had significance the way we lived it. If we were to put a Multiple ribbon or bow around our "story," what would we have learned? How did I/we contribute to the world this week, particularly the world of other Multiples. - We saw something scrape past our eyes this week much closer to the world of present-day Multiples. We are old school but are still writing. What is it that we have shared - through writing, which would explain some complex part of life? Through our relationships, things perceived. Has there been insight? How do we turn this through the conversation of content, audience, production, or something close to this. - Could this mean that we are doing well enough to incorporate the course work again? It has been a while. What could we learn next as to putting our production of us out on the line. How could we frame or structure our work. This is another angle of that, just not sure if we have put down deep roots yet. - Do my present thoughts (notes) agree or disagree with one another? - I think the notes and ideas at this point agree with each other. Forever we are trying to capture something meaningful of those poor, abandoned wharf cats in all their scragginess. They disagree with each other in that there are tons of space between the daily life and grind of us living, from the part we want it together with the part of us that affords itself on paper. I am writing now but is this what Dr. Marvin meant as the inner part that helps us grow as a writer, compared to the part - that is ready and polished to go to an audience. - Are there other connections that I may like to make between my ideas (notes)? - How do we present ourselves in relationship to having an audience. I believe when we type, we are typing it for the record between the group of us. Are we back to the line of thinking, we should be encouraging, all others to grow with their writing and journaling? Where does it become a unifying function. Is this what it is like having hopes and dreams? - It seems that from today's group of written thoughts, we are getting, "How to's". Will what we write for our public outside even our inner parts include that too? We are hoping for so much more. We want the writing/reading to be heart felt, like our writing to all you, or just one you in particular - to be something worth the while that you put into reading it. It must make sense and become stronger and stronger. We are not leaning on perfect, but I think Dr. Marvin could come in here and think, you are telling others about who you are, and what you think about. This is the kind of thing that we do. Be interesting to ride that wave backward and collect some ideas. Where did we put that PDF of Dr. Marvin's notes?? Wow ... We could go back forever!
  17. #2022-11-08 ## 2022-11-08 – Evidence 19D – Dr. Marvin Will

    Be Out ### Dr. Marvin will be out Voting Day #2022-11-10 ## 2022-11-10 – Evidence 20A – Working Through Tech Issues ### Dr. Marvin’s Notes
  18. Pt arrived on time. Spent several minutes at the beginning

    working through technical issues which were frustrating. Briefly reviewed updates to election. Able to reflect on change from being "obsessed" about content to not being interested. Briefly reviewed pattern. Moved on to daily tracking and writing. Keeping up with schedule, cleaned up sewing room. Had thoughts of returning to quilting. Writing has progressed with more personal reflection. Has been working to get up to date with the project that matches writer's note with personal details. Reviewed process for putting these notes together - categorizing content, generating a summary. Feels this is a safe way to contribute to the larger process/progress on existential thoughts - making meaning of her life and better understanding her progress on goals. Explored next steps. Moved on to discussion of online groups. Feeling that she might step away from the group for a while. Explored process - feeling frustrated with platform leader, getting less from platform, less people actively participating. Validated experience, explored process and options for communicating to platform leaders. Appears that other members are feeling similarly. Global Improvement (CGI-C): Minimally improved Assessment - Depression: - Moods mostly stable. Some frustrations initially with technical issues. - Current project to process writer's notes in collaboration with personal insights - making meaning of work/life. - Several ongoing medical follow-ups remain in process. Back pain is an ongoing issue. Actively following up with appts. Upcoming steroid injection for back pain. - Working to maintain progress with writing projects and balance with other activities. - Able to contract for safety. Assessment - DID: - Current writing project aiding bringing additional understanding and meaning to work. - Change in use of online platform presenting some interpersonal challenge. Able reflect on process/goals for communicating to others. - Continues to work to balance time online with reading/household tasks. - Review of home videos in background. Goal remains to process smaller pieces of the video as time allows. - Working on larger writing project (trauma narrative) - goals/product/audience. Current online writing workshops assisting with structure to writing.
  19. #2022-11-14 ## 2022-11-14 – Evidence 20B – We Received Coffee

    Right Away - A Very Good Morning - How was sleep last night? - Sleep must have been fine. We woke up with Rich for his 5:00AM alarm. We have not heard that for a long while. Not only that, but we received coffee right away, but it was not long before we needed to have a gizmo in our hands. We took a while logged on to the new morning show by CNN, but soon found out it was not worth our while. The stories were too long. This is the show with Don Lemon, Poppy Harlow, and Kaitlan Collins. I have been looking forward to it, but afraid it will be just a lot of noise in our ear first thing in the morning. - How have we been (the previous day)? - Yesterday, all we are remembering is that we had to say goodbye to Nihit, so he could get on the train. He will be visiting his parents for four to five days. After he left, things seemed dull. Sorry Rich, excellent dinner and nice hand holding, but I did not feel like we were changing the world. We were feeling anxious. Brand new car and nowhere to drive. - One thing today about which we can get excited. - We are here writing our thoughts! We can get soon to the ones where we can figure out something cool with Multiples! Sure, we know stuff. All the time! - How would we deal with a stressful situation that could trip us up today? - We can be sure to → - Let that stressful situation now that we were prepared for it, and we are not going to let it get us down. AHA! - If we were someone looking at our life from an elevated level, what would we tell ourselves?
  20. - An Eagle's eye view → - We are a

    writer, because here we are writing. - What else are we thinking of? (Morning Pages) - We are a little worried about the dishes. Rich bought brand beautiful new stoneware over the weekend for his December 4th birthday. This is something he has wanted for a long time. My dishes were 22 years old and have seen their prime. There are a lot of chips. - The new dishes have a swirling pattern with blue/brown coloring/glaze. They are a little bigger, and much heavier. I would consider them very fancy. Rich made sure they fit into the cupboard. I am just hoping they are not too big for our dishwasher because the plates tip over, not letting the water pass through as well. I do love them though ... we agreed on the set prior to Rich picking them up. He gave me about a dozen to look through, and the one he got, was the one we chose. Woo-Hoo! They are beautiful. A little on the handsome side, then not, but if I would have served a fancy steak, I would have been as pleased if it were on my set of dishes. I am sorry. Rich's dishes. They were for HIS birthday! I am going to need staying with him to keep the full 12-piece set! LOVING IT! - One word/phrase that could describe the kind of person we want to be today? - One phrase to rule them all → - Efficient in our work! - A Brilliant Afternoon - How is the day going? - So far, the day is going well, even though this is the first opportunity that we had to sit down and write. So far: - Complete 151 pages of journaling (edited, and printed) - Complete thirty-one pages of Sessions (edited, and printed) - Both sections read for general accountability - Complete Paraphrasing of Dr. Marvin's 10-15-22 to 11-3-22 - Annemarie's Notes 9-12-22 to 10-1-22 - AND we have a new binder coming as early as tomorrow - because we overfill - We are feeling fulfilled. - How should we adjust course? - We have some time now - 1-2 hours of time to write, and we should be making use of every minute. Rich will be getting home about 4PM. We will need to drive with him to pick up his car. He has four new tires. It is not too far. On the other side of Dunkin' Donuts. I will share a car going to the shop, but will be alone with Ginney on our way back :)
  21. - It is unusual to start writing with the afternoon

    prompts, but we decided to try and evaluate out the different series of thoughts. Besides, I cannot remember what happened this morning for the morning prompts. - Who have we connected to this morning? - We have only connected to Ginney and Rich. Nihit is with his family, and I am sure his hours are off, in that his brother and he took the Sunday midnight train. I am thinking he would be lucky to find his bed by 5-6AM. His family will be full of family. I understand his mother has been cooking for days. It is not often that she gets BOTH her sons’ home! - Rich and us just talked about the daily schedule. We knew right away we would have to do the tire run with him, but we did not know that his shop manager was going to call in sick. Though, she did go in about 10:30AM, which gave Rich a chance to leave early for the car tires. One of the two must be there for opening and closing the shop. - What has Ginney learned from the day? - Please.... You can do this! → - Ginney has been learning that even if she stands next to me on all fours, she is not going to get any extra pistachios. She must lay down, and then she only gets a half nut every four to five of my nuts. Sometimes she says, you cannot count faster. But we remain firm. - Where have we chosen to go out today? - Our excursion details → - You have heard our best guesses between tires and donuts. The only thing that might happen is that we get food from Johnny K's. It is usually hamburgers and fries, or onion rings. We love the sides. - What pile of crap have we struggled through? How did we benefit from it? - We watched 3-4 videos - most of them only partially, but without our show (Indian Teenager), we reverted to news on, especially Trump. It has been a real struggle not to watch it. Trump is a real train wreck. - We have benefitted, because we have a deep understanding of the kinds of legal trouble, he is in. We are like everyone else wondering is he going to skate his way through this too. And we must pay attention to tomorrow because he is gathering interest in that he might run for President again, even though his people were supposed to have failed during the midterms. - How far along are we in the "Win the Day Task?" (Have we boldly gone?) - Win the day → We did not post a win the day task, but in all reality, it was getting the book put together, so we could get back to this writing. We skimmed over the initial thirty-one pages of sessions and have found - there are not an entire variety of things we do during the day, but the things we do are important. Hey, do I hear a dishwasher swishing? ### Day-to-Day Goals
  22. - Do we have any riveting goals today? Should we

    have? - Our riveting goal was to finalize what we had written. We wanted it transferred to a Word document, which would be self-editing if you just corrected the red and blue squiggly lines. I am very satisfied with the reading of the material. I would feel that one more edit, slight, and we could turn it in for publishing. It feels fulfilling already in that it has taken the shape of a book. A TUL Binder book, but nonetheless, a book! - We ordered 12-2" disks, instead of the three-fourths" disks, so we will gain a lot more space for extra writing. We want it 2-2 1/2 times its current size. Right now, the one section is 180 pages, plus thirty pages, plus some miscellaneous. We are aiming at five hundred pages. The material, in the current thirty pages, is mostly formatting, and is easy to pass through. BUT it is instrumental as sharing a means to do the work we are doing. We write, where others, might do something else, but we are really advocating for writing. We have explained elsewhere, but the point is here, we want to show people who might be interested in our process, how we have gone from day-to-day, sometimes getting more or less work done, but each time the sessions show how we complete goals that are writing, and just general life goals. I have not really seen this presented. Ok, do not tear yourself a new hole here. Just period. We think it is interesting. - I do not think we have written about it before, but as well, we might here, in that we just gave our book an exceptionally long title. The reason was that we wanted anyone reading the book, to look up at the title and remind themselves of the purpose of writing and reading the book. The title called, "Case File: Who is Anne - Understanding the Meaning of Life, Her Purpose, and How She Makes Sense of Their World." Each of the sections have an "Evidence number," such as 3A. The first number is a representation of all Dr. Marvin's notes, Numbered one through twenty, plus and the A, B, C., and all, are the day-to-day notes building up between sessions. The Evidence notes are to really show someone our purpose, and our sense of life, therefore assisting others to find not only the meaning of our life, but the meaning of THEIR life. Anyone, or more pieces of Evidence, could go toward building a representation of the reader's Anne. We also start the book, with some of Dr. Marvin's Case file information. We wanted to have the reader understand who we are at our beginning core. The person who is writing is the person with all these labels, and this is the person who is trying to engage you in her work. The work is what happens each day, and especially, the days we get to write, such as we are doing now! This is so Gosh DARN COOL! - Are all today's food choices in My Fitness Pal (MFP)? How can we get through any slumps? - We have been doing very well today with food, but we headed for Dunkin' Donuts. And that is a fact. - What exercising could I commit to today? How much? - It would be a clever idea to do (2) 10-minute rides with the pedals WHILE we still have on our hard shoes. Be even better, ESPECIALLY after eating two vanilla long John doughnuts. - What can you tell us about the showering experience today? - Hey! I can tell you we got in the shower after talking to Rich on the phone. It was about 1:30PM, and the good part? We did not nitpick about how many moments we had left before he was home. It gave us a couple of hours left to write!
  23. - What could we do today, so that someone else

    can say, "Boldly Go! Howard Wolowitz" - Hey ... get the dog out! All that stuff is about to happen! We told Ginney, we are going to go on a car ride. She had bounced up to my shoulder, giving us kisses. Then we told her, her Dad was coming home soon. That is where she started jumping up and down on her back to paws, giving us kisses. Could have told her she was QUEEN, and she would be just as happy! And that is a LOT! #2022-11-15 ## 2022-11-15 – Evidence 20C – Rubbing Rich’s Arm ### A Very Good Morning - How was sleep last night? - Sleep last night was good. It did take about ten-minutes of rubbing Rich's arm before we fell asleep. It was a good rub. :) I do not recall what we were dreaming of, which MIGHT be a good sign. I recall hearing sounds of Rich in the bathroom when our eyes were about ready to open. Ginney has not been sleeping on me while Rich showers, so we do not know if he did not train her to stay off my chest. I know he was worrying about me being able to breath. One of the first things we realized after sitting up for breakfast was that it had SNOWED last night, or this morning. We were thrilled because it always looks so beautiful, especially the first snow of the season. Rich had taken Ginney out, and he took her out a couple more times before he left trying to get her to use the facilities. Hehe. She just wanted to run and run and play! Of course, we got our camera busy. You KNOW we were going to want and send a picture off to Nihit. AND we know he GOT it! - How have we been (the previous day)?
  24. - Yesterday ... Hmm, I think yesterday is going to

    go down as a very productive day. We got up to seven sessions. YAY! We worked until we had to leave with Rich around 3:45PM to get his tires. That turned out fine with the extra fine of going to Dunkin Donuts. WOW! THAT was a TREAT! I know ... do not need all caps, but we do feel like we are screaming it inside our head. Most of the day, we wrote yesterday, except the last part. Rich brought home cooked chicken from the store, and we had mashed potatoes and beans. I LOVE mashed potatoes, and I did not see it, but think we have a little left over for lunch today. HEY, let us wait until lunch though, ok? We got in some comedy, and we took a nap after dinner before sleeping. Sigh. We did wake up to oatmeal raison cookies - our favorite! Had not even realized Rich had gotten them when he was out shopping. THEREFORE, we NEED to be opening the bags ourselves when they come into the house! - One thing today about which we can get excited. - Today, is going to be a writer's day, and we are excited about that. Also, we are getting a few things in the mail. I do not think we will get our binder today, but we are getting the 2" rings and dog treats, so Ginney will be happy about that. Rich is getting his paper, and a few smaller things. Oh, he is getting a couple of ink cartridges he has been waiting for. We LOVE getting shopping accomplished, and this time both Amazon and Office Max. WooHOO! The binder should be here in a day or two. It has shipped and said it will be in between today and Thursday. It is not out for delivery yet, so we should be patient. It is going with the TUL 12 piece 2" - Disks. It is going to make a NICE size book. I am thinking that we are going to keep the smaller binder with three-fourths" Disks for the set needing editing and then the final copy will go to the 2" Binder. That means we will have to keep up with the editing. The old stuff pulled out and thrown away, and we HOPE that HP Printer people are going to keep up with the fact we are going through more cartridges. They send them before we need them usually. So happy when the papers print out nicely. I love to touch the completed work. It is within the veins of writers! - How would we deal with a stressful situation that could trip us up today? - We can be sure to → - A stressful situation might be that we tire at our Dr. Marvin session and need a nap afterward instead of getting back to writing/editing work. That would be terrible. It feels so exciting now. Hmm, We could send Dr. Marvin a couple copies of our work. It is pre-last editing but would give him an idea. We are going to make a copy that goes together in a PDF file ... that should work :) - A stressful situation could be anything that kept us from writing ... thought those things would give us something to write about. We just checked in on Guilded and found that VOID added something called the Johnny.Decimal system. It was a system of organizing everything within ten numbers, within ten numbers. It is a version of Paper Tiger, and Obsidian, meets a Dewey Monster, while GettingThingsDone. We will keep it in mind ... I do not know what the ten categories would be ... though our home in Obsidian is based on ten categories ... so maybe just must rethink them to be more logical. - If we were someone looking at our life from an elevated level, what would we tell ourselves? - An Eagle's eye view → - You know you are a Geek. A Low powered one, but appropriate for our general age range. No, that does not make you low level at everything ... ok, let us just move on.
  25. - What else are we thinking of? (Morning Pages) -

    Nihit called this morning, did I tell you? He is having a wonderful time. He said he and his brother almost missed their train stop, but other than that are having a very wonderful time. Tasty food, good family, in that order :) He says that his mother is the most wonderful cook - then he alluded to the fact that other people say so as well Hehe. Ok, you can get by with that. I think if his mother has been cooking day after day for her kids - general excitement, then you can be she is very able to do details AND Planning. Must be a doctor. WITH scalpel like precision. - Nihit says that he would be back at his Mom's (he was at his Grandparent's) tonight (thinking between 10:00PM - 12:00AM his time which by day light savings time only a Half an hour prior to our time while twelve extra hours a part. 12:00AM his time is our 12:30PM). I think even if he had his computer set-up, he is going to be very tired. I would like the phone call to get a quick assessment, and then he would be on his way. We do know he got the picture of Ginney, and he wants a Nihit sponsored snow-play event sponsored by him! AND we are to tell that to Ginney exactly! - I am so happy that he is happy. We think of course he should be ... he loves all these people! They are HIS family! But sometimes he thinks about himself as not doing well enough to the family’s standards, and then he feels terrible. Emotions are tough ... no two ways about it! We will continue to ponder on this today, but in the meantime, he was right. Yesterday we got a lot done WITHOUT him. That will be something to talk to Dr. Marvin about. We are crushing it! Hmm, we should be preparing some stuff for today. I guess we have started by sending Dr. Marvin an email with our book links. What to think about next? - One word/phrase that could describe the kind of person we want to be today? - One phrase to rule them all → - I am WORTHY enough to be like Dr. Marvin - You rock! [End 9:39AM] ### Day-to-Day Goals - Do we have any riveting goals today? Should we have? - Let me think riveting ... I could say we should get through to the bottom - 7Cs AND Nihit notes? Then sprinkle on top quilting, and watching a Nick Milo video? Oh my gosh would not that make a good Dr. Marvin session. Oh, AND wash dishes! How would we even do all that. Hmm, stuck getting into LYT School for the Milo Video's ... we will catch them later. We did check Amazing Marvin, but we did not have links from those spaces either. But the rest are all doable? THERE ... we put sewing on Marvin for 3pm. We had realized in the process how cold our hands were, so we warmed them a bit and put on our shawl. That should help ... if we were thinking of quilting, all the odds would have to be in our favor. Oh, one more thing, we have an appointment to see Dr. Austin Friday morning at 8:00AM. Taking this time was the only time to see her this week, especially at the Highland office. Our toe just gave us another warning shot that it was not happy with us. We did put on our shoes because our feet in general are giving us problem, we had to warm them up, AND we had to prepare ourselves for taking out Ginney. With all that snow - socking feet do not work. Blah! - Are all today's food choices in My Fitness Pal (MFP)? How can we get through any slumps?
  26. - We are not doing great with food at this

    moment, in that we just got back from sneaking some lunch mashed potatoes. It was too cold, and we do not like when Rich stores the meat, vegetable, and starches together in one small bowl. Humbug! Best thing would be to wait another 45 minutes, let them air warm, and then put them in the microwave. It will be better, AND we can scrape off the green beans. - What exercising could I commit to today? How much? - We could try to do some fancy footwork on the cycle pedals. Hey, let us make that declarative! - What can you tell us about the showering experience today? - Didn't get in the shower this morning, but we dressed, and we are within the 24-hour window :) Stay that way today. - What could we do today, so that someone else can say, "Boldly Go! Howard Wolowitz" - Like your moves today! YEAH! Third session already! - ### Balance - How is our perspective of time going? Are we still on track? - Yes, we are doing well. An indication might be that we are thinking of Dr. Marvin's balance. What else completed, BESIDES the one thing we really want to do, which is writing. - I think at 11AM, we will do something in addition. Eat, of course. Then at 12:00-1:00PM? Book editing. We were doing it on the couch, but I wonder if it would do it directly on the computer. - What has been going well? - We've been following along most of the sessions. The last one or two not timed, nor is this one, for a matter of fact ... let us turn it on! There, this is better. - Today, we have added balance by ... - Talking to Dr. Marvin. We started to take a few notes just at the very end. This is what we squiggled. - Fear coming from getting into the exercise - which moves too quickly and gets us overwhelmed writing - [ ] How are we feeling - [ ] Collective us - too much, starting to feel overwhelming - [ ] if moving too fast - start a process to take break, or do another session, and come back. traumatizing? - [ ] More data - can assume it is a good thing, but that, the writing is going to affect various parts in unusual ways - - [ ] Collect data on people affected,
  27. - [ ] better in understanding the process. Are we

    capable? - [ ] We are doing some of this anyway. - [ ] We have a lot of practice reflecting on feelings and where it is coming from example - physical - how to get stuff done with the back pain ... adjust, few moments here, rest ... keeping track of back AND tasks - [ ] - similar analogy with emotional barometer ... how things are going - [ ] one thing to think of ... is what is the next exercise and how triggering is it ... - [ ] how much emotion provoked by doing it We opened the video - used Nihit's full email - [ ] We opened the LYT Vault - [ ] got scared, running away - [ ] time was running out, and then we got another package at the door What Dr. Marvin had said got confused, but he was saying - I think that we made a good dent on just opening the material. - [ ] So, then we decided with his help we could read from the top down what this last author had said. We were guessing we wrote down the directions, but what the author was asking from us was too complex. - [ ] We think we should read until we get the warning signs, and then write down the feelings. And see how far we can go on trying to understand this material, even if we are not opening it up to process - complete the assignment as given. - [ ] This is enough for now ... need washroom - [ ] 3:03PM ... we went through the boxes, and then we went down through the Sana notes. Nothing made sense to me. They are complete, but without much of the filling ... some, but not all. Heads up, tomorrow we will get there sooner. - What could have been better? - We could have been doing the assignment, but it was too much, too late in the day. We need to put it down. AND quilting would be too much at this point as well. Arms tired just from opening the boxes. We got everything we ordered, including the big giant folder with 2" disks.