Preoccupied for Attachment Style

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1. ATTACHMENT STYLE & INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP
2. Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style ◦ Desperate to form a fantasy bond. ◦ Instead of feeling real love or trust toward their partner, they often feel emotional hunger. ◦ Frequently looking to their partner to rescue or complete them. ◦ Although they’re seeking a sense of safety and security by clinging to their partner, they take actions that push their partner away.
3. Anxious /Ambivalent Attachment Style ◦ Anxious because they can never predict when and how their care givers will respond to their needs ◦ These children display considerable distress when separated from a parent or caregiver ◦ but do not seem reassured or comforted by the return of the parent. ◦ May be wary of strangers ◦ Become greatly distressed when parents leave ◦ Do not appear comforted when parents return
4. How Attachment Style Impacts Relationship? Ainsworth’s Attachment Theory As adults those with Ambivalent Attachment Style often :- ◦ Worry that their partner does not love them ◦ Worry that their partner does not reciprocate their feelings. ◦ Seek closeness to others ◦ But, experience mixed, conflicting feelings even when they are in loving relationship. ◦ Clingy and over-dependent.
5. How Attachment Style Impacts Relationship? Bartholomew’s Attachment Styles Those with Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Styles ◦ Inclined to feel more nervous and less secure about relationships in general, and romantic relationships in particular ◦ Concerned with what others feel about them. ◦ Dependent on others for feelings of validation and approval ◦ Want excessive intimacy and are often overly involved and clingy when it comes to relationship ◦ When they feel unsure of their partner’s feelings and unsafe in their relationship, they often become clingy, demanding or possessive toward their partner.