piano from above the pianist’s position so that we could watch her play the keyboard. Wow, that was nice. I would like more of it. This is what we are contributing to the conversation. Usually, we know we are IN the conversation, but do not remember too much later. Ok, we have said this a million times. We can think of a clue. What was happening with Nihit? Hmm, several moments have gone by ... we should take note of this is one of the reasons we write ... we cannot recall very well, at least enough to get us started. Let us take a note here to try and write throughout the day, k? - 23:09 → Nihit is the best. That he is just the best, no less, he is impressive!!!!!!!!!!! ~Nihit ### Anne's Summary of Dr. Gabor Mate's notes on, "How Trauma Fuels Disease." Trauma affects doctors, patients. people in war, extreme abuse, catastrophes, and when good things are not happening, nor emotional needs. It could lead to chronic illness, particularly through the autoimmune system. It affects stress, coping mechanisms, suppression, and our roles in society. With trauma, you are not living your authentic life. You may recover from trauma when encouraged to find natural rhythms and balance. Trauma affects one’s sense of uncertainty, lack of control, information processing, and an ability to resolve conflicts. Other faults of trauma are that it affects peoples' sense of loneliness and problems with addictiveness. Factors are the autoimmune diseases after acculturation, politics, individuals’ roles within society, generational traumas, and epigenetic tendency. Trauma affects one’s adaptive ability to strategize and proceduralize. And it could give to future generations. Abused kids are not able to connect with parents/ Trauma robs the child's childhood. No one is immune. It prevents secure attachments. Children need to experience all their emotions fully and acceptably. They need free play (away from the Internet), gain a sense of agency where they can roam outdoors and participate in life decisions including their own health. They need to feel their own authenticity, anger, acceptance, autonomy and contact their real selves and interests. We do not need to suffer before we investigate healthy perspectives. But once affected though by trauma, we want to prevent deeply ingrained patterns. We need to change patterns that imprint discouragement and apathy. We want to prevent from fueling victimhood and helplessness. Often traumatized identities show earlier loss of agency. It is healthy to find reality other than trauma that gives us life meaning. We can look at it fearlessly and not allow it to define us as human beings. Trauma is not us; trauma is the internal psychological wound inside - and CAN correct. We need to take responsibility and not blame. And it is up to us not to push onto the lives of our children. It is up to us to unpack our pressures and develop safe environments to talk. Growth of one family member, can lead to growth in others. Kids are resilient but do not deserve the traumas we suffered.