TMM_Module_4-1

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1. 4-1 Set Your Anchors - TMM Module 4 Mon, 3/21 9:09PM 6:47 SUMMARY KEYWORDS module, work, rhythm, schedule, foundational, hope, set, disclaimer, naptime, figure, draft, brain, kids, foundation, obstacles, anchors, day, house, reminder, build SPEAKERS Patricia Sung Patricia Sung 00:00 Hey there successful mama. Welcome back to Module Four of Time Management Mastery for ADHD moms. We are creating calm and competence indoor a days by building up our rhythms. Now, before we jump in to module four, reminder to turn off any distractions you might have, and we're doing great. We're gonna figure this out. Patricia Sung 00:23 What are we done so far, we started out talking about our motivation framework, overcoming our obstacles, because that's our foundation layer of preparing for what we're doing. Now we're getting into the nitty gritty, this is like the details of like figuring out how does this work for you what makes sense for your life, your family, the season of life that you're in. Once we set all of those anchors up, we'll build upon them, and then we will figure out what goes in between them, we'll have a full rhythm set out for your day. Patricia Sung 00:53 Now, this is the set your anchors module, but it also includes choosing how long we want that chain link to be for our anchors. And after and a little disclaimer here, I am giving you the big picture in this module of how we're setting up the day. But we are not doing all of these things right now. It is not possible to implement everything at the same time, we might want to and we're like, Okay, ready, like this is gonna be great. And I'm gonna wake up tomorrow and be a person who has like a whole routine all day, it's gonna be amazing. And then we like peter out at like, 10am, we're like, I'm so tired, and our brain is worn out because we're trying to do so much that's new. And we feel like we're failures. And then we're like, why am I even doing this and it all goes to poopoo, right? Patricia Sung 01:45
2. So we're not going to do, but there's a good chance you're gonna grow my waist. Um, you may fall apart and curse my name a little bit, but we'll pull it back together. And we'll try again. Because we're, we're our goal is to take these little pieces and put them into place. And when we feel good about them build on with another little piece, and we're slowly going to change the way we do things to make it less and less work for you less and less mental load. We can only do that a piece at a time for it to stick otherwise, our brain boycotts. And it's like, please stop this too much, right? Just like when I tell you that you probably can't do all this at one time, you're like getting stuck what to do, at some point, our brains like you can't tell me what to do. It's too much, right? So we want to take you down to little pieces, and we're going to implement them slowly. Patricia Sung 02:33 So this is something that we're going to be working on for a while. That's a good thing, because then it sticks. When we become a person who has a rhythm to our day. And we adopted into like who we are and what we do, then a six instead of just magic fairy wanting and hoping for the best tomorrow. If we were disclaimers, this rhythm that we are setting up for your day is a rough draft, it is a first draft, this should not be perfect. It can't be and it won't be. It's going to change as we figure out what works. Patricia Sung 03:11 Also, like even we look long term, it's going to change because your kids are going to grow and schedules change and school schedules and all everything's changing, right? So whatever we create today is not like the end all be all of rhythms. Okay, this is our first draft. We need those errors in trying things out and seeing what doesn't work. In order for us to figure out what does work. There's no way for us to know what works for our family until we've actually tried it and been like, Ooh, that was not a good plan, need to revamp that one? Or like, Okay, I think that worked. How can I replicate that in other areas. So this is a process we have to mess up in order to get to a good solution. At the end, it won't be the perfect solution. But to get to a pretty good place. Patricia Sung 03:58 It's a process and it's going to take us screwing things up. We're just gonna break it up. Set a little hearts there that it's okay. This is to be expected. That's my reminder. Take my medicine. Okay, I did that I took this video here. Okay. Foundational schedules. Oh, let me in the middle of talking head here. Okay. What we are working on for our first activity in this module is our foundational schedule. Our fan foundational schedule is writing down like our foundation of the day. So we think about so far all we've done is like, plan what we're doing. And now we're setting the foundation. Patricia Sung 04:34 If you think about when you build a house, when you like set out to build a house. There's a lot of prep work that goes in and that's why we spent the last three modules prepping and getting ready because you need to think about like, Well how many bedrooms do I want my house and
3. ready because you need to think about like, Well how many bedrooms do I want my house and what do I look like What style do I want? And you're thinking about like the big picture, then you're thinking about all the obstacles you're gonna overcome like, Oh, like this grounds kind of won't be we're gonna have to flatten it out or oil it rains a lot here. Need some extra drainage, preparing for those obstacles so that when you put the house in, everything is ready to go and makes sense. So now we're setting that foundation in place. Patricia Sung 05:12 So what is the foundational schedule? It is a place for you to write down everything that you do at that occurs like a regular time. But I don't want to say consistently because we're not very consistent, like things that happen regularly. So this is not wishful thinking. This is not what I hope to do. Like we're not goal setting here. This has nothing to do with what we want to do in the future. This is what you're doing right now. Things like the times that your kids are going to school, what time you have to be at work, what time is nap time, extracurriculars. Patricia Sung 05:53 Like your swim lessons or you know, soccer practice things with their family, like if you have you know, if your kids have to go to another parents house, or you know, you visit grandma, every Sunday, whatever. Those are the things that happen at a specific time, every day or every week, they go on this foundational schedule. One question I always get is, what about my sleep? It's not regular. Okay? If it's not regular, you don't have to sleep time on there. And you can put like a rough estimate. And if you're not sure, about what time this thing happens, for example, naptime with kids, like yes, you hope they go down at a certain time. Well, they don't always just do your best guess. Again, this is a first draft it does not need to be perfect. So what does this look like? I'm gonna pause there and in her next video, we're gonna look at what is the foundational schedule I'm gonna show you an example.