Chapters 15-16-17 Video Views, More Medical, Leading to Distracted Work

#2022-10-20 ## 2022-10-20 – Evidence 15A – Nihit Making Recommendations
### Dr. Marvin’s Note Pt arrived on time. Started with comments from friend N recommending she talk to writer about her video watching pattern. Briefly reviewed pattern but did not spend time exploring it before moving on to update of medical results - had MRI Tuesday night. Answered several questions about content. Next step is to schedule F/U appt with Dr. Augusthy. Having more pain/stiffness in her back with lower dose of Tylenol especially when first getting up. Confirmed dose of Tylenol as 4x 650mg and options for decreasing to three times/day. Moved on to review of goal tracker updates. Working to set specific block of time aside for working on tasks. Second half of the session spent reviewing writing exercises. These have continued the themes of defining content areas, target audience, and brand for writing projects. At times pt felt disconnected from aspects and related several negative thoughts (low self-confidence). Worked to reframe and look at larger context of writing and goal of these exercises. Challenged several of the negative assumptions about her skill level, ability to write effectively, develop a narrative. Made distinction between exploratory writing (goal is to understand her own thoughts/feelings) and writing for an audience (specific content for a specific audience). Explored options for process - working from small projects to larger ones. Pt reported benefit from discussion. Global Improvement (CGI-C): No change Assessment - Depression: - Moods appear stable this interval. Working more on writing. Continues to negotiate online relationship. - Several ongoing medical follow-ups in process. - Working to maintain progress with writing projects and balance with other activities. - Able to contract for safety.

Assessment - DID: - Acutely triggered last week with thoughts/feelings
of dependency/abandonment in the context of relationship with N. Did not return to these today - avoided topic of time spent on videos. - Able to reflect on writing goals and scope of work. Identified next steps. - Review of home videos ongoing. Goal remains to process smaller pieces of the video as time allows. - Continues to work to balance time online with reading/household tasks. - Returning to larger writing project (trauma narrative) - goals/product/audience. Current online writing workshops assisting with structure to writing. #2022-10-25 ## 2022-10-25 – Evidence 15B – Memories of Rich Moving Around ### A Very Good Morning - How was sleep last night? - Sleep was ok. We went to bed by 9:30PM ... Rich had to be up an hour early, and we did not want to press him. We woke a few times during the night but did not hear that Ginney had gotten sick. We have some memory of Rich moving around and assessed he was helping Ginney. Not only that, but we were dreaming when Rich woke us. He was cranky, and our dream just popped, giving us no recollection. He said he had to go in 5 minutes. We were waiting until he left, went to the washroom, and then got coffee before sitting down to the computer. We were rummaging around doing something but early on found Nihit. Not only that, but we then talked several hours. - How have we been (the previous day)? - We are a little excited because we just got to hang out with Vitti, Aanya, and Nihit's Aunt. They are still visiting her family and Nihit's family (her husband's). The kids were getting ready for bed. There was a lot of excitement, and it was the first time they signed on to find both Nihit and us. It was a good allowance

so that he knew they could do it. They are
going back to their home where Nihit is, and then two days later they would be going to America. Nihit's father was pressing that Nihit should join them, but he grumpily refused, saying he wanted some quiet time. So, he gets 2-3 weeks at home by himself before just the aunt and kids come back to their "old home." - Yesterday, we were the epitome of laziness. We did not want to do anything. I am trying to think now, but it was a couple of minutes on the computer, then eat and sleep, and then sleep again. Well, sort of. We did get Ginney to and from the groomers, and we had our hearing checked and our ears cleaned. It was a relief to have them both done. Yesterday, we saw Nihit briefly only before leaving the clinic. He was a bum too. AND a bigger bum than me! - One thing today about which we can get excited. - We are rallying with Nihit. He knows that it is a Dr. Marvin session today, and he better shore up the game! We are both on our second session. I am feeling more positive, seeing Nihit's screen. The last session, he snuck off to do his games. Now his screen says session seven ... what is up with that? We are not sure if he is working ... see screens flipping. He is updating his screens, but he is not doing his actual work. Comment soon. We have 20 minutes left. - If I were to get excited about anything, it would mean we had a good session with Dr. Marvin. I do not know if we will get a superior session though unless we plan a little. We should review the last couple of notes. No, there is not enough time right now. We will set that up for Session 3. Right now, we want to get past the morning during this session. - How would we deal with a stressful situation that could trip us up today? - We can be sure to → - We can stop ourselves from being where we do not want to be. We can control the tasks and time if we so choose. Just decide. AND get the timer on a tab. We can do that now. Good ... 15 minutes left. Three more questions. Review for time. - If we were someone looking at our life from an elevated level, what would we tell ourselves? - An Eagle's eye view → - A grouchy deviant mode is just a few seconds from bumping off! Just push to the next event! - What else are we thinking of? (Morning Pages) - We went to the washroom just now, and then when we got back, we were a nag with Nihit, because during the first session, he snuck over to be playing games. Because of that, we are not feeling trustful of him. I would like to be collaborating with him, but he is a little slippery. Like "C'mon Nihit, you wouldn't lean on a little old woman, would you?" - Four more minutes left. I do not think Ginney has finished her breakfast ... she is chewing on old leathery scraps. She was sick during the night, and earlier when we were talking to Nihit.

- I think we are just passing by with this
session. We made goal. We took a brief stop to take away a plastic Slurpee lid from Ginney. I had forgotten about it. She got a few good chews from it. I suppose I could set up our next goal on the Sessions sheets. :) ### Connect-Consume-Cerebrate - Connect → Had a nice talk - With whom? About What? - This is going to be a nice talk with Dr. Marvin. First, we need to set an outline - review time spent away from Dr. Marvin - No messages left in journal - Amazing Marvin - nothing Thursday, nothing Friday - Saturday - - Obama/On Trump's affect – one - Comedy Sneed & Gaffigen - two - Rachel Maddow/fascism - one - Trump - - attacked by Fox one - attacks federal judge two - Trump's judge lets Bannon go three - Jeff Daniel's Trumpisms four - concealed documents to China and Iran five - No show for rally six - Voting/Intimidation one - Sunday - - Trump - - cracks w/FBI - Fox let us go of Lou Dobbs - Republican's making mass exodus from MAGA - Jamie Raskin - trauma, truth, and the tails of American democracy - Maggie Haberman - Politics, Trump, and the breaking of America

- Kenn Kington - Finding joy in chaos - Nancy
Pelosi - Trump not man enough to comply w/subpoena - Monday - - Ginney and hearing doctor appointments - Trump - - Ivanka in trouble for files recovered by FBI - Boebert and Green assault each other - Doctors (Psychiatry) give Trump unwelcome news - Tuesday - - Trump cracks with FBI Mar-a-Lago cooperation - What did we learn, and what did we contribute toward to the conversation? - Saturday's review - helps us set the mood for Saturday. I think that while Trump took the day, the comedians helped round off the night. There was a lot of viewing. Obama, Maddow, and Daniel's were all positive on protecting society from Trump like problems. I know the material viewed, though cannot recall it. And of the other Trumps, we saw voting intimidation, Fox's intimidation of Trump, Trump attacking a federal judge who ruled against him, another judge story where Trump's crony judge let Bannon go, that there is proof of him concealing documents with foreign countries, and that his rally crowds were dwindling to the point of canceling a show. - Sunday review - The trump new negatives are of him cracking under FBI, Fox letting go of a staple - Lou Dobbs, and MAGA people exiting the Trump show. Pelosi claimed Trump was not man enough to show up to an official subpoena, and Kington - found it time to say that you could find joy in chaos. Finally, both Raskin and Haberman were positive influencers in fighting against Trumpism's through truth and American democracy winning overall. - Monday's review - Not much Trump news because we were tired between the trips out for Ginney and then the hearing doctor. It was a good sign we were taking care of ourselves, but a bad sign in that we overate and became drowsy. Sped through a traffic light - the one on our corner. Fortunately, no one was there and hoping we do not get a ticket but deserve one. We were reading Raskin's book at the time. In Trump world the psych world gave a negative well-being check, his children mucked up with involvement, and his sycophants are jockeying for a better position, or bailing. Ginney looks beautiful but threw up during the night and this morning. She is not eating. She riles from her grooming appointment. She does look beautiful. - Tuesday's review - by 11:00 am There is only news that Trump is beginning to crack. We hope. - Consume → Run Protocol - What did we read/listen/watch this time?

- We watched the above over the last (primarily) 3
days. We talked it over with Dr. Marvin. The thoughts were that it is a fantastic way (and developing) to hold all the video watching we are doing with Trump, together so we can move the video process along as making sense instead of feeling overwhelmed with it being another Trump thing. - Comedy and well-thought idealism best frames the run of Trump problems that we are likely to hear from. We should also make a board where we are registering from which angle of Trump are we now driving interests toward. With Trump, it could be "toward which legal process he's in." - Dr. Marvin says that we might want to consider another book not so exciting as standing in the middle of a protest with Raskin and his son Tommy. - Cerebrate → My Brain is the best - What is our brain exaggerated on at this time? What triggered these thoughts? Feelings? Behaviors? - We were very leisurely with Nihit and got to see his family, AND we got to see Dr. Marvin. We did well in evaluating processes for all the videos we are watching. Likewise, we do not have the format for our Trump driven stuff, but tomorrow morning. We triggered by pulling together information for Dr. Marvin's session. We were happy to think of some way to condense our Trump junk. This way we will only see the new stuff worthwhile of keeping. - Can we put out an elevator Pitch? For ourselves? For others? - Just gotta keep going girl! Keep narrowing down the matter so it spits out proper! #2022-10-25 ## 2022-10-25 – Evidence 16A – Audiology Appointment Went Well ### Dr. Marvin’s Notes

Pt arrived on time. Recovering from URI. Reviewed medical updates
- audiology appt went well (had ear canal cleaned, has mild hearing loss, plans to wait, and monitor) and nephrology F/U (clinic visit note available, rec'd vit D dose that is different from what she is taking, has to F/U). Also having more interpersonal difficulties with partner. He is having more back pain in addition to general stressors. He has been more cranky, less cooperative, taking out feelings out on her. Feels that there should be limits but is uncertain about how to make progress. Reviewed several interactions. Validated affect and explored options for limits/boundaries. Second half of the session spent reviewing updates to schedule and online interactions from the weekend. Reviewed process and goals for accountability journal. Made connection between levels of responsibility between self and others - balance of helping/supporting and taking responsibility for self/others. Ended session with review of video summary from the weekend and pattern of picking news videos. Global Improvement (CGI-C): Minimally worse Assessment (Depression): - Moods mostly stable this interval. - Increased interpersonal challenges with partner. Able to process/reframe in session. - Several ongoing medical follow-ups remain in process. - Working to maintain progress with writing projects and balance with other activities. - Able to contract for safety. Assessment (DID): - Interpersonal triggers with partner. Able to reflect on pattern. Feeling stronger about setting compassionate limits. - Spending more time with news videos leading up to election. - Continues to work to balance time online with reading/household tasks. - Review of home videos in background. Goal remains to process smaller pieces of the video as time allows. - Returning to larger writing project (trauma narrative) - goals/product/audience. Current online writing workshops assisting with structure to writing.

#2022-10-27 ## 2022-10-27 – Evidence 17A – Distracted Working on
an Update ### Dr. Marvin’s Notes Pt was not on video at time of session. Writer called pt who had gotten distracted working on a meeting update. Moved to video. Pt had an early morning meeting for co-working platform. Reviewed details of interactions. Several members had frustrations with process, connected to scope of project vs. resources to work on components. Reviewed meeting notes and process. Discussed potential next steps for the group. Pt felt empowered with being part of the process. Reviewed medical updates - OK with current Vit D supplement, had chest pain yesterday, rec'd NTG refill, Ritalin RX not filled, called pharmacy in session to confirm (they do not have in stock), new RX sent to Walgreens, sent pictures to podiatrist (waiting for response), and pain MD appt. Reviewed more details about assessment and recommendations. MD appeared frustrated with patient's lack of follow-up. Next step is consultation with surgeon. Partner continues to be more irritable related to his own medical issues, but they have been working better together. Ended session with update with online tracking over the last several days. Online friend will be travelling, so will have less contact. Reflected on previous discussion of balance with self-confidence, independence vs. dependence. Global Improvement (CGI-C): No change Assessment - Depression: - Moods mostly stable this interval. Some lower moods connected to interpersonal interactions. Able to process/reframe in session. - Several ongoing medical follow-ups remain in process. Back pain is an ongoing issue. Actively following up. - Working to maintain progress with writing projects and balance with other activities. - Able to contract for safety.

Assessment - DID: - Some triggering with interpersonal interactions. -
Spending more time with news videos leading up to election. - Continues to work to balance time online with reading/household tasks. - Review of home videos in background. Goal remains to process smaller pieces of the video as time allows. - Returning to larger writing project (trauma narrative) - goals/product/audience. Current online writing workshops assisting with structure to writing. Notes to Conrad from Joshwin, Nihit, and Anne https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BAJGPfycPWlTsa_xZl1vtLQysbXa14CNecYfEL8c_mQ/edit #2022-10-28 ## 2022-10-28 – Evidence 17B – Let Me Know Note Let me know when you get back IF you do not drop immediately into bed

#2022-10-30 ## 2022-10-30 – Evidence 17C – Rich Was With
Me When We Woke Up ### A Very Good Morning - How was sleep last night? - It is too far from sleep to remember it well. I know that Rich was with me when we woke up. But he was still sleeping. It was about 5:15AM, so we decided to get up. We went to the computer and watched about 3.5 hours of videos. Nihit finally signed on, and slowly things began to take order. In the end (11:30AM), we watched Nihit cry and cry when his work extended. Instead of giving a class about now, postponed until the next day. He surely did not like that, and it was only when he ordered ice cream. Rich was doing work after we both (most of it) watched Rich's Sunday morning show, and on and off again talked to Nihit. Rich started working, so we did too. We started the Sessions with Nihit. - How have we been (the previous day)? - We watched 7 hours of videos, which was down fourteen from the day before (Friday). Rich let me watch a lot of comedy last night. We might have fell asleep before he did, but he had before me. We both ended up at 9:30PM watching an extra hour of TV. I had to massage his arm a while before we finally fell asleep. As to much else? We helped Rich with a few cleaning type activities ... Oh yes, I remember ... we did his filing. Yay! It seems to have been two months since the last time. - One thing today about which we can get excited.

- Today we need to take care of 2 1/2
loads of laundry after Rich finishes doing his collars. I do not know why he is not watching TV while doing them. Out of courtesy of Nihit and us talking back and forth. We put away a few things and washed the table tops in the office and living room. This is not much to get excited about. - We should be excited with the fact that it is the first time in six days we were able to pull ourselves away from the video to get a few things done AND write! Woo-Hoo. It took a while, but here we are. We are not sure where we are going with our writing, but if nowhere else (other than videos watched), we can write about being down - in and out with catching Nihit. - We've been thinking things through this week too - had one day with Joshwin and Nihit, but we skipped the Sunday Council meeting, and we are thinking seriously about pulling away from Co-x3 for a while. Furthermore, we are amazingly comfortable meeting Nihit in private. The few people we were including in our time at Gather have not been there too much. We will ask Nihit about getting Vitty to meeting us in the private space. His Aunt and Uncle/cousins are now in the US. - How would we deal with a stressful situation that could trip us up today? - We can be sure to → - One stressful situation would be if we had trouble keeping up with work after Nihit went to bed. It is 10:30PM, his time, and he has already made his bed. He ordered mango ice cream, so I know he will be up a little more, but after that we must keep up with our sessions after he is gone. This week, we have been going straight to napping or watching videos. Rich is here ... and it would be encouraging if we could help him out. I do not know how he deals with me. And we are begging for a pat on the back when we do the slightest of things. - The feelings of Nihit being gone has been leading to us feeling lost and uncoordinated. I thought we were over it, but not quite. We should be working on this, this next week. - If we were someone looking at our life from a prominent level, what would we tell ourselves? - An Eagle's eye view → - We could do more for ourselves, we just must try harder. I know, pull yourselves up by your bootstraps. We should be looking for other things keeping ourselves away from real work. - What else are we thinking of? (Morning Pages) - The morning went well after Nihit got here. We can appreciate him, and the set-up with Sessions we collaborated with him to put together, but if we are not doing it while he is gone, then something is going wrong. - We should be thinking about how to oversee the possibility of pulling away from the group. We are going to continue doing Guilded but stay away from other contact. We did talk though with Nihit and Joshwin, and it suggested that we hang around Guilded Great Hall. I am not sure if I want to go that far. I do not want people strangled by no contact ... Nihit will pick that up ... BUT we do not want to put pressure on him like that too.

- It is time for Conrad to pay attention to
Guilded. I am not sure where that sits. If I thought it through, I believe we would advocate that some of the channels come down in Guilded. Again Joshwin, Nihit and us all agreed in part that we let meeting with others in Gather go, because it is just one step further from losing people. - We did not get any message from Conrad, Joshwin, Ben and Ashley, or anyone else. We can slip out of the meetings without anyone being overly concerned. Ok, do not feel sorry for yourselves. I do know as far as what we have gotten out of the meetings is that we are not doing very much to promote a good working model of productivity. The other part was that we tend to ask more questions of others. Conrad had backed off to facilitating the group. I do have to think through that the last time we were in the Sunday meeting a couple of weeks ago, Conrad pushed us to lead. We did not like that at all. It was not that we could not do it, but we thought of Conrad's new goals to project his duties to others. I did not like called to do it like that. - One word/phrase that could describe the kind of person we want to be today? - One phrase to rule them all → - Don't complain, just get the work done. Who do you want to be? What about being a writer?! - Note To Next Day Self - Write a note to our "next day self!" As if encouraging Anne, what would this note say? - Ok, one day went well, How about today too! - What is a warm salutation for tomorrow's Anne? - You've got a life ... let us share it out! What about Anne's Notes - STAR? - How could we describe our today's self in a word or phrase? - You've got this ... work it! ### Day-to-Day Goals - Do we have any riveting goals today? Should we have? - That we continue using Sessions and our writing skills to progress our day and thoughts. You can do this with OR without Nihit. - Are all today's food choices in My Fitness Pal (MFP)? How can we get through any slumps? - Nihit wants to continue doing this with us, and he is including his aunt in dieting goals as well ... Let us start now ... five minutes until the next break ... let us write in our numbers for today. K? Good, good ... day one started. Let us remind Nihit that he should start his MyFitnessPal tomorrow if he has not already. - What exercising could I commit to today? How much? - Evaluate out if we can move the pedals with the special book on for problem toe - assure no pressure on the toe

- What can you tell us about the showering experience
today? - Ok, This would be like two days in a row? We can get it done after the washing machine has stopped. Thinking late afternoon. Why do not we make it a goal by 3:00PM - What could we do today, so that someone else can say, "Boldly Go! Howard Wolowitz" - Win the day task → - Stay on the timer, even though it is a weekend day - Make Rich proud! - ### Balance - How is our perspective of time going? Are we still on track? - Time is going well, in that we are off videos, and I am writing - We've just started the physical tasks - we want to fold the next load of clothes without Rich getting up ... he is tired after all his work this morning - What has been going well? - Good support by Nihit and not dragging down the team - Today, we have added balance by ... - Getting back to Amazing Marvin and our journal - What could have been better? - If we had started something more cerebral ### Connect-Consume-Cerebrate - Connect → Had a nice talk - With whom? About What? - We had a nice talk with both Nihit and Rich - With Rich we took breaks to be with him on his breaks, while he was watching TV. Now he has on spooky Halloween music. Most of our talks are still more housework orientated ... I will do this, you do that - We had a nice talk with Nihit throughout the day

#2022-10-31 ## 2022-10-31 – Evidence 17D – Sweetie Time For
Breakfast ### A Very Good Morning How was sleep last night? - Sleep last night was fair. I think we only woke-up once. We do remember that we were dreaming, but as soon as we heard Rich say, "Sweetie, it is time for breakfast..." We woke up and forgot our dream all together. We spent a few moments with Rich, but he was eager to get his payroll done. We got on the computer before remembering to take our medicine. Nihit was already on board. We talked for a few moments - eating primarily. He had had food not great for his tummy, and we had gotten into the Halloween candy - Happy Halloween by the way! Soon after, we would have to report to Rich in Nihit's presence that we had already gotten into the candy, we both got involved in our Session projects. Ours includes starting to write here, and Nihit's is playing footsy as a plumber for a "beauty's kitchen." Hmpf! - How have we been (the previous day)? - Yesterday included 11-12 hours on videos during our time and time with Rich. We did good in that we did 2 1/2 loads of laundry. We put on the schedule that we must do two loads again today. That should catch it up, except that we want to also throw in the living room blankets. We also want today to add to the schedule that we need to take another shower. We did on Saturday, but not Sunday. - Yesterday we had some good working sessions with Nihit, and we arranged that today we would continue as we are right now. We are on the second session, and it is about 9AM -> 7:30PM Nihit's time ... It is very enjoyable watching him attached meaning to his images from cartoon scenes. I feel like the old times over a year ago when he was working hard at his sessions. WooHOO! - One thing today about which we can get excited. - We are starting off the day well in that one ... Nihit is around, and then second that we are working on our Sessions. We can gain an advantage over that today by continuing to work on sessions after Nihit goes to bed. We have that to do that might excite us, and we have a clean house ... just must keep that in order

- Today is Halloween. That is part of us taking
a shower today. We get to wear our Halloween leggings. WooHOO! That will help put us in the Halloween spirit. We might also want to put on some spooky Halloween music ... aha! It is working! Hehe 9:11AM and we are listening to Halloween ... go figure for exciting! Could be an all-day affair ... or, we could just put on Trump videos. - How would we deal with a stressful situation that could trip us up today? - We can be sure to → - A situation that could trip us up is having Halloween candy without anyone to stop us. Especially, after Nihit goes to bed. There seems to be a lot of candy, in that who would notice. This could trip us up. What are we going to do to pause this kind of problem? - We did not make much of a commitment to Rich. I do not think we will make one to Nihit either, because we do not think that would work. We could play the numbers. Right now, we are at 252. Why do not we go that we cannot have another until we are under 130. That might work ... we could play with something better than our own moral responsibilities. It would be a working goal. - If we were someone looking at our life from an important level, what would we tell ourselves? - An Eagle's eye view → - You've been good before ... no reason we cannot be good today. It is a Monday so we could inherit Nihit's values of Monday's being a good day. - We can appreciate that without as many distractions, plus positive support of working together, he already is doing better. I like that we are watching him work on his studies. It makes us feel accomplished to be having such an accomplishing family member. - What else are we thinking of? (Morning Pages) - We are thinking that Halloween music is fun but unsure how long it will last ... we usually have quiet time during the day, but it is getting us in a bubbly mood. - We should already be thinking of making it through the end of our journaling. Basically, how are we going to complete through Notemaking, and as well our section on complementing Nihit and us working together. - There is no reason to think we are going to have anything other than an exceptional day! We are feeling upbeat. One thing about this is that we started with Nihit first thing ... so him getting to bed at a decent time and waking up at the beginning of his day seems to be trickling down and working for us. - Nihit was also happy it seemed in having gotten to talking to Vitty and Aanya. We had to laugh in that his aunt threw him under the bus with her employees because Nihit was crying and whining ... He says it was an act ... but WE are thinking that he WAS whiny! Giggling. One way or another ... it was a good deal that he got to talk to his family in the USA! What a freakishly cool thing! It is cool that the kids got to be in the US for Halloween. I hope they can get something out of it. :) - One word/phrase that could describe the kind of person we want to be today?

- One phrase to rule them all → - Let
us have this day a day we can remember because Halloween is a fun day! - Note To Next Day Self - Write a note to our "next day self!" As if encouraging Anne, what would this note say? - Ok, one day went well, How about today too! - What is a warm salutation for tomorrow's Anne? - You've got a life ... let us share it out! What about Anne's Notes - STAR? - How could we describe our today's self in a word or phrase? - You've got this ... work it! ### Day-to-Day Goals - Do we have any riveting goals today? Should we have? - We want today to be a day of getting things done - #1 We need to keep up with Sessions after Nihit goes to bed. - #2 We want to have some accomplishments done before Rich comes home by about 5-6PM. - Two loads of laundry washed and put away - Only 1-2 hours of Videos before 4PM - Look around the household to see if there are anything incomplete - Prepare for things being good enough that we feel inspired to clean-up the sewing room tomorrow - Are all today's food choices in My Fitness Pal (MFP)? How can we get through any slumps? - So far, they are in ... we know that Snicker bars - bite size ... are forty calories each and Twix are thirty calories each. This should help good planning AND we must be under 130 to have one! - Plan out our breaks and snacks. Such as grapes around 10:00AM and popcorn at 2:30PM. Lunch nuts - AND one bun. - What exercising could I commit to today? How much? - Put on our doctors open-toe slippers and try bringing it around the cycling bike to see if it is doable. If not, plan on when to exchange that for regular slippers to get in at least 5-10 minutes of cycling - Get on the scale next time we are in the bathroom, EVEN if we have eaten two candy bars and eggs. - What can you tell us about the showering experience today?

- We are planning to do it ... Let us
do it by ... hmm, do not remember if we have blocked a time. Hmm, it is funny, but Nihit has moved from Bakery to an infant on the purple planet. - Next to next session - What could we do today, so that someone else can say, "Boldly Go! Howard Wolowitz" - Learn how much Nihit must go through to learn his studies. I cannot even pronounce his words let alone understand what it is ... what it means. It is funny he can learn hard concepts/words by comic book pictures. - Boldly Go? Pay attention! - ### Balance - How is our perspective of time going? Are we still on track? - So far, so good, we are on the balance part, and we still have 15 minutes left - What has been going well - We are still writing and feeling incredibly positive. I cannot say that with all the time Dr. Marvin has been gone, but we continued. Our feelings now are noticeably better - Today, we have added balance by ... - Getting onto our writing first thing ... It would be great if we could get through the next section by break time, and then focus on the writer/note-taking parts after lunch. Thing is that we would be getting to it in proficient writing time - I think we must figure that we are a writer, so if we continue to write after 10:00AM, we are still good. Perhaps if we were doing good, we could mix domestic things by working on Milo stuff this afternoon - block 3. - What could have been better? - Hehe - watching another session with Nihit ... first with the purple planet, and now we are on the jousting tournament. I do not think we will finish this entire one, but it will be a good start. We stopped listening to Halloween music, because we are getting much more out of listening to Nihit's video ### Connect-Consume-Cerebrate - Connect → Had a nice talk - With whom? About What? - We had a very nice talk with Nihit today ... most of it is a general conversation on both of us working through our day, but today we have gotten ourselves in the path of listening to his study videos where the place a picture (comic) that they fill in with things related to that picture that remind the student to study certain words noting an understanding of the material.

- The best reason - well beside the part that
it is very inviting to listen to (take out unpleasant words), but I feel like my being interested helps Nihit be interested. This is the BEST interest. But in general, it is like listening to a foreign language with our easier familiar words helping us to understand the story built. - What did we learn, and what did we contribute toward to the conversation? - We learned about the kinds of things that Nihit is learning. We are sooooo proud of what he is learning. It opens all kinds of doors. Later we can volunteer ourselves someone who could quiz him - THOUGH he has the cards that flip back and forth for that. - I must admit this is fun stuff! NOT that I could learn it, but we like the storyline of what in the difficult word represented by the images. I like also that we have steady work sessions. This is the normal time I would work, in the morning, and for Nihit, his evening is the time he would study. It must be the symbol of support, and by that because of his game like study, I will remember support by a ladder with both sides having steps, but the ladder supports the work higher than itself! - Ok, now we are being nutty. We are going to get in the shower. One more thing though - we want to remember that part of what we are doing at least this initial round of playing the study game, is that it is going to give us something to write about ... so remember this as we go below and want ideas! Good girl! - Ok, do not think about it ... just jump in the shower. Go! - Consume → Run Protocol - What did we read/listen/watch this time? - We took a two-hour break watching videos. It was like we had not seen any and were desperate to find them. And, we could not find short ones, so instead we watched two long ones all the way through. What we were not doing was being at our computer, getting back to work. In the end as we started, we noted - NO candy, AND that we must write even after Nihit leaves. - We also learned that Nihit was not on top of his game while we were gone. He took a call from his Mom and Aunt ... I would gauge them from mid- to mid-terrible. BLAH! Now I can hear he is tired, so we will hope he cheers up and falls gently to sleep next. - As to the above news, I do not think anything new is really happening except to hear from the Republican fallout of Nancy's husband. The right is putting out there that he was in a tryst with the hammer guy, and it was after the bar closed (it might have been), and that it was sex gone bad. I wanted to kill someone ... ok, we are still back to being as close to someone's death is that poor fly who died on our bathroom floor from which I did not have the heart to move. BUT if I WERE that kind of person ... well, no we cannot imagine it ... BUT we certainly wish those people a serious dose of reality! - Cerebrate → My Brain is the best - What is our brain publicized up on at this time? What triggered these thoughts? Feelings? Behaviors? - Our thoughts have been over the processes Nihit and us are ironing out in getting serious work done, and high off the thoughts that things could conclude done. I still look forward in the recesses of my mind

to have him come live with us. He says that
he might go to a smaller school than like UIC. Not sure if it is a matter of qualification, or taste. Hey! We have little hospitals out THIS way! - Can we put out an elevator Pitch? For ourselves? For others? - Got a guest bed and ready to gift out! ### Seriously, as a writer... - What kinds of ideas have come to mind today? Relevancy to a better life? - The best kind of idea is to set a framework, and then share it with family - the close kind! Relevancy to a better life? Think how proud I would be if we learned to write daily again! - Hmm, we could think of laundry again too, but maybe we will wait a day or two. There was some excitement in getting clothes done over the weekend so we would not have to do hard physical work on Monday. - We should be thinking of exercise as so much time done in the house - including the one hour for each load of laundry. We will talk about it to Nihit later. A game inside a game. - As to the idea of politics coming to mind today? I was worrying over Joe. I cannot understand why he is a Republican ... I can put out a message to him to call over the next three days if he gets a few moments. It is not like we WANT to talk him out as the ONLY reason we would call. Just it is getting close to voting. What happens if my only purpose were to convert one republican? The other two boys are fine. Hmm, that is an idea toward a better life ... plug in the phone. We thought it was charging, but our close charger was not working again :( - What are writing cues which include writing/reading about Multiplicity, trauma, and being a better human being? - Thinking ... could I tie politics to Multiplicity and trauma? Not directly. Closer would be living in a democracy. It would not be a democratic household growing up through abuse. There was a shortage of rights. The republican party is the party of Trump, and there is not anything positive about living under one person's narcissisms. My mother was a narcissist. Everything done to her credit. She wanted people to see her for things like she was not. Like she was not kind and responsible. What if the girl scout troop knew she broke her foot kicking me. She had wanted me to do something, but I had not heard her due to the TV. It was like, "Does this get your attention?" I bruised, but her toe broke. It has had my attention for the last 45 years. - Multiplicity? Could think of being seven and having to bring clothes over to the laundromat - one block away ... yes, my brother helped me move it, but then he would go home and there we were folding clothes after school. It reminds me of a series of poems written on just being of service to our family. I first served my grandfather (skip that I was supposed to bond to my mother). In the end, they would say ... my grandfather had a certain way with her (me/us). Yes, fuck them too. - Perhaps, we could land on with someone outside the house, we could play ... yes here comes Nihit! I enjoyed the years we used to quilt for fun. But those guys are gone ... friends and family with someone promoting us as a writer!?? Yes!

- We are affecting Multiplicity by ... - We are
affecting Multiplicity by making choices. With Nihit - the most fun change is that we can choose seriously what we are doing with our time. AND balanced accounting for other things. We better check the dishes. We decided laundry put off another day. So, then the next way we are affecting Multiplicity is to make the choice to seriously pay attention to holding on and supporting our democracy. I feel good that voting is eight days away, and we have voted. Who else could we remind. A Mom Multiple things would be to call all three sons - Thom should call today but call and make sure they all vote. The last choice would be not to get bogged down in the old stories we remember. It is much more fun making new stories with Nihit. Being of service to ourselves AND chosen others is the absolute best!

Chapters 15-16-17 Video Views, More Medical, Le...

Chapters 15-16-17 Video Views, More Medical, Leading to Distracted Work

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#2022-10-20 ## 2022-10-20 – Evidence 15A – Nihit Making Recommendations

Assessment - DID: - Acutely triggered last week with thoughts/feelings

so that he knew they could do it. They are

- I think we are just passing by with this

- Kenn Kington - Finding joy in chaos - Nancy

- We watched the above over the last (primarily) 3

Pt arrived on time. Recovering from URI. Reviewed medical updates

#2022-10-27 ## 2022-10-27 – Evidence 17A – Distracted Working on

Assessment - DID: - Some triggering with interpersonal interactions. -

#2022-10-30 ## 2022-10-30 – Evidence 17C – Rich Was With

- Today we need to take care of 2 1/2

- It is time for Conrad to pay attention to

- What can you tell us about the showering experience

#2022-10-31 ## 2022-10-31 – Evidence 17D – Sweetie Time For

- Today is Halloween. That is part of us taking

- One phrase to rule them all → - Let

- We are planning to do it ... Let us

- The best reason - well beside the part that

to have him come live with us. He says that

- We are affecting Multiplicity by ... - We are