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1. 2-2 Your Day as Music - TMM Module 2 Sun, 3/20 11:24PM 6:38 SUMMARY KEYWORDS music, reset, routine, section, conductor, enhances, activity, lives, creating, working, bedtime, juggling, day, swing dancing, module, keeping, happen, pattern, feel, generally SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Welcome back, we're in module two, the framework to our day. Our goal is to create beautiful music for our day. Patricia Sung 00:07 Now you can see the picture here is of a conductor with a huge orchestra. And you can see there's at least 30-40 people that the conductor is trying to keep all together, which can feel like our crazy day, right? We are juggling so many things, so many people, all the things are doing different jobs, and it can feel very overwhelming. Patricia Sung 00:27 This is actually one of my favorite ADHD analogies. I think it's from Dr. Brown, where our ADHD and our executive functioning is like, our conductor just isn't doing that great of a job keeping up with all the sections like while our woodwind section might be fabulous, and our drum section might be great. Our conductor is having trouble keeping everyone in time, right. So we struggle trying to keep everything together and keep all the balls in the air. And part of what we're going to discuss is what are the balls that we shouldn't be juggling, and one of them that, you know, we can let go and we'll crash and be quite alright without, that's for another module. Patricia Sung 01:06 So for today, we're specifically looking at this analogy of the music in, when we have great music in the background, it really adds to like a movie or to our lives, bad music is painful to listen to. But great music makes everything a little bit better. We're going to be dividing our day into sections. And it's sort of like in a song when you have your introduction. And then generally speaking, you follow the pattern of verse chorus, verse, chorus, verse, and then the ending. I know we can get more complicated in that, but we'll keep it simple for our analogy.
2. Patricia Sung 01:43 We're creating the sections to our day, so that we have almost like buckets or puzzle pieces that all go together. And that we can maneuver all the pieces around that if something's not going right, I can pull a piece out and put a new piece in and adjust or I can move forward to the next section. If one section is just a total hot mess, I can jump forward and reset at that next section, right, so we're creating this, these sections to our day. And we're following kind of that pattern of a of a song. Patricia Sung 02:17 And so where you can see, I've got two charts here, the first one is just a very super basic, like waited a day might run where we start up with we wake up and get ready, we have some kind of activity, then we eat lunch, we have some other kind of activity, we dinner, we have some other kind of activity, and then we go to bed, because pretty much the rhythm of our day, right? Patricia Sung 02:41 Now, the way this will look when the way that we're planning our day is that we start out with a routine when we wake up and get ready, generally speaking, the same kind of things need to happen. So that's going to look fairly similar each day. Because every day you're waking up every day, you're hopefully eating some kind of breakfast. Hopefully we're brushing our teeth. That's kind of a thing we're not so good at, but it's okay. Like that those tasks that happen in the morning generally going to happen every morning. Patricia Sung 03:07 You know, when we're getting your kids ready for school, they need the same things to happen before they leave, right. Then after everybody's ready, we live our lives, we're doing something there, maybe that's working, maybe that's homeschooling, maybe that's working from home, maybe that's going to a playdate, some kind of activity happens. And then we reset with some kind of commonality in this case, my example is lunch. So we have a reset point. We have a routines built around that. Patricia Sung 03:36 And then again, we live life in the afternoon, we continue working or we do more homeschool, or we go to the park, or we're working from home like those same kind of activities are happening in that time. Patricia Sung 03:49 And then again, when a reset perhaps that's with dinner. In the evening, we're resetting and
3. And then again, when a reset perhaps that's with dinner. In the evening, we're resetting and maybe you're doing school time, little homework, maybe you're doing extracurricular activities, maybe that's family time. Patricia Sung 04:02 And then at bedtime, we're coming together again and resetting. And again, when you're a mom bedtime generally looks pretty similar. The same things are happening. PJ's are being put on clothes being picked out the next day. All those things that we're doing at the end of the day, are a fairly similar theme, if you will. Patricia Sung 04:24 Now, when we're thinking about that enjoyable music, where do we see the benefits, it's something that's repeatable. So music has that repeating tendency, and that's where we gain comfort. So we feel more comfortable with that music, especially when we know you know what's coming next. It feels predictable. Usually we know what that next set of sounds is going to feel like. And music also keeps going. So this is really what catches us up and trips us up. And we're going to talk about that a little more in depth in a bit here. That the music keeps going It keeps moving forward. So we, we can struggle there we get off track. Patricia Sung 05:08 But when it's good music, that movement forward is good for us. Now, our music also has to match us, it can't be music that doesn't make sense for us. Like, if you're really into like swing dancing and someone's playing hard rock, like that's going to feel awkward to you, right? So your routine needs to make sense for you. Your music needs to feel good for you in your day and your family, and it really enhances the scene. Patricia Sung 05:41 When you think about in a movie, when they have the background music going, it really enhances what's happening in the movie and you don't even notice it, per say. It's there. And if somebody asked you was there music, you probably know Yes, yes or no, there was music, but it kind of feeds into the background, right? It's not the center of attention. So that music is creating ambience for your day. It's moving it along, and that feels good. So it's it's not meant to be the star of the show. Patricia Sung 06:13 And the same thing with our routines are routine should do all of these things. They repeat, they feel comfortable, they're predictable. They keep us going. They match us but they enhance the scene. That means that they're not necessarily boring. They're not dragging us down and they're not creating a weight on us, right. They should be making our lives better.
4. Patricia Sung 06:32 Okay, we're gonna pause there. Come back in a minute.