4-1 The 3 Step Process - Part 1

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1. Module 4 - Part 1: 3 step process Wed, 4/27 9:30AM 4:52 SUMMARY KEYWORDS calendar, appointment, check, talk, module, reminder, write, putting, heartache, prepare, abbreviations, minute, soccer practice, information, process, save, address, digital, step, dentist office SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there successful mama Welcome back to how to keep a calendar for ADHD moms. We are on module four today. We have gone through all these so far. And here we are in the three step process. Alright, so turn off any distractions, but phone on vibrate. And let's jump in. Oh, come on, there we go. Oh, my talking heads blocking it. Alright. Patricia Sung 00:27 So we want to remember our golden rules, we talked about them in Module, I hope it was to where we want to keep it simple. Follow the three step process every time that you remember to do it. And then when you get off track, you hop back in, don't gotta beat ourselves up, we just jump back in and keep on going. Patricia Sung 00:50 Alright, so step one, this is the reset process and how we're going to actually put things on our calendar. Write everything down, literally ever we thing down. When you're making the appointment, I do want to start to think about, hmm, is this a good idea? And time for me to do this? As you get a feel for your calendar, but you'll know like, these are good times for me to book appointments, and then we'll talk about that in an upcoming module. Patricia Sung 01:19 But you kind of have that check in your head of like, double check yourself, is this a good time to be scheduling this appointment? That saved me so many times when I realize like, Oh, that is in the middle of school drop off? I don't know why I didn't think about that. Sometimes our brains just don't think those things. So when we write everything down, we went to look at those questionnaires from back when you're in elementary school that who, what, when, where, why.
2. Patricia Sung 01:42 So in your entry on your planner, you are going to write everything you need in that space. So Who Who are you meeting with? What's the event? Or like, what's the actual thing that is happening? A clear description, no shorter no abbreviations, because we all know that sometimes we don't know what we meant when we go back and read it later. So clear information of what we're supposed to be doing then. Patricia Sung 02:08 And we need a date and a time, especially in the days of zoom, make sure you've got your timezone written down. And including your time milestones, I forgot that part. Putting in the end time of when that thing ends, whether it's a 30 minute thing or an hour thing. Or if you think you might be the doctor for three hours putting that in there to block out that time for yourself. You're aware, including your, your address, or the link. If it's anywhere that you haven't been for like say you're going to like a new doctor's appointment, putting that address in there will save you so much heartache. I don't know about you how many times I've been ready to go somewhere like I don't even know where I'm going. Let me go find that. Of course, I'm already late. So if you have it all in one spot, it will save you a lot of heartache. Patricia Sung 02:48 I also want you to think about the how how do you need to get ready? Do you need to bring something do you have to prepare something? Do you need to have something ready? Put all that in that space as well. So that you when you look at your day, when you're doing your check in, you're like oh, right, I'm supposed to bring snacks to that soccer practice, or I'm supposed to bring, you know this information for that meeting. We also at this time want to send out reminders. We'll talk about setting up our defaults if you're doing a digital calendar. Patricia Sung 03:18 But for me, I generally like to do a 10 minute reminder, if it's an online thing that gives me a chance to like, get myself together, go to the bathroom, get my computer set up logged in 30 minutes if it's somewhere that I have to. Or if it's like an online thing that I need to have it like prepared I need time to like sit and think about what am I going to say and all that I try to give myself a 30 minute warning. And anytime that it's an in person event, I like to give myself a reminder, that's enough time for me to prepare to walk out the door actually exit and drive there, which ends up being you know, more at like, the like one hour mark, you know, depending on where you live, then I go through and check and make sure that I filled all those things in the who what when we're in. Terminal, yes, there's not a why so who, what, when, where, how, and save it if it's in a digital calendar, and then some kind of confirmation. Patricia Sung 04:18 If you're making an appointment, have that person you know, text you the details or send you
3. If you're making an appointment, have that person you know, text you the details or send you an email reminder or get the little card from the dentist office or repeat it back to them. So you make sure that what you have written down is in fact what the true information is because I can't tell you how many times I've thought it was 930 and it was 945 or whatever. Well usually bad words. And that's what we need you to check for any errors and then also take a look at your calendar and check for conflicts and make sure this has something else already scheduled for that time. Okay, we'll continue with part two in just a second.