TMM_Module_5-1

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1. 5-1 Introduction to Module 5 Mon, 3/21 9:10PM 9:03 SUMMARY KEYWORDS module, anchors, repeatable, rhythm, work, serve, routine, section, create, talking, tasks, day, boring, pretty, ready, bed, similar, edm, wake, kids SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there successful mama. Welcome back. We are in module five of time management mastery for ADHD moms where we're creating common competence by building rhythms into our day. So, welcome, glad you're back with me here. Just a few reminders, turn off, anything that's gonna distract you, and we're doing great are going to get through all of it. Don't stress. Okay? Patricia Sung 00:24 Okay, so here's where we are. So far, we went through our preparation modules of talking about our motivation, the framework, overcoming your obstacles. And now we're in the doing, we set up our anchors last time, then we right now are in building upon our anchors. And then next week, we'll talk about putting in between anchors. Patricia Sung 00:43 So when you think about how your day flows, you've set up your anchors as like the different sections of the day. And now we're talking about how we're utilizing those dividers, if you will, the anchors to put some systems in place. And then next week, we'll talk about what goes in between the anchor. So we're going to put it all together between this module and next module together. Patricia Sung 01:05 Okay. So, here we are, we're getting in to the nitty gritty this week with building upon your anchors. So when we think about our day, remember, we're talking about those repeating tasks and new tasks, everything in our day is either new, or it's something we do a lot. Now, there's, like good parts to each one. And there's also struggled parts to each one.
2. Patricia Sung 01:36 So when we look at the repeating tasks, these are things that we do frequently, and we have experience with them. So that we can use to our advantage, we know what to do. But of course, the more that we've done something, the more likely it becomes something that is boring or not as interesting or not excited about. But we can turn around and use that experience to create a system for ease for things to be done efficiently to make your life easier. And that means that we can do these things that are possibly boring in a faster way, we can use less of our brain energy and our decision making capability to do them because we can set up a system and put them into like an autopilot manner, so that it's not using all that brainpower, we just know what we need to do, because we've created the way that makes the most sense for us. Patricia Sung 02:27 Now on the new tasks, these are novel and exciting and you know, are more likely to be motivated about them. But that means that of course, we have less experience with them, which means it might take us more time to do them. But this is what keeps life fun and enjoyable. And we can buffer around in knowing that something might not be as quick is it's going to take us longer than we think because we're not very good judges of time. But we can also really enjoy those things. And this is the, you know, a lot of the good stuff of you know, taking our kids to do fun things and you know, the good stuff of life, right that we are new and interesting. Patricia Sung 03:08 So both of these things bring value to our day. And we're going to use both benefits to our advantage. So we're Yeah, sure it could be more boring, but like, we're gonna use that and make things easier, faster, less work for us. And here, things might be a little more of a struggle, because we don't know how to get them done right away, or we don't have that experience to pull from. But this is the fun in the novel stuff. So we're gonna use both of these contexts to our advantage when we're planning our day. Patricia Sung 03:43 So when we look at the, the drawing that I had from earlier in the, in the class, when we look at our day, all of our items are comprised of those repeatable and new tasks. And we're going to start with the repeatable ones, the things that are new, that's what we're talking about in the next module. But our goal is to lighten our mental load with a plan that serves you. So how can we make all the stuff that we have to get done the lame, boring things like washing dishes and laundry and all that stuff? How do we get them done? Easier, with less thinking that through doing it through a rhythm and a routine? Patricia Sung 04:32 So let's look at this example here. We're all gonna wake up, right? That's our first anchor of the
3. So let's look at this example here. We're all gonna wake up, right? That's our first anchor of the day, we wake up and then as we're moving through the day, you know, say here you're at, depending on how early you're up with your kiddos, maybe six, seven EDM, and you're working your way through getting everyone up and dressed and ready for the day and you hit anchor number one, where I'm just going to go with this first example to make it simple. We have breakfast And then we're ready to go for the day, right? Patricia Sung 05:02 When we look at, like what happens between waking up and eating breakfast and getting ready for the day, this section here is pretty like repeatable. We're not doing a, like a hugely drastic different thing. On any given day, from when we wake up to everyone else, like everyone's getting dressed, everyone's eating food, hopefully, hopefully we brush some teeth like, these things are pretty similar. There's not a huge variation here. So we can create a rhythm that takes place in this section. Because it's a repeatable thing. Because it's something we do all the time. Because you probably have already some kind of rhythm or routine that happens in the morning. Patricia Sung 05:49 It might just be like your routine of yelling at a lot of people and being grumpy and I can't ever find the shoes. How does one kid always lose a shoe? I don't know. But they lose it every day. That is still a routine even though it's when we don't want Okay, so we're going to try to optimize this to be working for us. How is it serving you instead of feeling like crazy person every morning? Alright, then once we get ready for the day, this is that section that's probably going to be different. Patricia Sung 06:21 So for some people, that's homeschooling for some people, it's going to work for some people that's going on a playdate. For some of us it's working from home. It's gonna be different for everyone in that section there what happens between we're ready to go and your midday anchor, which is in this case lunch. Then again, this section here, from lunch to dinner is another probably more different kind of time. Now. That might be like work, it might be running errands, it might be, you know, home school, it might be nap time. In that case, this section of your day looks very similar again, because nap times the same every day, right. Patricia Sung 07:02 So we can use that to our advantage using that if your section of day here is naptime. And that's repeatable, you can create a routine in a rhythm around that, because it's similar every day, then we hit dinnertime. And when you have younger kids, generally speaking, the rest of the day is going to be again, a repeatable thing. Like when once you pick your kid up from school, you you know are doing homework, and, and maybe an extracurricular activity might change.
4. Patricia Sung 07:36 But like getting dinner ready, getting everybody to do their homework, getting ready for bed, bath time, all that bedtime, like that's a pretty repeatable process. So for most parents, this section here is again going to be a repeatable time. And then you have from the kids going to bed to you going to bed. Excuse me. Again, if you have small kids, that's probably also repeatable time, because once your kids in bed, you can't leave, right. Patricia Sung 08:04 So that might look like you're going around and packing lunches for the next day, it might look like you flopping down on the couch and binge watching Netflix for two hours. It might be you falling asleep on the couch and then crawl into your bed and thinking man, I should have watched my makeup off. But I didn't. That might be your routine at this point. And that's okay, we're going to we're going to adapt it slowly to make it something that serves you instead of you kicking yourself and being like, Oh, why did I do that again? Right? So what we want to look at in this module are all of these repetitive things that are happening every day? And how are we going to modify them to serve you? How do we make them work for you? We're going to deal with the things that are changing, you know, this block, maybe this book, next module? How do we take those things that make everyday similar? How do we make them serve you? We're gonna pause there for just a sec and I'll see you in the next video.