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1. 5-8 Daily Routine Tasks Brainstorm Example - Module 5 TMM Mon, 3/21 9:27PM 12:39 SUMMARY KEYWORDS brainstorm, bedtime, work, anchor, naps, daily routines, copy, put, routine, day, reminder, check, daily, minutes, feel, therapies, cleaning, eating, dinner, modify SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there successful mama, we're in module five, not to give you this example and brainstorm to get you started. Because your daily routines won't look exactly like mine or any other moms that are taking this class. Patricia Sung 00:12 But there are some basic things that we all do. And this is a really good starting point for you. So you don't feel so overwhelmed of like, Oh, my goodness, all the things that I have to think up. So I'm going to give you this link to this Google Drive. Now, I put in big letters here, which I know some of us will still miss, and it's fine, we'll deal. Patricia Sung 00:31 But when you open this Google Doc up, you want to make sure that you go to file and make a copy and save it to your own drive. So file, make a copy. And then that way, you'll be able to save it to your Google Drive. Or, if you want, you can just go through and like highlight all the stuff here and copy and paste it into like a word, Doc, whatever you want to do is fine. But just know that this document has, like everyone in the class has access to it. So if you start fiddling around with it, then I'm going to have to go in and redo it. So you know, hey, oh, if you do, just undo, undo, undo, well, I mean, first copy it. So you have it, and then go back and undo whatever you did. So that way, it will be back where it was or tell me and I will go in there and fix it inside as to be expected when we have ADHD wallet, okay. Patricia Sung 01:20 So after you've put this into your own document, so that you can start working with it, I just did a really quick brainstorm of the parts of our day that happen every single day. This is daily
2. a really quick brainstorm of the parts of our day that happen every single day. This is daily responsibilities. Remember, right now, we're not talking about things we do frequently in the week or in the month, we're just looking at what you do literally every single day. So where do we start meals, things like, I have three of them here, one for breakfast, one for lunch, one for dinner of clearing off the table, because chances are our table is full of stuff, making breakfast, eating breakfast, clearing the table back off, washing the dishes and putting those dishes away. That happens at every meal. Patricia Sung 02:04 Now, I know you're thinking it doesn't have it at every meal at my house. I know, I'm not saying you have to put your clean dishes away every meal. But we want to be aware that like those dishes have to be addressed. At some point, it may be that you deal with all the dishes at one time in the day. That's fine. You might be somebody who's like, you know what, I'd rather put away five dishes, here, here, here and here, then have to do 40 dishes at once. So it's up to you, whatever works better for you. But just like reminder, the dishes have to be dealt with at some point. Okay. Or you buy paper plates and and that works too. Patricia Sung 02:41 But either way, moving on. One thing that's helped me a lot is having my so like it doesn't even point my day where I check and make sure like, Okay, I know what's happening for dinner. I know what supplies I need. Do I have the groceries? Are they ready? Like is that meat frosted? Do I have all the supplies so I do that every morning is check in and make sure that my whatever I had planned for dinner is actually like feasible. Most days, there are still days where it's like, oh, well this chicken still frozen guests are not eating this for dinner. But that happens far less often than it used to. Some of us may need to schedule in bathroom breaks. Like if you're working from home and you get really into something you need to have that in your day because you will ignore that part of your body because it is not loud enough. Patricia Sung 03:28 I'm picking up toys off the floor. And that's a really great thing to have implemented in your day when you have littles is have a designated time to put all that stuff into a bin so that it doesn't like build up, you know, the full like layer of toys on your carpet, and quality time with your kids. I put this in here because as a working mom, like I work at home, it is hard for my kids to see me nearby and not be able to hang out with me and not be able to be with me. So I have designated times in my day where I'm connecting with them. So for me that looks like i if they're here for a meal, I eat my meal with them that makes also makes me stop and eat because I tend to not like I'll ignore that that is a body cue I ignore frequently. So stopping eating with them. Patricia Sung 04:22 And also I I wish I remember the Instagram account that I learned this from if I remember I will put it in the notes so that I give them credit. If you can give them 10 minutes of one on one time where it's quality time and they're choosing the activity that will tie them over for like a
3. time where it's quality time and they're choosing the activity that will tie them over for like a pretty good amount of time. So I try to do at least a 10 minute check in with my kids on what they want to do every day especially on those days that I'm working and we're not together as much. That's a really good connection point. Patricia Sung 04:56 So like my preschooler, sometimes that looks like before Before preschool, so after my oldest one is already at school, but that quality time with my preschooler where we can do something together. Sometimes that's after preschool. I mean, it can fit various points in your day, but having that 10 minutes so then deciding what they want to do with you, like if they want to read a book, or they want to play a game, or they want to do free play, which PS I can't stand I hate free play. It's hard for my brain, but I can do it for 10 minutes, right, I can set a timer and be like, I will do this for 10 minutes and I will I will make it through. And that is a really good like daily routine that's helped me a lot. Patricia Sung 05:34 And now depending on where you're in life, if you have a baby, you've got like feeding and diapers and naps, you got all that routine coming in personal care. So this you know you'll have personal care in the morning and in the afternoon. Washing face brushing teeth, shower, dress meds, if you're a makeup person, you're doing your hair all that stuff. Kids bedtime, bedtime PJ's, like I'm not gonna read all this to you. But you know, getting through that routine with them. Your bedtime? And then I have this group here are things that are taking care of you. Patricia Sung 06:05 Are you doing quiet time or meditation or exercise? Are you actually considering rest? Like, do you have space in your day for like, quiet? And not necessarily like necessary? Do not just like sitting there doing nothing? But like, what is restful for you? Where do you feel re energized? What are you doing, that's taking care of you again, even if that's 10 minutes. Good thing to have in your day. Patricia Sung 06:32 Making sure that we have considered oops, fun and hobbies and you know, not just work, work, work, work, work. If you have school aged kids thinking about homework help and checking their homework, signing paperwork for school permission slips, all that stuff, prepping for tomorrow. So things like packing lunches, getting your backpacks ready, I do as much that stuff as I can the night before, so that it's ready in the morning because I'm not a morning person. And that it's included for you like if you go to work your work bag, your clothes for the day, like that kind of thing. daily cleaning Patricia Sung 07:07 Now, depending on what season you're in, and how many humans and dogs and cats are present in your life, some daily cleaning for you might be when we talk about weekly and
4. present in your life, some daily cleaning for you might be when we talk about weekly and monthly stuff. And but if you have a lot of humans and pets, you may have more daily pickup that needs to happen. So are there any things that you know, really, you would like to do every day like not to say that this actually happens every day for me, but to know that I have a space in my day makes it easier? Because when I have like these big things like for me laundry, I hate laundry. But if I have a time where that is built in every day, even if I look at it, and I'm like, You know what laundry looks right. I don't really have to do that today. I can let that go till tomorrow. Patricia Sung 08:01 The fact that that was in my routine of like I checked it, it's okay, cool. Moving along. Great. I'm wiping down the counters. Like I don't want my counters down every day. But I know in like in my routine. I check that and be like, Ooh, well this is looking a little gunky. Make sure I do that today. Whereas somebody who's like, looks fine, keep going. So those the daily cleaning and weekly cleaning for you. Some things will be more weekly. Some things will be more daily depends on where you are in your stage of life and all the people you're caring for. Patricia Sung 08:32 Then I have some brainstorm places here for what's unique to you. Are you working? Do you have homeschool, hobbies, healthcare, things that you're supposed to be taking care of for you or somebody else that you're caring for any special needs in your family therapies that you're going to doctor's appointments, anything that's specific to you that needs to happen every day, putting those things into your day. Patricia Sung 08:54 Now, when you feel like you have brainstormed all the things you probably didn't, there's still things you're going to think of it's fine. We're going to add to this as we go. We start to sort them by anchor. So in anchor one I would go in and like for you obviously we're all saying you know waking up is our anchor one, what are the things that are going to happen in anchor one and then you can go through your list here and start copying, pasting and sticking them in to this section here. Okay, and then bedtime is all the same for us. So we go up here to bedtime. I have that somewhere. Okay, parent bedtime. Patricia Sung 09:28 Copy and Paste go take it down and plop it here into anchor six which is bedtime for mom and put all those things that are going to happen in your bed times anchor once you have sorted all these things, and you'll have an idea of what's going to fit where and this is not again not set in stone. You might say like oh well okay, my anchor to his breakfast and you know what I put all of this stuff for breakfast on Anchor too, but we're trying to leave for school and that's not realistic so far. It's literally going to be a breakfast, leave the mess, I'll come back to it a lunchtime or at dinnertime, that's okay.
5. Patricia Sung 10:07 But I want you to know that like, all of these things exist, and then you're going to put the puzzle pieces together into where they make sense for you. And then we're going to continue to modify as we go, the things that you're like the plan you're setting right now isn't what it's going to look like, once you've actually put it into action. Because when you put into action, you're going to start seeing like, oh, well, I put cleaning up all this lunch stuff, and then naptime. And that was too much of a, like, we waited too long for naps, my kids are losing their minds. So I'm going to move naps earlier. And then once they're down and napping, then I can circle back and hit whatever things I wanted to do, because that like putting the kids down for a nap was part of that anchor time. So I'm just rearranging in the anchor. Patricia Sung 10:52 So know that whatever you're playing together now is our starting point. It's not our forever point, we will make changes as we go, we'll figure out what works, what doesn't. And then this will come together for you in time. And then I have for a long time, I had this list out and I refer to it every day. At this point, most of my routines are automatic, there's very few things that I don't just do, like I have, I am now on autopilot with most of my daily routines. And where I need the reminders is when I'm trying to modify them, like I have some new therapies and to be doing for my, my health issues. And it's like, how do I fit that into the existing plan? Where is that going to match up, and then having the actual reminder to do it. That's like a whole nother thing, which is not on this topic of this lesson here. Patricia Sung 11:45 But, um, know that this document that you're creating is your plan until you feel comfortable with it. And once you've got it down, you're not going to be living your life by a sheet of paper, it might feel that way at first. Because yeah, we need a lot of reminders, right. But then as you get to autopilot, you'll have most of this ingrained in you and really it's just a matter of like checking in once around being like, okay, am I doing the things that I wanted to do? What do I need to modify? How can I change things to make them fit life as it has changed and move forward? Yeah, so you have this document to utilize, go ahead and make a copy for yourself. Whether that is here in Google Drive or on a different program on your computer and start brainstorming all the things that you do and arranging them in the order that would make sense for you and your day in your family. Patricia Sung 12:36 Talk to you soon.