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1. 5-3 Daily Responsibilities - TMM Module 5 Mon, 3/21 9:22PM 8:29 SUMMARY KEYWORDS tasks, puzzle, pieces, kitchen, rough draft, write, fit, day, put, lunch, wishful thinking, dump, puzzle piece, transcribe, coming, weekly, morning, location, anchors, easier SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there, successful mama. Welcome back to Module Five. And we are building upon or anchors. Now, I am about to ask you to dump the puzzle out. Patricia Sung 00:09 What does that mean? We're about to like, open the puzzle and dump it upside down and all the pieces are going to be spread everywhere. And you look at this 1000 piece puzzle and you're like, Where do I even start like this is too much? What the heck, this is what we're about to do. Patricia Sung 00:26 Okay, so I'm preparing you. We're about to dump the puzzle out. When you think about your day, I want you to think of every task that you do as a puzzle piece. So when you jump out the bus puzzle box, and you see 1000 pieces, it's because you're a mom, and you do 1000 things in a day. Really, you do all this stuff, like, it should feel really overwhelming when I say, I want you to think about all the things you did today, and write them all down and be like, Whoa, I don't even know how I did all that. Or you're saying, I don't think I did anything today I don't I feel like I did nothing. Like it was such a blur. I can't even tell you what I did today. Yes, this is where we are okay. I want you to think of every task that you do as a puzzle piece. Now, the good news is that in the puzzle of your day, there's not just one piece that goes in one place. Patricia Sung 01:23 Whereas like if you're doing a real puzzle, like this piece only fits in one spot, right? You can make the puzzle of your day look like whatever you want it to it can be, there can be more brain power use in the morning versus the afternoon you can you can make it fit whatever phase of life you are in. So there's not one right answer of where this is going to go. There's
2. probably going to be places where things fit better. And we're going to look for those ways that it fits better. But there's not just one way to do this. So there is no right answer for how you can set up your day and what's going to make sense and feel good for where you are in this stage of life. But know that the first two pieces are the most difficult when you're looking at that big pile, and they're all different. And you're like I don't see how this is coming together at all right? And you have all these options. And they the pieces only match up a certain way. And you're like, how do I start? Patricia Sung 02:16 That first too is like the most overwhelming because there's so many combinations that you can choose from. But I want you to know that like, as we start to put things together and we start setting pieces in place, the easier it becomes because you're going to get better at it, you're going to understand it better, it's going to make more sense, things are going to start flowing. So this part is the most difficult, right? The beginning when we start trying to figure out how is this gonna look? How is this gonna fit together? Like this should feel hard? If it doesn't, I'm like, wow, bravo, I'm excited for you. Patricia Sung 02:48 But most of us are going to be like, Oh, this is hard. And it is like, I just want to validate that feeling. This is hard. And we're gonna get through it. Okay, we're gonna get there. And the reason we get rigor there is because we're gonna do one thing at a time. Little by little, we're going to get there. This is a process that will take us time, but we will get through it. Okay. What I want you to do is write down for me all the things you do in a day. Patricia Sung 03:22 I know it's a lot, right? Think about all the things that you do every day. Now, I want you to take a moment and set aside, I don't want you to think about things that you do weekly. Like, once a week, I pack soccer bags, like if you want to like write those down, just put them to the side. But right now I want you to just look at the things that you do every day. The things that like literally happen every day. And I don't want you to include any like wishful thinking like this is not to have a big Well, I really wish I went to the gym or I really wish I spent time reading my like funbook or I really wish no we're not. We're not dealing with wishful thinking we're doing that. We will do that later. Patricia Sung 03:59 Okay, again, save those off to the side. If it makes you feel better. We'll write it down now. But right now, I want you to truly write down like what are you doing every day without fail. So this is things like everyday, we have to deal with dishes. Every day, we have to deal with packing lunches or making lunches every day, we probably argue with somebody about coming here. Patricia Sung 04:20
3. Patricia Sung 04:20 Okay, the things that you do every day. Now you can add more stuff later. So just your jump out as many things as your brain can think of at one point, you can write them on paper, you can write them on, like on your phone on a note, it doesn't matter to me how you write it, but I do want you to write it down because you are going to refer back so even if you're doing like a transcribe app on your phone and talking, make sure that it just like transcribes for you so that you have an actual list to refer back to. So you can add more things later. Like this isn't the end all be all, but I want you to write down everything that you do in a day and try not to panic because when I did this exercise for my business fellow panicky I'm not gonna lie. Patricia Sung 04:58 I'm like, wow, I do all of this stuff. How do I do all this stuff? And you start to see like the things that you're not doing, and you get a little panicky, because you're like, Well, I really shouldn't be doing this. It's okay, we're gonna get there. Right now, we're not worrying about the shoulds and adjusts, and all that stuff like, we can only do a little bit at a time, we, we can't change your whole life in the next five minutes, or the next day, we will get there. Right now we're doing one thing. Patricia Sung 05:27 All right. Part two of this activity is that once you have gotten all this information out, I want you to start to sort them and you're grouping the like tasks together. You This is the filter I want you to use when you're thinking about it, first by location. So things because I want you to think forward of like, things that have to be in in the kitchen, we're going to do when we're already in the kitchen for something else, we're not going to make a point to like circle back to the kitchen later if we don't have to. So we're going to start by trying to clump them together by location. So all the things that happen in the kitchen, you know, if your laundry rooms near the kitchen, you can put those tasks nearby that you know, getting the kids ready in the morning, or like bathroom tasks. put those all together. And then secondarily, by timing, so if something has to happen in the morning, like, you know, putting shoes on and, you know, putting back back together, if you do that in the morning, clump those together and tests that go in the morning, if that's something that you prep at night, put it in the group at night. Patricia Sung 06:33 So this is your like, general goal is to group the tasks by location. Because that'll be easier when you're trying to sort where they go on anchors of like, if this is a kitchen task, I'll put it when I'm already in the kitchen timing, I need to go certain part of my day. And this first sort is just a rough draft, there's going to be some that don't fit in any other categories, there's going to be some that you're like, I don't know what I should do this, that's fine. This is just a rough sort. Because, again, we're going to tackle them one at a time. And we're going to pick the easy things first. Patricia Sung 07:06 So, you know, we're gonna start with the obvious things till we gain our competence. And then
4. as you see your day coming together, those other things that now seem kind of confusing, will start to fall into place because you had the experience to draw from. So rough draft, sort of these things, and we're going to make changes later you might decide that you these things in the kitchen made sense to do at lunch, and then you realize, like, oh, I put too many things at lunch, like I need to move this around. So this is not set in stone. Patricia Sung 07:36 Okay. So this is your activity, just in a summary. You're going to have this post in there to brainstorm everything that you do in a day, dump it out, we're going to reference it so make sure it's on paper or computer. Ask yourself what are the things you do every day. If you find your brain thinking of things that you do frequently, like weekly or monthly, jot them off on a different side list so that you can have them for later because we are going to go back to that later on. Patricia Sung 08:02 Just think of as many as you can. You can add more later. As you go about the week. I'm sure you'll notice things that you do and be like, Ooh, I need to add that on my list. And then start to sort them by location and timing. Not all of them will fit in a certain group, you'll have outliers It's okay. And and if you are up for posting it in the group, post it under your daily responsibilities, store it and then plan for when you watch next video.